Put it this way-hook up with one of the guys on here and make him jealous

It may be hard to believe, but that's usually what I'd do naturally. But with this guy, he was so seductive, it was very difficult to say no. But I own that a part of me didn't want to, clearly, or I would have. But I will look up that book for sure.
Ok, I'll try the "hit and run" thing...what will that do though? Just curious... And definitely, if I get the chance to hang out with him again, there will be several public hang outs and even if we're on our later, I will hold out for a while.

I do know of push-pull, but I have a hard time implementing it. I'm naturally very accommodating and nice, so it's hard for me to play games like that. But I'm sure there's a way to blend into my nature so I don't feel phoney pulling it off.
Ok, I was wondering how to get into that section. I'll ask for it to be unlocked. And I'll definitely be in the chat room. Thanks so much Txacoli!

@cameroon85 Nice try.

I've been watching the featured video of Gambler's PUA training. It makes me wanna email it to the guy, saying "Wow, it's like someone recorded that Sunday night!" I don't intend on it, but wow! It wouldn't be so bad if I was confident of the guy's intentions...hopefully that comes out sooner rather than later.

The hit and run won't do anything special, it's just an opportunity to tease him, call out his bs and show you're on to his game and won't be played easily. That should at least intrigue him
The push pull thing, it's hard for me too. I'm honest, straightforward and nice by nature LOL, but it does work when done right, I'm also trying to do it more often.

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I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

Hi Maya,

I did not read this entire thread but I just wanted to say that I recently encountered (and surrendered to) a PUA (or if not a PUA then at least a very charming guy) and he never contacted me back. I have a lot of experience seducing and being seduced by men, and all I can tell you is that if you agree to sleep with a man without having first established that he indeed wants a long-term relationship, never expect a call back or continued communication. It doesn't matter how much you feel you connected. A really good PUA creates the feeling of connection, even if he doesn't have any long-term intentions. You can always try asking what his intentions are, however by default I just assume everyone is in it for the short-term.

Anyway I'm sorry that you feel cheated now but try not to think of it as that you got "used". Just think of it as a misunderstanding. It happens all the time and best not to feel bad about it.

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Well said, if more women thought this way, it would save them a lot of sleepness nights clutching their cell phones in hope waiting for a call that would never come.

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Thanks roastporkbun. My mindset about it changes daily and it's bothering me less and less. I'm sure I will start thinking that way Kieran, it just takes time and experience...toughening of the skin if you will.

Well you don't want to toughen up too much Maya a lot of guys appreciate a sweet girl but I think you could stand to improve your street smarts in the dating world.

My advice to you Maya, don't talk to men about it, 'a deer doesn't teach a hunter how to better kill it' talk to women who have extensive dating experience find out how they deal with this kind of thing.

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Haha, so true!