Hey guys i sometimes have this problem, but not always. Some nights when i go out, i feel that im not in the mood to pick up girls, whether im too tired or just lacking the sex drive/motivation for women.
For instance tonight i just diddnt feel it and felt shit, approached a few sets and had a bit of AA but in my mind i really diddnt really want anything...maybe because i got laid yesterday?
So question is how can i salvage my night if you dont feel it, or have no sex drive/motivation in approaching women?? Its really frustrating to have women look at you but you just dont have the urge to approach!!

Thanks !

It happens to me aswell and sometimes it works to simply plow through. Give it the best you have at the moment and maby momentum will turn around. It's no certainty but it's possible nontheless. When the mood is so off nothing works I drink until I'm wasted and then I go home. Which probably isn't the most healthy solution.

Yea this happens to me, sometimes I'm just not in a chit-chat mood, you know I just couldn't be bothered with the blah blah blah and would rather be watching football or something.

How to save it? Dunno I don't bother trying, I usually just go home, wait for another day. But like the guy above me said, probably not an ideal strategy.

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I get this all the time. Sometimes it just isnt worth the time and trouble. Dont try to force it, it is not gonna work anyway.

Just focus on having fun and enjoy yourself. If someone comes up to you and gives you a freebe, thats all fine.

This is also a great opportunity to see how your own mentality affects your game. Needy vs not needy. Scarcity vs abundance mentality.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

Great response ezo.

Forcing yourself to approach and dance when you're not feeling it, is not a good idea. You should just do what you feel like, and when you do what you want, you're automatically become more enthusiastic about everything. This could be enough to snowball you into having a great night.

There's no rules of what you have to do when you go out.

Yeah man you shouldnt force yourself into hitting on girls if you arent in the mood.
Sometimes all this PUA stuff puts alot of stress cause the more you get into it, the higher your expectations are.
Dont forget that you're also human and if you dont feel like hitting on girls, it doesnt mean you cant have a good time.

so u guys r saying with off nights, you shouldnt force urself and approach?
just call it a night and head home?

Give it a shot and if it really isn't flowing then yeah, it's best to call it a day.

No, if I feel like going out I go out. If I dont feel like it I stay at home.

If I feel like approaching a girl, I will and if I dont feel like it I just find something else to entertain myself with.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

It's perfectly normal. It's called building up social momentum. I'd walk in the club and get approached by a girl and I'd be like durrrr. You need to warm up first, open sets, escalate, get blown out.

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Don't get on one knee for a girl that won't get on two for you.

This is all good advice. Don't force things.

Pick up is about having fun. Once it feels like a job or obligation, you know you need a break.

Yea if I sarge too much I just get a bit bored with it. Same openers, similar conversations, blah blah blah. Best thing you can do is walk away.

I often find that the best nights out I have are after a break, I just feel pumped and really keen to meet people.

Knowing when to take a break from sarging is important (but also knowing when to get back into it)

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i am usualy able to turn this around, what i do i just wipe my hand acros my face and go from sad look to smile. strange but it works...

Thanks for the advice guys, i really appreciate it, just a major sticking point to my game at the moment.
So, just have fun with getting girls and it shouldnt become like a chore..and lol just stay home if you "dont feel it"

Cheers!

I never go out with the intention to pick up or even talk to women. If I'm in the mood, I'll definitely go for it, but if not, I'll still have a good time with my boys.

I'm pretty lucky in the sense that I get approaced by women qutie frequently and have a job that women basically fall into my lap (can't say that I was always this lucky)