I'd post in relationship section but I'm new, please help!

Ok so I've been going out with this girl for 3 weeks, and we planned a movie night at her house tonight. We had been talking about it, and she seemed excited but ten she for sick yesterday. She was talking about how she felt terrible.

So I texted her "I'll be over at 6:45"
She responds, "(my name)i dnt think you can come, the pain is so bad that all I've been doing is sleepying, i cant even talk. Or look at the tv. But thanks for caring. love you."
I respond, "Sounds like you really need somebody to be there...feel better though:)"

Was this a shit test to see if I'd go over anyways?? And if so, did I handle it correctly? Any thoughts/advice would be great!

Thanks!

maybe she's just ... sick?

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Not everything is a "shit test".

It could very well be that she fell sick. Or it could be one of the other reasons, as likely.

What it isn't is a trick question, like you are treating it.

My advice is that you dropped off the texting at a good place. Stick to it. Let the next initiation come from her side, when she's "feeling better".

Regards,

Luke

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...why did she say she loves you if you were only dating for 3 weeks?

is there a time limit on how long you should know somebody before you love them?

If so please let me know so I know how many hours/weeks/months/years to wait before i tell my next girlfriend I love her..

to the OP... Talk about over analyzing lol A girlfriends shit test are more of " Do I look fat?'... "Would you care if.." Things of that nature.. I highly doubt, shes faking sick just so you can come over anyway.

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Please be realistic. "Love" so early on is nothing more than lust in disguise. Don't kid yourself.

make sure you remember not to smother or overthink things man. Its unhealthy in a relationship and will only cause problems down the track!

Howabout for next time you just say... If theres anything I can do (ice cream, medicine, hot bath;) ), make sure you let me know. get better xo

Show you care. But show you wont smother. Its attractive

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so the couple that gets married after two weeks of knowing each other and stays together for the rest of they're lives weren't in love?

I think you have a immature sense on what love is.. How long did it take you to love your mom after coming out of her womb?

I loved my best friend after a week, when i knew and he knew we would die for each other if need be..

"I've only known you for a short time, but it doesn't take a whole day to recognize sunshine." - Common

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and even on this, its also important that you SHOW it rather than TELL it with things in a relationship

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There's an isolated example for everything. The fact that you had to pull up a random quote shows that it's you who has an immature sense of love.

Snarg and Fuze, seems like you're having a misunderstanding. Love is entirely possible within a very short amount of time (two weeks). But a large majority of the time, people think it's love, when really they're just being naive, however there's no doubt, some do fall properly in love.

Lmao.. An example and analogy to reflect my point is immature lol .. ok dude

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Just wait until she's better, in the mean time, chill man...

Just relax OP...the girl is just sick and doesn't want company..When she feels better, she'll let you know.



As for the love thing..It can be a misconstrued statement....People often, for example I'll use high school kids...laugh at the idea that they "love" eachother and only known eachother for a few weeks. Because, how could you love anyone that you just met? God forbid you instantly pick up on their personality traits, mannerisms, their perspective/outlook, and appreciate it to the point where you have genuine love for that person..

I too use to laugh at the fact people thinking they're in love after a short amount of time...But then as I got a little older I started to see people, and life, a little differently. I feel love for most people I encounter now..There is at least 1 thing about everyone I know, that sets them apart from everyone else, and those are usually the reasons I love them........That doesn't mean I want to go and fuck everyone...and I'm not even talking about sexual attraction here...You can call it attraction, but theres nothing sexual about it. The point is, before any of that stuff even comes to play, you CAN love somebody for who they are, just a few hours after meeting them.


When it does come to relationships though..I'm personally, usually hesitant to use those words.. I've found that sometimes girls say they love you, because its like a security blanket for them..They may not even feel any love for you at all..but they'll say it anyway just so you can say it back and fill up their empty souls lol So with that said, it takes time for me to say it, because when I do say it, I want to know that it means something, and know that I'm not wasting my time expressing love that isn't there.


Anyway, Austin....Just keep cool..The girls sick...she wants time to herself to get over it and feel better....In the meantime, don't offer to go over her house and make her soup and shit, or anything like that.....and if she does invite you over...keep in mind she is sick...and you might not want to catch those cooties until shes better lol

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