Okay so I definitely feel like an AFC right now. Yesterday night I did the most epic fail ever on an opening and I was trying to get around this problem but it just didn't work. So the question I pose for you guys is how do you combat small talk? Because the conversation ended quickly.

I had my opening and I knew what question I could ask this person and then I got scared, gotta love that self doubt you know?

SO! I walk back into Walgreens (where she works) and I asked her my opening because I was with my friends and their son.

Me: Hey, I wanted to ask your opinion of something. My friend Amanda hates Marvel superheroes and I'm trying to get her son into them. So I wanted to ask you which marvel hero should she go with Spiderman, Wolverine, Venom, Captain America, or Ironman?

HB 8: I would go with wolverine because he's the oldest and the coolest one.

Me: Really? Ew, you're into older men! (Failed neg in my opinion).

HB 8: No it's Huge Jackman and he's hot!

Me: No you have to go with Ironman he's the coolest.

She walks up to the front of Walgreens at this point and she goes behind the counter. I follow her to the front trying to continue the conversation.

Me: Hmm...

Me: Well let me ask you one last question, she's not into those Marvel Hero things I think she would get mad.

HB 8: Why would she get mad they're awesome.

Silence....awkward silence

Me: Hmm...

HB 8 walks back to the Aisle she was at before and I'm kind of left there. I didn't know what to do at that point I couldn't believe that I had actually talked to her and just for it to crash and burn.

That was the highlight of my night learning that the one thing I now know about her is that she thinks Hugh Jackman is hot lol. I laugh in spite of the fact that that sucked I get I'm going to fail and that's something I have to accept. But what could I do to prevent this or what could I do to possibly save this one?

The awkward silence doesn't ave to be a bad thing, just stare at her in the eyes, and keep silent, she's the one that just finished talking, so put the pressure on her to make it easier for you to respond, if she gives you a short crappy reply, then don't say anything back, she deserves the awkwardness since she could prevent it by talking more.

Ok, here's what's up:

*AA is something that will virtually disappear with experience, keep it up and you'll get past it.

*The older man neg is golden there, if delivered properly!

*If she had enough time to walk back behind her register, you had enough time to get her off the subject of marvel, which was your opener. The conversation has to progress, or you will exhaust all interesting points of it. Instead of trying to keep the convo going, let her try, just like the above poster said. The 2nd time there's the beginnings of a silence, change gears, amp it up, and try a DHV story or game.

I've personally worked for walgreens for 3 years during high school. I was dying to do anything interesting, and she would've been too. So, from there, DHV, # close, talk for a few more minutes, then pop smoke. Hope this helps!

-Ruggedized

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Thanks guys. I'll try that out from last time I decided to change my appearance a little bit because apparently I looked like a hippy. (My hair wasn't that long!) Anyway, I don't think she'll remember me so hopefully the advice you guys gave will work.

depending on his age you should have given an answer...go into something like

"well over the summer I took him to disneyland (or disneyworld, whichever is closest to you) and he just goes crazy over mickey mouse and goofy and all those disney characters.

her: blah blah blah

you: yeah I was fortunate enough to start chatting with this girl while we were getting something to eat and we exchanged numbers and she just so happened to be friends with this guy who plays woody at the amusement park


her: blah blah blah


This will DHV and give you social proof...you show you're a good friend, and you can get girls interest easily. It will also build rapport with the cashier.




I wouldn't take it too hard, by the way. My favorite quote I believe was said by Ross Jeffries

"There is no such thing as failure, only learning experiences"