My sticking point is actually doing a cold approach during the day by myself. I will literally go out for hours and I won't even talk to one girl. Where do you find the motivation!? Do you need to go with a friend in order to have fun approaching girls during the day, or do you have to go out at night?

motivation?? thats what you're goin out for isnt it?
pick up girls. what else would u need to be motivated? just walk up on them and do your thing. remember mystery's 3 second rule. the moment u see a chick, just walk up to her and start a convo. it really does wonders XD
in those 3 seconds, ure feelings dont have enough time to respond to the "challenge" so u get to talk to the girl(s) before u chicken out

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I highly advocate warming up. Just start saying hi to any random stranger. You could start out with old ladies. Say just, "Hi" or "how are you." Work you way up to the hotties.

I've been there man I know how it feels to walk around forever not approaching.
I think everyones different, some people are going to need warmups, like the above post said - talking to anyone to get you more social and working your way up to hot girls.

Personally I found it to work better for me with a friend in the beginning. We just make sure that we send each other into sets and go in without hesitation. I've even had an experience where I'd talk to a girl and eject and my buddy would get angry and send me back in to #close, whether there was enough rapport or not. This was awesome to get over fear of rejection or any anxiety surrounding closes at all.

Also, with a friend it can be more fun. If your by yourself your gonna get inside your own head too much, and draw a bunch of bullshit conclusions about the rejection/fear etc. If your with a pal you'll just laugh it off and eventually you could challenge each other to say random/weird shit to girls just for entertainment. All of this will help your game. You can watch "simple pickup" on youtube for inspiration.


Eventually, you'll be able to go out on your own and approach. Again, I'm telling you this from experience dude.


Good luck!!!

Hey I have faced this. These steps work

1. Build confidence - Write out all your strengths, think you are going to give them to the other person, why would some one miss them when served on a platter.
From their point of view, generally women are looking for guys and who better than at unknown places with no social obligation
2. Remove fear - This happens with practice. Usually human mind reacts to everything it perceives as danger with flight or fight response, just think you have to be absolutely bold and playful and your first point of danger is clear eject from the girl side, nothing less, if you are just fearing approach then your mental perception of danger is something very low which shouldn't be frightening you logically.

Ultimately you have to grow a pair of balls and man up.

If you can't get the courage, you'll have to stick to internet dating or speed dating. Not my idea of a good time, but each to their own!

Zan

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I like that man nicely put @ amatpua

The one thing I have realised in my daygame is that, and I think alot
of people will agree with me on this, is that if you're spending like
an hour or so wandering around a mall looking to approach
women...you're not scared, you're waiting for that perfect
moment to happen. It's not the approach you're scared
of, it's how will you react when the moment does
finally come round...will I approach or not approach? I'm
guessing it's the latter. There is no such thing as a perfect
moment. You need to go out there and make that
moment happen, it won't just manifest out
of nothing.

Don't have the hollywood mentality. Like, you're
a geeky rundown darn out of luck womenless
guy who one day meets a gorgeous girl at
the foot of his doorstep because it was
raining or because her car broke
down and she'd like to use your
phone. Apart from that just
sounding silly, why would
she need to use your
phone? She probably
has a blackberry or a smartphone!
I'm digressing here lol.

My point is man,
women won't just magically fall into your lap
and you can't sit around and pray for things to get
better when the only person that can make things
better, is yourself. No one else can do it for you,
no one can approach the girls for you...If you really,
truly want to begin approaching women, you
need to break free of your comfort zone
and fight for what you deserve.

You also need to look deep inside yourself
and ask yourself what is really holding
you back? Is it what she might
think during the approach? To counteract that,
don't think at all. Better yet, who gives a shit
what she thinks? What's the worst she can
say..."No."? I've done many approaches
to know by now that, women, will not
bite your head of or punch you
in the mouth if you just
open them to have a brief interaction.

In all
honesty, I approached a girl the other day to
ask for directions and while she was talking
to me, I smiled to let her know that I was
friendly, and when she saw me smile,
we both laughed at each other
and we couldn't get a word
in! We tried talking
to each other but
we just kept on
laughing for no reason We had no idea why were having a
laughter contest in the middle of the mall...but it was fucking fun
and giddy!
It was fun just randomly laughing with this girl in the middle
of the mall She probably had a great sense of humor...
I only met the chick for 5 seconds and I made her
laugh with me just for being friendly to her and
making her day, I can tell she enjoyed the
interaction cause she was blushing and
giving me IOI's throughout!

Approaching women is not as difficult as it seems,
you just need to get out of your own head and
just do it. I know that cliche but it's true. Don't
think about what you're gonna say. The
second you start thinking about what
to say and you mull on that thought,
you begin to instill the fear
even more because you're spending
more time thinking then actually doing.

More fight and less flight!

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Thanks guys awesome advice. Chai - All I can say is that was an awesome post, I went out today and I realized I was looking for that hollywood/perfect moment. I heard so much about making sure you don't approach from behind and to go in smooth, but all that was doing was feeding in to my perception of that perfect moment. I'm a lot more comfortable meeting people now because all I do is see a cute girl, walk up and talk to her.

Thanks man I'm glad to help out If you want to speed up
your process, read "Rules of The Game", it's like a
30 day program to master the game which involves
challenges, assessments, body language and
exercises to build and convey confidence...
i'm already on Day 5 and it's a really
good book (approached 10 more
people so far!)

Give it a go I'm sure you'll dig it.

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