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Hey there, Yes I was shy at your age. The thing about high school is that it can be very difficult. (especially with dating and picking up girls) Popularity in high school tends to be the deciding factor when it comes to dating and sex. I basically re-invented myself. I changed my style and attitude. (bad boy)
The thing you must remember is that you are not the only one that is shy and feels awkward. Everyone does at your age. That being said, don't be afraid to approach the girl you like. Odd's are she is just as shy. I would suggest you find that cute girl that is not so popular and work on her. The thing about high school is, it tends to be very cliquee. If you are not in the "main clique" thats ok....there are lots of people that are not.
If you are just trying to get laid, and don't want a girlfriend. I Suggest you try to develope some sort of reputation as a bad boy. That is what i did, and the women started to flock to me.
Also remember that there is an entire world outside of your high school. Girls at your age tend to be a little bit boy crazy, so it is much easier to "chat up" girls from other schools, that know nothing about you. You can play whatever is suitable. "bad boy" etc.
When i was 18 I started to talk to girls from other schools, soon i was seen with theses girls from the girls at my school. Then like magic, the girls from my school started to give me attention. ( seeing me with other girls that they did not know)
The thing about high school, is people don't tend to be interested in who you really are, it's more of a popularity contest. The real world is much different. When you get older you will see, most people from your high school will never be seen again. That being said, don't be afraid. ( odds are you will never see them again in a few years anyways.
If you are not willing to create mystique about yourself. I suggest just diving in ( keeping in mind, the girls are just as shy as you) Hit on every girl you are attracted to, without fear.)
You can also selectively decide to work on one girl. Start with a compliment, if its a girl in your class, tell her she looks beautiful today, or observe any changes ( hair style, ear rings....etc then compliment them on that.) THEN stay away, and observe, If is she looks at you ever or gestures your way, there is a good chance your words affected her.
Being mysterious in high school is always a good thing. I am not sure of your popularity status, or how your dating past has been. But there is one rule that i have always had since high that is true to today as well.
Always be polite.......even if you get rejected, it will not be as bad as you expect.
I guarentee you this. If you politely ask 10 girls out on a date( with no fear) you will surely get at least 1 yes. It's the starting off that is the hard part, once you get a date, it will start to get easier, you will not be so afraid to ask other girls.
In my experience, girls from other schools were easier to deal with, they have no pre-set judgment on you based on your popularity or anything.
1 more thing-----If you are interested in one of the really popular girls......IT is wise to hit on her friends and completely ignore her, if you can affect her friends, she will surely start to seek your attention. ( as she is used to getting all the attention) the more you ignore her, the more she will try to get your attention, its basic "player" science.
People your age tend to be too clouded to see the real people inside of everyone. So create someone, you only have 1-2 yrs left in school anyways right? go out with a bang! it will make college and the rest of your life a lot easier. Trust me, i was once there.
GL to you my friend.
If you have any more question, don"t be afraid to write.
Thank you for the eyeopener, I will absorb everything you said and try to make some progress. And yes, I have a couple more questions, but before I start I should begin by saying who I am(which I forgot to mention in the last post)
I'm, in my opinion a good looking guy, I have slept with two people(to few in my opinion) and I sometimes hook up with girls at(make out etc.). I'm fairly popular, most people know who I am, I get invited to parties etc.
But actually there is only one girl I am intrested in, she goes in another class and we talk from time to time when I meet her in the hallway(mostly we just say hi, lol. yes, I'm pretty shy) she has displayed iOi's (indicators of interest, you mentioned you were new) and have asked if I'm going to the same party as her from time to time. I would say she is a HB8-9 maybe? nice body and tits, but her face isn't perfect. she liked me like a year ago but it kinds stopped, my friends put to much pressure on her(without me knowing) when they talked to her they were like "come on, come to the party' for RamGun's sake?"
I think she is insecure, she has cried several times at parties and god knows for what reason. Lately she has been ignoring me a little though, I don't know why, all I know is that I want to get together with her and soon haha. so any tips?
once again, thanks in advance
~RamGun
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