Hello, great forum, found this stumbling around on Google so I figured I'd get an opinion.

I wouldn't say I'm a master pick up artist, but I can tell you that I don't sit an analyze every line of a text message for some hidden meaning. I usually just have fun, and up until this point, it's worked flawless.

Long story short, I have a mutual friend with a girl I'm interested in. This mutual friend said I was interested in her, and asked her what were her thoughts. In a nutshell she said that she didn't see how I could like her, that she didn't think I liked her as a person... Said that I was handsome, dynamic, smart, and that there was a point where she would have absolutely considered it, but she just didn't understand how I could like her.... AND that she didn't want to be another casualty.

In hind sight, I probably didn't treat her very well, she likes to thump the bible, and I guess isn't exactly this tough party chick I thought she was. Bad on me for not properly doing my homework.

In response I sent her a brief email. Essentially said I was a bit shocked that she had this opinion of me but that it was simply wrong. She basically said thanks for telling me, but actions speak louder than words.

This was about five weeks ago.

Not really looking to one and done this one.

Granted I probably can't begin to give enough detail for any major advice, but I've been really nice to the girl, but it does lead me to ask this question...

Is it to soon to ask her out... Something not threatening, movie etc...

Hi and welcome. Firstly I just want to knock you back a bit. Your game is not flawless. Thats just an outright lie. No ones is. So I hope you just used a wrong word.

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Well you said its been 5 weeks so not thats definitely not too soon to ask her out. Theres no timeframe to do things on because every interaction goes differently. some people even get married in the first month.

It sounds like the interaction has been mainly via email or other devices and not in person. So in that case asking her out will be the biggest step or hurdle you will have to make. It always is. And will be asking her to step out of her comfort zone.

Its always better to ease into these things, so that its not actually a massive hurdle and it feels more comfortable. You can do this by seeing her in person through the mutual friend, or at a party, where it isnt strictly 1 on 1. But if its been 5 weeks and you haven't been able to do that. Then by all means try ask her. What have you got to lose. Just try not to call it a date. It puts too much pressure on the both of you.

If she ignores it/makes up an excuse/says no. So what, you tried. She will be the one regretting not doing it. Whereas you wont, because you made the effort to meet someone new and should have nothing to regret about that.

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Fair enough, makes sense!


Thanks!

When I read this i thought of that song "i don't want to be, another causality, of society"

Saying you're flawless is definitely not a flawless thing to say.