for the past couple of months, this girl (well call her Clara) has started talking with me a whole bunch. all of my friends are now telling me that shes totally inot me and tht i should go get her but im getting signals that shes not into me at all...

So heres the background. It started in september, and i really hadnt talked to her almost ever before that. We went to a big house party where apparently she was trying to get one of my really good friends. she said he was super hot and whatnot just like most girls do,then again most girls think that im as goodlooking as him but idk. so i was pressuring her all night hitting on her, flirting with her, and making fun of her for trying to go for my friend. i wasnt trying to pick her up at this point, i just thought it was funny. I did a little routine where we take drunk selfies so that we can look at how bad they are tomorrow and have something to get things going the next day. She continuosly came up to me throughout the night to talk to me about things other then my friend.

From then on things were quite bizarre between her and I. She calls me at least twice a week to talk now and at school she kinda hangs off of me and comes and gives me hugs all the time.

A week after the first party there was a second party. i didn't really talk to her all that much, but at the end of the night she like booked it up to me, convinced me to not hook up with one of her friends who's an HB7, and then gave me like the biggest hug everrrrrr. So im still trying to play it cool and act like i really don't care that much. I show her that im busy and cant be spending all my time with her cause i have TONS of other friends or girls or whatnot...ya know just a little DHV. then i leave with my friends. She shouts a nickname at me then runs away laughing a little.

During the next weeks she always asks me out to lunch with her. She is alwasy the one initiating the conversation. Except now she usually talks about other guys she's trying to pick up... i usually take this as a sh1t test. she talks about these guys but she never actually really talks to them, or when she does, she hits on them a little or teases them then comes back to me and flirts with me more. its really confusing to me. is she trying to DHV to me? I have no clue.

This girl seems to me like shes very insecure. Ive stopped talking to her about her guy issues, as a Freeze Out, and she still talks to me all the time. I still rarely initiate. she also always asks me if people talk about her and what they say about her. Carla has issues with lots of people it seems. I also feel like her asking me that is a sh1t test. Anyone wanna help me pass?

So very recently theres been a large rumour at school going around saying that her and i are having a thing. She kinda laughed about it a little, but she deny's it. I really need some advice guys. Do i go for her? and How do i get a girl like this?

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Just tryin to get me some honeys

Have you ever shower her, or made any kind of action that you're sexually attracted to her?

not really, im not really too sure how too. I mean i flirt with her all the time but never really tried to kiss her or anything

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Just tryin to get me some honeys

What the fuck bro,

just kiss her already.She shows all the signs of wanting you for fucks sake.

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When you realize that rejection doesn`t mean shit you`ll try to find a way how to kick your own ass for being an idiot.

You are pretty young and inexperienced since you are in school.

Don't over think this. You are correct to try to play it a little cool and not to show too much joy and satisfaction every time she flirts with you. However, the fundamental problem with playing it cool is that doing so is a form in INACTION and what you want is ACTION. Don't do what you see in movies and hip hop videos where the guy is always just posing and playing it cool and not doing anything. That works in videos because the girls are just props and it shows the guy as being high value. In real life, playing it too cool just makes you unfriendly and antisocial. The times you really need to play it cool are when she is shit testing you, giving you BS drama, or trying to get you to profess your interest or love to her. NOT when she if flirting with you.

When she talks about flirting with other guys, she is just shit testing you and trying to elevate her value by implying she is disinterested in you.

When she asks what other people say about her, this is not a shit test. She is just paranoid.

You have to act soon or else she will lose interest in you. She has shown a TON of interest in you. She has probably also done a lot of more subtle things you haven't even noticed. The way things work between men and women, if you fail to act, the woman will count it against you and think you were too lame to get her. Forget about the politically correct equality BS they have brain washed you with. That's the real way things work.

The next time you get the chance, amp up the flirting and be holding her hand or holding her body. Bring your head close to hers. Wait a few seconds (no more) and if she doesn't move her head away, kiss her. If you can, isolate and push for sex (not with talking, just with your actions). She may resist but that's fine. Persist. If she turns cold, you're out and you have to stop. You may not be able to score but it's essential that the one who stops the interaction is her, not you. If you stop prematurely, it counts against you. Afterwards, be sure you're not too lovey-dovey or else she will lost interest.

Holy shit man, thank you so much for this. It's been a problem area for me.

not initiating and playing it cool is overrated, there must be a balance where you are seeking her and she is initiating with you. No one like to be the one who organizes everything all the time, you gotta let her know of your interest to be with her and talk to her as well.

so like driftwood said you must escalate sexually verbally and physically in order to take it to the next level, be aggressive with her since you already know there is attraction between you two. (aggressive in terms of kino) take her hand actively but subconsciously, stuff like that. Once kino is established the road ahead is bright my friend.

Gotta do it soon as well rumours in school, once she starts denying it enough she will actually believe it. Who likes a guy thats not gonna step up to rumours and prove them false? or true in this case

gl, hope i helped