You're doing very well ,so far. That's something to smile about.

Now, you've been awesome in holding a 1:1 ratio. So, there is no potential danger of coming across as 'too needy' or 'too full of time'. Now, to the conversation, seems to be that there was only one topic to the whole interaction. That's never a good thing. I always tell guys to keep switching topics in a convo, just to maintain that specific level of interest and to keep her guessing, which in turn, will keep her hooked. So, work on that.


Also, text her once a day to initiate a conversation. She'll reply when she's got that free time. Do it at your discretion but preferably at a time when you know she's most likely free and open to conversation.

I hope I answered both of your queries.

Always welcome for me.

Regards,

Luke

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

I keep all that in mind when I text her. You've proven to me that your one mother fucking genius! haha but really, thanks C.H.L.

Your fellow PUA,

Dr. Dark

N-closed a HB8 that was with a guy last night after I quickly realized they weren't together. Got both their digits. And here's how it went down..

Me: hey lady luck, its (me) we should party sometime =)

Then the guy texts me...

Guy: (HB8) says rest up cuz your goin for a good night!

Then she texts me...

HB8: heyheyhey

How do i respond to this? Could the guy be possibly winging me this girl? There's more to the situation but this is the main parts

Well, thank you for the compliments. Again.

Just doing my bit.

All the luck with her and you're always welcome to come back here for more of your queries.

Regards,

Luke

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Well, you can make small talk with the guy. Like polite, normal stuff and shit.

And interact with the girl in the way of the whole attraction process.

As for winging you, well, I cannot judge that from one text. However, always assume the positive and game on.

On another note, I think it would be beneficial for you to 'clarify' the situation between the guy and the girl. Have to admit, I am a bit stumped as to why on sending a text to the girl, the guy responded..

Good luck with this one.

Regards,

Luke

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

I've had some success with funny texts to a girl I'm after. We've been out socially a few times and we've had one 1 on 1 coffee date (last week), which was very good, I thought. I'm wondering how much I should be texting her now? I read your advice in another post that you should text girls all the time, but when does it becomes too much? Is it too soon to be having these kinds of interactions?

The text exchange before setting up our coffee was really good. My follow up the next day was kind of lacking, though. Will be seeing her once or twice this week...

Just trying to get a sense of how much to text someone?

Dont know where to go from here..

N-closed on a HB7 this past saturday at a club. we are both at the same college but I'm from out of state so I am going home for break for 3 weeks and wont see her until the new year. What are some things to say so she wont lose interest and when is it safe to text or call again without seeming to needy/creepy.

here are how the texts from saturday went after I walked her home

Me: Got home safe. sleeping to your fav jam...call you over the break
Her:haha good im glad. and please do have a safe trip tommorow

Also I have not texted her back yet...suggestions?

I am gaming this cute blonde and she seems into me. Met her in a club, built some comfort with her, k-closed and she was very IOIing me in the end.

I have read a book about texting and I am trying to alternate between serious topics and being funny/cocky + doing some randomness. But I don't know whether I am not overdoing the cocky part (AFC). I mean I don't want to come off as an idiot....

First message next day: "How did you sleep after yesterday? Realme"
Her (relatively fast): I am still little dizzy and you?

.... blablabla some neutral stuff just to start convo. .....
.....She complains that she didn't sleep enaugh ....

Me: blabla.. Yea good that ended the party when we did. If you would have got to know me better you wouldn't sleep at all thinking of me.
She (fast reply): you got some selfesteem. Now I am not interested in getting to know you better, when you are so great that I wouldn't sleep at all and I would just think about you

Me: Don't give up so fast!

...... then I switch topic to random stuff in neutral tone about what are we going to do, her plans my plans etc. .....
..... Next day I write her random message that is funny. She responds with long message about her day and asks about mine .....
..... Then she complains that she doesn't feel very good and maybe getting sick ....

Now I try to be cocky again

Me: Ah yea. thats because you haven't seen me for a long time and your body knows it. Just stop thinking about me

Now she responds something really weird ->

She: Yea thats true. I don't even know you and dont know how you look Just the illness is trying to get me, no lust for you!

.... the word 'lust' suprises me here also .....

Me: I mean its subconscious even if you wouldn't remember how do I look. Ya at work?

She(after 6 minutes): Yes I am at work and will be here till the morning. Oh so the subconscious is really bugging me then. Thanks to YOU I am sick and can't do anything What to do with it now???

Me: Well you will need myself. But I will make the sacrifice and meet up with you Ok have a nice work shift. I will rise soon tomorrow for work. I like to start working when it's quite there..

She(instant response): I cannot accept such sacrifice. I will help myself I wish you good night.


I think she enjoys the convo, but I am judging just from the fact that she responds fast and uses smile faces everywhere.

It becomes too much when you exceed the ratio of sending to her replying greater than 1:1. Always, always try to keep it 1:1. If she doesn't reply after your last text, don't reply. Let her pick up the conversation. She should invest time and effort too, it's not a one-way street.

Well, keep the texting at the usual pace. However, try to get long, deep conversations flowing in the process. Get her to share and open up, and you share and open up too. Mutual sharing leads to comfort well built.

Hope I answered your questions to your satisfaction.

Regards,

Luke

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Well, three weeks is a long time. I just hope you've built up enough interest so that it all doesn't go back to square one.

Anyway, here's what you have to do..

Keep talking to her.

Yes. Don't care about message limits or all that shit. If she's replying to your texts, you keep replying back. Keep a 1:1 ratio between send and reply with her. Try to have a long conversation.

Ask her about her past, her dreams, other deep topics like music, travelling, spiritual beliefs and get her to talk about herself.

Also, if I can make a suggestion, I would like you to indulge in comfort building exercises with her on text and call, as much as it's possible. Look in the forum, there's an area that deals with comfort building.

Basically, keep talking all through the break, it'd just be like you were never apart. Well, as much as it can be anyway.

Regards,

Luke

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Well, seems to me that you're handling this quite well, Sir.

The whole teasing frame is working well, and the direct approach slots in nicely with that.

However, I would advise you to be a bit more mindful of her health issues. If she's genuinely sick, showing a little care about her state could go a long way. Get me?

She likes to flirt, she likes the thrills, but she also wants a guy who's caring, warm and kind. Every woman does. The Bad Boy with the Golden Heart. That's the dream. Try to project that kind of image through your texting process and it'll be clicking awesomely.

I hope I answered your doubts to your satisfaction.

Regards,

Luke

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Ok, I wrote her that I hope she is getting better and she responded to that nicely. Great

I like your comprehensive and insightful answer, thanks a lot Luke.

hey Luke, just a question.. i met a girl acouple of weeks back, k closed and got her number. we been texting and talking on the phone and its all going quite well for the most part.

we went for dinner had great convo with zero awkward silences. had a little kiss before we left. havent had an opportunity to get closer and more intimate with her which is actually working to build my interest and anticipation.

My issue is this, when we talk its always a good mix of sarcasm and seriousness so we are quite comfortable talking for elongated periods, the only problem is i havent gotten into more sexual tension and building arousal through text. shes a Teacher by occupation and an independent type girl so im finding it difficult to turn the convo more sexual without her thinking its sleazy, creepy etc.

i am quite experienced with girls and have no issue openly talking about sexual desires, preferences and all of that but i just can seem to get an opening yet with this girl. maybe it will come after we have actually had time alone to physically escalate..

Any ideas on what to say? im meeting her later tonight but its at a bowling alley so it will be fun but we wont be getting physical really..

Thanks in advance

Just a quick question...

I've been texting a girl for a few days now after getting her number while out on friday night... It's all been going well, throwing in a few negs and always working towards a provisional plan to meet up with her.

It was all going well and I made a teasing comment in my last text saying "I'm sure I'll find some time to be entertained over a drink, where do you work?". This is already talking about meeting up and when she is back in my area (for work, thus the "where do you work" comment)... now I'm starting to think maybe I should have been more precise with where and when? If so, is there anyway I can pull it back? She didn't give a response directly to going for a drink but kept talking about where she works and asking why I was in the area.

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'Be who you are and say what you feel; because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind'

I'm 16, she's 16. We're both in high school, so this isn't going to be anything incredibly serious. We've been talking on and off for 2 or 3 months.

Usually I'm really good at text game, but I'm stumped here.

Me: Bla bla bla. What ever could you do to repay me?
HB: Think of something and I'll do it.

I have exactly one day to think of something.

HB: Whats your wish?
Me: I have one idea.
HB: What is it?
Me: I think I'll keep it a surprise.
HB: If you do something stupid with this wish, I will never talk to you again.
Me: What do you want me to do with it?
HB: You'll find out after your wish runs out.

What does she want me to say?