Hi,
Let me introduce my story... Before I read anything on PUA techniques, or anything about how to interact with women, I was successful with women BUT when I say successful, I mean from a friend point of view NOT boyfriend, which the latter, is what I truly want to be. Part 1 of my story is when I was a douche, i.e. before I read any books or anything on these forums, when I was useless! Part 2, is after I found out about the book, The Game, which introduced me to this forum, and taught me the things I now know... (important to note that I am ok at things now, but definitely no expert... yet
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1.
Through mutual friends, I met this girl. We both realized we had a lot in common and I felt some connection, and I could make her laugh. Over time, whenever we met up, it was with these mutual friends. We also talked on facebook. There was one point where I got the strong impression she wanted me, we were making more of an effort to meet up, even if it was with these other friends as well. But now I wanted to meet up with her one on one. Then something happened which explains a lot in my opinion... she found out that I liked her. I think our friends must have not kept their mouths shut. I asked her if she wanted to meet up, and she made some reasons why she could not meet up. After this, she even texted me saying lets meet up, then cancelled a minute after I said ok, making up more excuses.
2.
After getting all the advice from this forum and other books, I could see where I went wrong! It was killing me... she seemed so different as soon as she found out that I liked her... the cat/string theory comes to mind. Anger at myself for doing the things I done. WHY WAS I SO NICE, WHY WAS I SO AVAILABLE, WHY DID I MAKE MYSELF LOOK LIKE AN IDIOT. I had to change. Thing is, I have changed, I have changed quite a lot in such a small space in time, because like I said before, I was always good (I think) I smile, I'm confident, blah blah blah, I only needed a few tweaks, but very important tweaks. I had to meet up with her again, and work my magic. Problem is, I failed, the damage is done. I tried just talking on facebook, but nope, I ended up making myself look like an idiot again, due to desperation to get things right.
All I want is some advice... How do I rekindle that connection I felt, but is now gone? We're both at uni so I am not going to be able to see her anyway for the next 5 weeks due to Christmas break. Facebook, as sad as it now sounds, is my only means for the next 5 weeks. What do I do for those 5 weeks? And what do I do when we both get back?
(I know I may sound like an AFC but I kind of want to achieve this success for ME as well as me wanting her, so please don't tell me to forget her and try for another girl... I am still kind of new, and this is a test I want to pass.)
Thanks for reading!
CHAT