Hey Guys,

Quick headsup: I'm currently staying in Holland and gamed this HB7 (maybe up to hb9 in some people’s eyes she's a model) over facebook. I travelled down to her city last Tuesday and met her after work for some drinks. Ended up spending the night, didn’t get to smash her but some passionate kissing). unfortunately I feel she has lost some of her earlier attraction(certainly her enthusiasm) as she has started to not reply to some of my messages and in fact hasn't replied to my last message where I trying to set up day 2.

I’d really appreciate If you guys could have a look at this SPAM thread I shared with her and point out where or if I'm going wrong. And also how would you go from here. Would you back off? (I’ve made no contact in 4 days) but don't want her to feel I've lost interest.

Her fabricated name is Renate. The thread starts from last Tuesday and the first few exchanges took place while we were actually together in the restaurant (she was with work colleagues so I was playfully SPAM her at the table) some of her responses are simply with emoticons (the double lines or numerals ) so may not make a lot of sense. Also remember she is Dutch so her vocab is limited.

First day
11/22/2011 19:49: me: Why you always calling me names!
11/22/2011 19:49: Renate: 
11/22/2011 19:50: me: Stop using your phone its rude!
11/22/2011 19:51: Renate: 
11/22/2011 20:16: Renate: 
11/22/2011 20:26: me: Dork
11/22/2011 20:26: Renate: Youuu

Next day After spending the night at hers in the same bed kissing
11/23/2011 09:43: Renate: Have a good trip back
11/23/2011 09:52: me: Will do dork
11/23/2011 18:27: Renate: (here is where she sends me phone pics of us she took)
11/23/2011 18:28: Renate:
11/23/2011 18:28: Renate:
11/23/2011 18:32: me: Aww I like the second 1
11/23/2011 18:32: me: The first one is GAY!!!
11/23/2011 18:35: Renate: Hahaha
11/23/2011 18:35: Renate: I love the first one
11/23/2011 18:35: me: Loool
11/23/2011 18:36: me: How was your day?
11/23/2011 18:36: me: I am dead
11/23/2011 18:44: Renate: Im deas as well
11/23/2011 18:45: Renate: Gonna sleep earlyy
11/23/2011 19:22: me: Lucky you!
11/23/2011 19:22: me: I'm still working
11/23/2011 19:30: Renate: Im in a friends place.. Eating
11/23/2011 19:36: me: Not fair?
11/23/2011 19:36: me: What did you eat?
11/23/2011 19:41: Renate: I dont know how to explain
11/23/2011 19:41: Renate: Its gooodd
11/23/2011 19:41: Renate:
11/23/2011 19:41: Renate: Suriname food
11/23/2011 19:57: me: You stuffed your face!
11/23/2011 19:57: me: And didn't think about skinny me! Lol
11/23/2011 19:59: Renate: 
11/23/2011 19:59: me: Was your creepy friend smelling your hair at work today?
11/23/2011 19:59: Renate: No but he do other weird things
11/23/2011 20:00: me: Like?
11/23/2011 20:00: Renate: Saying weird shit
11/23/2011 20:12: me: I want you to cook for me
11/23/2011 21:10: Renate: 
11/23/2011 21:38: me: You don't want to cook for me!?
Doesn’t reply so I open again
11/23/2011 23:13: me: Right. Shower and bed!
11/23/2011 23:13: me: 
11/23/2011 23:16: Renate: Haha
11/23/2011 23:16: Renate: Yoi told me ur a good cook
11/23/2011 23:16: Renate: So show me
11/23/2011 23:18: me: Wow is that how you ask!?
11/23/2011 23:18: me: 
11/23/2011 23:18: me: Yes boss!
11/23/2011 23:18: Renate: 
11/23/2011 23:18: Renate: please
11/23/2011 23:18: me: 
This is where it gets dodgy in opinion
11/23/2011 23:19: me: This weekend I'll make you the #my name# salad
11/23/2011 23:25: me: But you have to come to haarlem!
11/23/2011 23:25: Renate: Its my fathers birthdayy
11/23/2011 23:26: Renate: When i have my day off on sundY
11/23/2011 23:26: Renate: Im sooo tiredddd good night honnn
11/23/2011 23:32: me: Night night

I didn't like the way she ended our exchange so I waited 3 days to open again
11/26/2011 14:56: me: My head hurts
11/26/2011 14:57: me: How's my 2nd favourite dork?
11/26/2011 14:57: me: 
Guess she didn't like my opener as she didn't respond to this

The following day:
11/27/2011 16:33: me: Omg just saw someone who reminded me of you!
11/27/2011 16:33: Renate: Hahaha
11/27/2011 16:33: Renate: Really?
11/27/2011 16:33: me: 
11/27/2011 16:33: me: Yeah!
11/27/2011 16:33: Renate: 
11/27/2011 16:33: me: She was hot
11/27/2011 16:33: Renate: 
11/27/2011 16:34: Renate: Hahahaha
11/27/2011 16:34: me: What did you get for your dad?
11/27/2011 16:34: Renate: Nothing yet
11/27/2011 16:34: Renate: 
11/27/2011 16:34: Renate: Couldnt find somethong
11/27/2011 16:35: me: Jeeez
11/27/2011 16:35: Renate: But i'll look tomorrow
11/27/2011 16:35: Renate: Tomorrow is his bday
11/27/2011 16:35: me: great daughter you are!
11/27/2011 16:35: me: Lol
11/27/2011 16:54: me: So you don't send me pictures anymore
11/27/2011 16:55: Renate: Yesterday night (sends pic)
11/27/2011 16:55: Renate:
11/27/2011 16:56: me: Cute
11/27/2011 16:59: me: How was your weekend?
11/27/2011 17:02: Renate: Greattt
11/27/2011 17:11: me: I really enjoyed my time with you in ~her city~ (feel like I’m) struggling at this point
11/27/2011 17:13: Renate: Im happy! Was cool to see u finaly
11/27/2011 17:30: me: Yeah you know I'm a shy midget who needs hugs and kisses right( called me a midget in retaliation to my constant negging)
11/27/2011 17:39: Renate: Haha
11/27/2011 17:39: Renate: Is that true?
11/27/2011 17:53: me: Yes but I want them just from you
11/27/2011 17:55: Renate: 
11/27/2011 17:55: me: Loool
11/27/2011 17:56: me: You don't like the cheese I'm selling hahaha
11/27/2011 18:02: me: Want you to try my salad
11/27/2011 18:03: me: Maybe I can sell the recipe
11/27/2011 18:15: Renate: Hahaha
11/27/2011 20:22: me: So when are we doing this? We can do it like- Come Dine With Me 

She has not replied back to my last message which was sent on Sunday.

What are your thoughts? Am I being paranoid? I’m aware I made some errors but I wouldn’t of thought them to be fatal.

Any feedback is appreciated

Cheers guys

you may have screwed up here :


regardless, of its something you did when you met her or afterwards, she doesnt seem that interested....you're sort of interviewing her and those many "txt openers" even after long periods hurt my eyes.

you can clearly read that ll effort is coming form you.... so

simply "cut the bad thread" and by that I mean her. forget it, just NEXT it!

Thanks for the advise Whitea.... Just out of interest what is it about the quote you highlighted about me wanting her to cook for me(which was delivered with a tongue out smiley) do you believe may have had such disastrous results?

Also I understand reading the thread all the effort appears to come from me which it generally was at this point (there were compliments I gave only because we'd been intimate prior) but she communicates a lot through smiley's and sending of pics which are not really transferable here. So with your point about moving on: that makes great logical sense, but should I really just scrap it when technically her only real sin was failing to respond to my last message and of course not reacting as enthusiastically as I would like?

If I hadn't met her and experienced her clear attraction- possibly could and should of banged her- I would literally just move on. Just don't want to jump the gun.

Thoughts?

Whitetea,

Thanks again for bothering to reply. Reading my inital post back now and its a chore! lol

Whitea made some decent points, but I wouldnt throw in the towel just yet. Perhaps you should wait a few days and then start a new thread.

Thanks Prontoboy,

I've not messaged her since Sunday(its now Wednesday evening) How long should I wait before messaging? as I said, don't want her to think I'm not really that interested.

Another bit of info I didn't mention was: prior to going back to her place after drinks we were actually kissing at the bar before she lead me to the toilets where I witnessed her engage in another extra curricular activity before proceeding to push my tongue in her mouth once more.

Just trying to paint a clearer picture, so you guys can have a better understanding of my frustrations

If she did a shit in front of you ,mate she is a nutter

LOOL.... good one

Actually SPAM her again last night- no reply.... usually pretty confident in my ability to put them away at some stage or another after getting the first 'date' i'm pissed mate

I'm no pro at this but have you directly asked her on another date yet?

I knowits frustrating,you should see my post about my girl at work LOL

Yeah mate, That was what I did in my last message.... oh well, on to the next one!

Thanks for the reply btw

No worries mate, I know it can be dis heartening at times. But keep on going!!

Cheers mate!