Hi there! I have been cruising your site for months. Its out of this world. I have learned a lot. I think I have oneitis. There is this girl that is very aggressive and flirts, etc. I am very attracted to her. We lost touch for five months because of differences. I contacted her and she said she invited me over for dinner three times last week, hung out. Had a great time. She had mentioned that that ws a good week cuz she has a special sum1. So I was prepared to back off, but she just kept texting and getting me involved in her life. She denied that this woman was her gf, said she was not in love with her, etc. I told her that was disrespectful as she was flirting profusely with me. Texting like crazy, every day. Sunday I text her and she is distant, been distant all week. I basically have frozen her out. I told her last night to come by as I was out and would be home shortly. She text me and said she and her lady were just getting home and her lady had to get up early. I was shocked. I did not know they were sleeping together. That hurts. She says she has not slept with her, I dont believe her. Anyway, in response to her text I responded with right on, whatever. Then I get these texts from her saying dont say whatever. Then a string of texts giving me shit about going out. She kept texting. I missed the texts which is good, but then finally answered her. I told her I had to eat lol. She wanted me to come up to her bar the night before and I declined. So when I finally text we have a long conversation, but not really about anything, just playing around. She mentioned her wifey and how odd that was, so I have my confirmation she really is dating her and she was definitely giving me the cold shoulder but I know the gf (which she says is not) left and she was baraging me with texts. Okay this is where I need help please. I kept texting and probably should not have? I mentioned I missed her kitty kat and when was I going to play her xbox again, she did not answer. I should not have done that I know. What now? Should I text, freeze? Please help? This is my first post. Thank you for any input. I feel as if I made things worse, but she defintely got perked up when I told her I was out.

Yes, I am a lez!. I have to see her tonight and am very nervous about it, so any insight would be helpful.
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However this ends I would like to watch

No but seriously if you knew anything about game you'd know the push and pull technique she is using is allowing her to control you.

I would walk away. Don't waste time with people like this. They only stop you from meeting other people and when you do meet other people you'll question why you wasted your time on her in the first place.

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Thanks so much. She is quite a game player, and your right! I am very uneducated on the push/pull. I try to find techniques, but I havent gotten it down yet. Thanks again for your input!

Watch what happens when you don't pay her any attention and aren't affected by her shit. The tables will well and truly turn!

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Well man to be honest with you do you see her as GF material or Just a FB? are you going crazy about her because she has a GF or because she really is cool to be around?. You have to sit and really think about these questions, I have gone through periods like yourself where I have gotten caught up on "That one special female" well man it's not worth it because unless she returns the affection I don't really waste my time you know?

Leo's right man its all about push-pull, she knows because you have expressed how much you like her she can toy with your emotions like a yo-yo. Don't get caught up in the game because it can stunt your growth in your life and relationships. Basically leave her be, let her enjoy her GF once she see's that your not fazed by her games she will try just as hard to reel you back in. During this time man find other people or things to do, shoot as a matter of fact go out and meet some new women.

In the end it's all about sexual power between us and them, the key is to keep your head about your self and respect her, give affection/ attention to her if she deserves it. Hope this helps

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I have had a crush on this woman for at least a year, she just recently obtained this girlfriend while I was out of the picture for a while. When I initially rekindle a friendship with her again, she lied and said she did not have a gf, said she had not slept with her, etc. However, the following week she the contact dropped off as her gf was back in town. I finally confronted her and said listen I know she is your GF and she sleeps here as she would text me after the gf left for work. I told her that was disrespectful. She has kept in contact with me and Sunday asked me to bring her some food as she was sick, I did it but was a good time for me to let her know I know she has a deeper relationship with this woman than she let on. She did not deny it but said that she does not trust the woman as she has lied to her and she is not sure. Also that the woman knows we are in contact and is jealous as she knows I had a crush on her in the past, and she said she told the woman that its not like that, that she and I have a new level of trust, lol! Anyway, Im not a homewrecker!, so here I sit. All I can do is just move on at this point. I dont know how to handle her games!

BTW I REALLY appreciate all your help! This woman drives me CRAZY! I have tried to search for examples of push-pull. Can anyone direct me to some examples of push-pull? Also, here is an example of one of her games. I brought her food on Sunday. I left because she said she was going to bed cuz she was sick, so I left. I wasnt gone one minute and she text saying why did you run off so soon and then text be that way. I text back saying your sick and need your rest and you told me to. She said I know. Then she text me twice when I got home and said thanks. I keep my texts short and simple. Then she woke up in middle of nigtht and kept texting me while i was sleeping. Just dumb names we call each other and funny stuff we share. Her gf was at work and I did not text back. However the next night she wanted me to do a favor for her which I refused. She went out that night and in the middle of the night I happened to be up and text her getting you back for waking me up, haha! She wakes up an hour later and texts ha Im waking you up, etc. Thats the last Ive heard from her, which is strange cuz Ive been hearing from her on a daily basis.

She text me Wednesday and asked me to come up to her bar. I declined, said I had plans, havnt text her since then. I text her tonight and asked how she was doing. She said great and that she made her gf some get her stuff a cpl of days ago and she has moved on. Back to her happy life. Told her i was sorry to hear that. Hope she was doing ok. Have a good night. Text back said she was fine. Said no one even knew they were seing each other and that now she is glad. Said she was hurt but doing good. Said she cant take liars (that was her complaint about her gf). Didnt she lie to me about having a gf, about not sleeping with her, lol? Said some mutual friends were there. Ttyl. I ended the convo there, nothing left for me to say.

Lol i had a hunch this thread was started by a girl by my first glance at the first post xD.

Anyways welcome to the forums and hope your tricky situation gets less trickier.

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Im sure you did! lol! We emotional beings are not hard to spot are we? Thanks for the welcome and its getting trickier. She text me today asking me to say something funny to cheer her up, then she starts telling me her woes, I give advice, give yourself time to heal, so I was being neutral, helpful, otherwords FZ. This is all so fucking strange, timing and everything. I checked on her tonight and she told me she was really sad, blah, blah...then she said she had bought tickets for her and her gf previously to the ballet and was going to give them away, but last minute decided to take this hot blonde with her, wtf!? (what is going on here?) I didnt know how to respond, just said glad your getting out but allow yourself time to heal, hell 4 hours ago she couldnt eat or get out of bed! She responds, she really cared about her, but hated liars, said "the gf will be tore up more than she. Her fault tho". Jeezus!! (and here?!!!)

Girl, honestly i think youve been used. And what shes doing is shes coming to you when she has something to vent or is mad at her gf. She flirts with you when she feels terrible because the attention you give her makes her feel better. if you are looking for an honest relationship out of this, its bad news.

I know youve invested emotionally into he but my recommendation is to slowly step back from her. Start going out with other women, you will get over her in no time.

How do you feel about the thought of not seeing her anymore?

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Thanks for your input...Its tough cuz I want her friendship, but of course I have feelings for her. She calls and texts me constantly every day. She broke it off with her gf. Last week her gf went into the hospital and she has been staying there with her every night. She makes a point to tell me she is not getting back with her and that as soon as she is well shes done. I told her that maybe she is sending her mixed messages. I text her yesterday and never heard from her which was unusual, so text her a couple of times (I know a no, no). She finally text saying her ex-gf had gotten out of the hospital, etc., her friends had gotten her to go out and her phone had been dead. She apologized for taking so long to get back (I was a bit hurt to say the least because we were supposed to get together), to which I replied Np ttyl... 30 minutes went by and she responded I luv you, are you feeling okay, yada, yada, yada....I have known her for two years and she has never taken care of anyone like this woman so I am assuming she really cares for her. She swears up and down its over. I concur she is probably using me. She flirts with me, etc., but Im afraid thats just to keep me hanging by a string, ya know?