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was in starbucks earlier when a beauty sat at the table next to mine. I was on my own as was she, so i got over my approach anxiety and introduced myself. we hit it off and spoke for abou fifteen minutes, i think she was into me (or at least i got no indications that she wasn't).
we both went outside to smoke... she need to go back to work and i happend to be going that way, so i offed a lift and she accepted. everything was good but i didn't know how to close...
everyone says, you have to get her to offer her number to you and not ask for it yourself... so i waited... and lost my opportunity!
any useful information or closing lines?
"everyone" isn't always right. and in fact, not everyone even says that. Asking for a number is great, provided you've done well up until the asking.
To ask for a number after having a good time with someone, try this one:
"Hey, its been fun, hasn't it, so if you can see us meeting again and having a good time, why don't you give me your number, because it'll be great to hang out"
Uses a lot of hypnotic principles:
Hey - focus attention
its been fun - lost performative causes subliminal assertion that its been fun for HER
hasn't it - tag question makes it harder for subconscious to say "no it hasnt" helps you get a YES
see us meeting again - she will actually imagine it in order to understand the phrase, so she obviously CAN see it, gives you another "yes"
having a good time - she will also imagine this, another yes
why don't you - subtly dominant, and appeals to the possibility of mismatchers, people who always automatically think of the opposite
give me your number - subliminal command
because - giving a "because" even a null one, gives big +1 to your YES factor
it'll be great to hang out - another lost performative, and sets up a positive future frame. When she imagines this, after all those yeses, it'll almost be like she already said yes.
Now, even a carefully worded and delivered hypnotic sandwich like this will fail if you don't start with the cornerstone of a good experience with her to build all those YES's out of.....But it sounds like that wasn't a problem.
If you want another chance with her, make a point of being there for coffee at the same time on a regular basis. People are creatures of habit, and its fairly good odds she'll come in round the same time for coffee sooner or later.