Ok, I'm drunk.. no secret.. it's going to take me a while to type this correctly.

I was at a local bar.. some mom was trying to introduce me to her daughter.. and her daughter shook head head like no and said flat out "um ew no.. find someoe else.."

Now this hit me hard.. I've been single for years.. seriously.. I thought to myself, am I that ugly? wtf am I supposed to about it? I can't change genetics or how I was born.. fucking bitch.. seriously idk what I want to do right now.. her reaction fucked me up.. I usually don't get offeded by anyone's reaction but knowing just how "ugly I am" seriously fucked me up.. I need.. idk what I need..


How do you deal with a girl who thinks you're uglier than shit?

You move on to the next who is bright enough to appreciate your looks. Or you learn to game well enough to compensate for it. Or you start grooming.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

I usually laugh off any kind of negative output or when a girl is just being bitchy but I wasn't even hitting on this girl. It was kind of just random.. I didn't ask for her input nor did I even approach her. It was just like.. wow.. really?

If she plain rude out of nowhere than there's no reason why you should not do the same to her. Bitch needs to know her place.

That is just horrible advice and a horrible way of seeing other people.

Never be an asshole just because someone else may be.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

BROOOO. Sometimes when I approach a random girl at the club, before I even open my mouth, I'm told that I'm ugly and should fuck off. Girls can be frumpy, especially when an attractive guy comes along. They'll just feel inferior, jealous, etc. The reason they are being like that does not matter, you are not a fucking psychologist. Just laugh it off and escalate, give the bitch one more chance to be cool. If it ends bad, just smile and say pleasure meeting you and back turn.

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Don't get on one knee for a girl that won't get on two for you.

I agree but it does not mean you should let the other insult you and when he/she does it's ok to call him/her out on it. I'm not saying you should fight fire with fire but any selfrespecting person would not take shit and atleast say something like "I hope you realise I don't take shit from anybody."

That sucks man! Women can just be flat out mean. All my female friends have told me this at one point or another.

Just don't take it to heart.

And besides, how much of a prize was this girl that she had her mom trolling for guys for her??

I wouldn't have been an asshole to her, but would have said something like "no problem, enjoy hanging out with your mom" and walked away.

Fuck that girl.. She is obviously a huge bitch. She did you a favor by letting you know she is a huge bitch before you wasted any time getting to know her.. Personally I would have thanked her for this and moved on. Possibly tried to fuck her mom.

In my opinion though, very few guys are THAT ugly. It's all about how you present yourself. Carefully groom yourself (clean hair/shave, wash your face brush your teeth routinely, clip your nails, wear clean/nice clothes, exercise daily get into shape, make sure you smell nice, etc).. and if girls still find you unattractive, then 99% chance it's a flaw in your game that is setting you back so far. I've seen some really weird looking dudes take dimes home every weekend.. Game hb6 and hb7s and work on improving your game/getting your confidence back up

"Well it's a good thing I'm smart so when we get married and have babies they'll have average looks and average intelligence".

Note you just called her dumb, see if she notices.

I see what you mean but I still disagree. The OP would be better off if he could build some inner game so that he wouldnt be so affected by the "shit" she gives him. Unreactive is a trait of a superior man.

"She was mean so I wanna have a witty and hurtful comeback." is not nearly as impressive as "Yeah, whatever, have a nice day, next."

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

I kinda half agree with you but whenever these situations do present themselves I like to amuse myself a bit and in order to do that I need to say something that is amusing (to me). Your method seems really uninteresting to me and I don't think it really suits every personality type. Personally I definitely don't fall in the "conflict avoidance" personality type bracket. In my opinion someone should handle the situation in whichever way makes them feel good about it and that there is no universal way (such as let it slide, like you suggest).

Another consideration I have with these kinds of situations is that they might say something like that to someone who doesn't/can't handle it well. If I say something about it then maybe they will keep their dumb content inside instead of sharing it. It's like any other type of bully, they'll keep doing it until they get beat up themselves. So I'd say I find it almost unfortunate that nobody in the last 5 years or so has attempted to insult me.

Is it me or does anyone see red flags with the daughter being with the mom at a bar together and the mom is picking out guys for her? I think being called ugly in this case is a good thing and not a bad one.