First off, let me start by saying I spent a good five minutes deciding on which sub forum this belongs in. So hopefully this is in the right place.

Last night I was out eating dinner with my brother and his wife. I go through my first plate of food and the waitress that comes by to pick it up; I notice she's pretty cute. Asian 7. I smiled at her every time she came around and she would smile back. We all get up to leave and as we're walking out, I tell my brother and his wife to hold up. I walk up to the girl as she's getting plates from another table.

Me: "Hey, I was just about to leave, but I wanted to know your name."
Her: *Smiles* "My name is Aleisha."
Me: "Well, Aleisha, you seem like a really run person, and rather cute too. Give me your number and we'll hang out sometime."
Her: "Yeh sure."
*Exchanges number*
Me: "It was nice meeting you. I'll send you a text later."

Now this is where I need help. I went through a few back-and-forth texts and I get the impression I'm going in the wrong direction. This girl is damn cute and I would love to get to hang out with her. Here's how the texts went.

Me: "I was gonna text you earlier, but then I realised I ran out of credit . When do you get off work?" (I ended up using a free texting service that I usually use when I run out of credit. It adds a [This is a free text etc] at the end of the message)
Her: "just got home & showered, fml that was my second day working and I already want to quit "
Me: "Haha, I was going to ask if anyone has done the same thing as me .
Her: "LOL, my legs are dying"
Me: "At least you weren't wearing heels. LOL. And this is my last free text for today. What is your FB, beautiful?"
Her: "truee. LOL, I don't have Facebook"
Me: "I just realised we're in a new day (more free txts ). You don't have FB? That's new. When are you free to hang out?"
Her: "no idea, they havent told me when Im working yet"

At this point, I just went to sleep and decided to deal with it tomorrow. So as I stated earlier, I think this girl is genuinely cute and I would love to get to hang out with her. How would I go about with my next few texts to turn this around? Also, if you could point out the good and bad things that I did with the initial interaction, that would be awesome.

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Sometimes you get things easy for a reason...
If a girl gives you her number after 1 line and a few looks, do you REALLY expect the highest quality relationship right off the bat?
Looks like she is regretting giving you her number and trying to flake out of everything, maybe she just wanted a better tip.

But on the off chance she isn't, you have to do some BS breaker stuff; ask her what she likes about the city, what food she likes, build rapport. If she says she likes the KFC downtown offer to take her there (for instance). When asking a girl to hang out you don't give her any other option but a yes or a no because she'll almost ALWAYS come up with a third option

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Yeh I get what you mean with that first part. It just seemed like she was happy that I finally spoke to her. I got this impression because her smile was genuine. None of that fake bullshit. And besides, Chinese girls are almost always shy.

Thanks for your input. Anyone else care to share their thoughts?

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hey mate, ya i agree with the above post but ill add a bit more.
Im asian myself and i only date asian girls, and yes they tend to be more shy and you need to build more trust with them to get them to open up.
it looks like you got her number after one line and built zero comfort with her, thus there would be a greater chance she will flake, especially cause shes asian...(more conservative)

Next time maybe talk to her a bit more then getting the number, but props on opening her and going direct! With asian girls, you just need them to trust you, building comfort then they will open up, from my experience.

Hope this helps!

I'll take that into account next time I'm gaming an Asian.

Let's say in the case I go to the same restaurant and I see her again. What do I do?

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"what's your fb, beautiful" wasn't necessary lol

I think you shouldnt have texted at first.
These situations are kinda difficult cause as they stated above, you had zero rapport with the girl and she gave you her number.
Texts are tricky cause you only get about 20 % detail from the person you're talking with, unlike talking on the phone which gives you a bit more clue about their :

- Personality
- Tone
- Attitude
- Confidence level

I had something really similar to this about a month ago, i got a girls number
after 2 minutes of conversation and I called her and we had a great talk (and we've been dating since)
I couldnt have achieved that with texts.

I'm slightly jealous because I do these # closes in like 10 seconds all the time it's easy..but when i shoot them a text they don't respond

i guess it might be because i assume that they are probably not going to respond because we barely spoke to one another so i shoot something ridiculous

like oh hey penguin vagina

This is really interesting. Could you tell me how I go about building comfort? I mean, it sounds intuitive but it seems like there's a right way and the way that makes a guy sound like a huge wuss.

Hi codemus, i believe comfort when talking to a girl whether it will be asian,white or whatever is paramount when getting her number.
From experience, Asians will tend to flake if you ask for the number if you built zero comfort.
To answer ur question, just go to a bit of fluff talk.
For example- you look chinese, you look korean, and talk about that for a bit.
Then next you can say so what are you studying?? 9 times out of 10 they will do something commerce related lol so strike a commonailty with that.

and that should be about 5-10 mins or so then go for the number.
Thats what works best for me.. o ya and asians like going karaoke so set up a date with her if thats wat you like too!
Hope it helps !