Well basically...

Lots of drama and issues happened between me and one of my best friends, and it will be ongoing for a while. It has put me in a depression, so I don't think I'll have the same flame when gaming.

At the same time, I'm in c1 (early comfort) with a girl I like. We chat a lot but I feel I'm a bit too available right now.

So to kill two birds with one stone, my plan is that I tomorrow just write to her "[name]... I really need a hug and kiss right now."

If she wonders why, I'll just continue with "Shit's happening. Just give me a hug and kiss."

If she gives a good response, I'll avoid answering and just leave it be for the rest of the day.

And I've got plenty of social proof. But what do you guys think?

There is this maternal instinct in women and a need to save someone, so this is the card you're playing, I'm just not sure to which extent can it go without being needy. Anyways, maybe avoid words like "need" - I need a hug. Instead say, come give me a hug, I wanna feel your good energy. Don't get into an ego trip talking about your problems, you can share a short story and thank her for listening, then change the subject to something more lighthearted or if the conversation carries you into talking about some "deep" stuff, that's fine, just don't talk about you for too long. And be careful not to get buried too deep in the comfort stage, try turning it sexual towards the end. Idk if this makes sense to you?

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rAFC and yes, I'm a chick.

I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

Btw, forgot to write this, don't do it over text! Get together with her and then do it live, text is no good. She has to able to hug you in person, and you have to escalate, so text is a dead end, you can't build the momentum.

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rAFC and yes, I'm a chick.

I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

Of course it makes sense. The problem is, we're living in different cities and won't meet before next month (a huge time gap I know, I want to meet her asap so I can escalate).

Maybe I should just focus on the girls I meet, and become less available to her for the time being?

Honestly I don't know. One thing I did notice though, things seems to die when you don't see each other for a while. So your idea is probably the best thing you can do. You could still game her online, but make it more sexual, try to get her to send a sexy pic etc. Build up sexual tension before you meet, make her anticipate your encounter, make her invest something (pic exchange is a great start).

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rAFC and yes, I'm a chick.

I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

I suck at this stuff, but I personally have decades of experience with your exact question.

No. Don't do it. Period.

Making a woman feel sorry for you will not get you laid or get you a girlfriend. You will buy a one way ticket to the friends zone at mach speeds.

I know because I did the exact same thing you are suggesting. I also have had depression for over a decade.

Attract her the normal way, and not by making her feel sorry for your weaknesses.

Well I did write that I would give her a kiss (did not specify what kind) the next time we meet - and I did it in a very random but funny way. She reacted with lots of "HAHAHAHA why?" kinds of answers, but slinked in an "okaaay xD" somewhere in the middle. She's very shy in real life, but didn't say no, so I take that as a good response!
You're right. Though I know it's possible, since I have a friend who's insanely good with women, it's a risky road.

And the depression is disappearing now anyways. I've made plans with my best buddies and good looking girls, and I'm getting somewhere with my band - having a great life sure is essential for good inner game!