At this point is not playing game, he already achieve his goal.

Its only in your head has nothing to do with him being a PUA and gaming you he stopped doing that the minute you had sex with him, you are probably feeling bad for opening your legs to him and he just walking away, and treating you like a regular human being, when he should be all over you, so you could feel better. So stop overnalizing things. You are human and he is human too. So sex is normal.

Perhaps he is genuinely a busy guy.

Or you are being too needy and he is feeling a bit “scared” of your attitude. I know I would.

So chill you are not a kid, so stop behaving like one. You are woman, so play with the tools god gave you.

Try and be a challenge.

If he doesnt contact next time be more hard to get.

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

Dammit.
I'm a woman, it's in my nature to over analyze.
I haven't been needy toward him. Yes my attitude is too emotional, but I haven't let anything on to him. I have replied to his two texts given him a call to chat. That's all. If that's "needy" then it doesn't take much to scare a guy...maybe he's the child.
Good advice. Sucks that I have to be a "challenge" for a guy to be interested though...

Hard to get is easy if I'm not interested in the guy. But when it's a guy I'm into, God it's difficult to resist. But if it's what I have to do, I'll do it.

Wow.. You joined an internet forum set up an account etc. just to try and get some insight into why this guy wasn't calling you back?

I hate to say it but you're probably way too needy, that would scare me away too if a girl got really clingy after sex. Of course that's totally normal for inexperienced girls but it doesn't change the fact that it's unattractive to men.

And.. It's not like he 'cajoled' you, if you gave in that easily then you obviously wanted and needed it as much as he did, stop playing the victim card, sounds like you got to have a good time with a fun guy so just be greatful for that.

If he doesn't call you back then consider this a lesson learnt from the school of hard knocks, if you want a guy to stick around then you will need to wisen up a little and play your cards better next time.

Just like my pop used to say 'Why buy the cow when you can get the sex for free'

P.S. If you posted a picture of yourself then we would be able to provide you with a better informed answer. For realz.

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Yes, I did join an internet forum to get insight...what of it?

And yes, I admit I'm needy at the moment. But fuck, who the hell doesn't need affection? I'm not asking for anything more than is normal. I'm not hounding the guy, I'm seeking advice about what happened and how to proceed. So is it that one or two texts to a guy after sex equals clingy? If so...wow...

I'm not a victim, don't read that into anything. I took responsibility for caving to sex so easily. I did have a good time with him, I just want another good time with him, alright? :p And possibly more.

I've definitely learned a hard lesson, so thanks.

Two picture requests. Seriously? I am gullible and trust too easily, but seriously?

The type of information is seeking and he onlly can see that on the pictures.

If you are hot or not.

If you are very hot he will definitley come and try again.

It was a polite way

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

Ok as a believer in real PUA one of the rules is "leave the girl better off than before you were with her" and obviously this guy hasn't done that with you. So I'm gonna help you as best I can.

Maya the only way you will truely get answers around here is to actually become a PUA yourself.

Anyway, as far as seeing this guy again. I would not recommend it. However a game is a game. You have it in you to turn the tables. In a nutshell, just act like you are the prize and that he's chasing you. Be willing to walk away from him at any point. In fact I would recommend not talking to him for at least 2 weeks. Then see his approach to you change. He will make more of an effort. Don't let that fool you into believing he's being genuine. Keep him at arms length all the time. You are the boss. You are in control. Never forget that. If you have any questions you can send me a pm.

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

I don't think it's bad to seek for advice here, why shouldn't she? We all do it at one point or another and I don't think she's playing a victim either. She wants to know how to play the game right because she likes him that much and that's a good cause to make an effort. I bet a lot of guys came here cuz there was this one special girl. It's a start of a great adventure
Stick around Maya, you'll learn a lot here

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rAFC and yes, I'm a chick.

I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

The only time he would call you next is when he wants free easy sex.

No one, men or women, liked to feel played or fooled. Your best bet is to not answer this guys call, no sms and move on.

You could turn this around where he is trying to pursue you but that would require a lot of work and lot more steps - so just let it go.

Lol... yeah I was being a bit facetious there I'll admit it.

Was he the first guy you were ever with? Just how inexperienced are you?

Honestly the way you're talking reminds me of how I first was when I lost my virginity, completely self assured that this worthless girl was the be all and end all of sex and romance.

If he's dicking you around then take your new found sexual liberty and use it to attract and have fun with a guy who will appreciate you. There are literally 3 billion to choose from, what makes this clown so special?

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THANK YOU!!!
So, what you recommend my next step be. I'm considering the 2-week wait that was suggested already...

I didn't lose my virginity to him, but it wasn't long ago...I've dated but had good, respectful dates. Now that sex is an issue, it's gotten messy...

I don't know why he's special. We connected, I feel like we got each other right away. It doesn't make sense, but that's it...

**I've been reading about some PU techniques...he definitely was full of them, wow! From "what's a non-sexual image you would use to describe your sexuality?" to discussing how he'd come out of a bad relationship, blah blah blah...Under what conditions does a guy use those? Is it always just for a sexual conquest or is there ever a chance that the guy is genuinely interested in something more? It sounds pretty smarmy...

Of course there is a chance.. You are over thinking this a lot, so no matter what you do don't let him know that any of this is on your mind.. it will most likely turn him off and push him away. Just don't be so available like everyone said, and dont be so easy (no offense).. as someone else said, it's true that guys like us really only hit up girls like that when we want easy sex. I'm guilty of this too. So if you don't want that, don't be that girl. Be interesting and challenging.

Maya, read 60 years of challenge (name of the author) relationship roulette, he really nailed down the male-female social dynamics. The part that will be most interesting to you is the illusion of purity. Basically, every man has to have the illusion of purity in a woman in order to be able to receive her affection. That's why all these guys are telling you to wait a little before you agree to sex.
As far as this guy is concerned, wait a little for him to contact you. If he doesn't, it's ok to try to contact him one more time in a week or two, if he doesn't respond, consider him done and move on. When you do get in contact you can tease him in a playful way that you didn't think he was the hit and run kind of guy, and please next time make him work for the opportunity to be intimate with you.
Look up the term push-pull. That's what you should be doing, i.e. express your interest, but then take it away, there are many ways to do this.
If you plan to stick around here, there is a female section called Zip's students, ask any moderator in a PM to unlock it for you. Good luck!
Yeah, and stop by the chat sometimes

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rAFC and yes, I'm a chick.

I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

you connected right away?

i guess so.

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