Hey all,
So i was dragged to a strip club on saturday night with a big group of friends (guys and girls) and ended up getting separated from the group when they all left to another club and i went back inside to find a friend...when i was waiting for my friend to leave one of the private rooms, one of the dancers came and sat down next to me and started talking. we ended up talking for a while and she insisted that i take her number and real name. even though she insisted that she wasnt trying to take my money i insisted that we go into one of the back rooms for some privacy. i ended up paying for two dances from her and when she was on top of me we started making out. there was definitely no resistance in terms of me kissing her but i was hesitant about the whole situation because it was hard for me to tell whether or not i was being hustled. anyways it is now tuesday and i sent her a text asking how she was doing and she responded. after several messages of small talk, i then asked when i could take her out to dinner. she has yet to respond to that message. I was wondering what you all think about this and what you think i should do in order to reaffirm the connection we had made when we met. any stories or previous similar experiences would be greatly appreciated. also, i am looking for fellow pua's in the san francisco area. i am completely new to this scene and would love to establish a network with others in the game...please let me know. thanks
-jayfat

Try post in Pua liars if you're looking for people around your area.

I'm not gonna be an asshole and say "yea, u can still get her back!" Which I am not saying there isn't a SLIM chance but more than likely, u crapped out.

Reasons: She didn't want to go to the private rooms because she didn't want to view u as a customer but tthe next guy she'll date.....but u made the MISTAKE (which u should learn from) of still going to the back.
Not only did u go to a private room but u paid her after she gave u her number. (Exotic dancers don't want to go to their boyfriend's and only be seen as a sex object cuz that wat ever guy does at her job.....u made urself 1 of them.) Now after the dances her mind was saying"I thought he would've been the guy, and I gabe him my number, dammit"
Strippers r THE BEST at PUA because it's their job to get that 1 customer hooked on her so he can keep going back to spend his money.
Her strategy was 'I'm going to meet him up after my shift or during the week because it's a Saturday (1 of the busiest days at strip clubs....she's making her rent)'
She basically asked u out on a date for u to choose wen and where....but u turned urself into a gawking customer that sees her only as a sex object that ur willing to pay for ur amuzment.

Getting an exotic dancer interested isn't easy if u don't already have a certain character, so CONGRATS on that.
Still give her a call on Thursday (make her wait so she sees that u too have a life) and say that u want to take her out. Never hurts trying.

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-TOAST

Since I actually bounced at a Strip club for over a year I can probably tell you the bad news. She likely is attempting to hook you for cash, and when i say hook, i mean get as much money from as she can without actually humping you. I could be wrong but unless you are a rock star, coke dealer, tattoo artist, or established mad social proof at the club, that's my educated guess. She wont go to dinner with you but she likely will contrive some situation to part you from you money.

I predict you will get a text soon where she will sweetly invites you to a club she is working at to "hang out", she will try to sell you some more dances, while giving you the special boyfriend SPAM.

Let me know if I'm wrong.

first of all, i just want to say thanks for giving me your advice. toaster your insight is exactly what i thought that i did wrong and seems only logical. however, i was wondering why she would kiss me after the fact that i had already paid for one dance and allegedly broken the just only thing keeping me from being like every other customer...further more why would she even respond to my text at all if when i paid her i lost any chance of seeing her on other terms. and to detox75, she actually insisted that i not pay her for any dances at all and that she just had to get back to work. dont get me wrong, i realize that saying that can also be a perfect ploy to get me thinking that i should pay her to spend more time with her. but, once we were in the back room she tried to continue the conversation we were having rather than strictly appeal to me sexually. i guess what i am saying is that she made it very clear from the beginning that she wasnt interested in taking my money. whether or not that was pure manipulation or not is hard to say. thanks again for your thoughts guys. i really appreciate it.
-jay

I will stress again, watch your wallet. If you keep that in mind anything else should be acceptable.

Detox75. Has a point because as I said Strippers r MASTERS wen it comes to Pick Up because that's how they make their money, but it u do get a text like that, RUN!

Take it from both detox75 and me (I'm a tattoo artist) it has to do with who u r and wat u have to offer.

A tattoo artist and others have a certain lifestyle that is inviting to them.

Points to detox75!

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-TOAST

Ya I worked there a year and only fucked a waitress. Apparently the strippers dont like jocks or fighters very much. But they love them some tattoo artists and rockers. Good on you toast, bang a stripper for me.

WILL DO!

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