Yeah I wish there was something like that I could do. We live about an hour away so we won't come into contact unless one of us makes the call. I'll probably just let it go for now, call her up in a couple months and if she doesn't react then oh well.

Good luck anyways, I hope it works out exactly as you'd like to! Don't be surprised if she calls first, even though some chicks are so proud they'd rather die than do something like that

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rAFC and yes, I'm a chick.

I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

Yeah she's about that proud. 90% of the time she calls, but that's only when we fight over stupid shit, and like I said we just hit a new low point. I'm pretty good at judging these things and I'm not expecting the call. Guess it's all the better though, this way I won't be holding my breath waiting so I can move on.

Thanks for the help guys.

On one hand that's good for you, correctly assessing the situation. You acted maturely, like a man, and that's something to be proud of! I see many women in your future life in my crystal ball

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rAFC and yes, I'm a chick.

I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

you can cure this entire situation with a threesome.

just think about it.

you'll figure out why.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Mack, share your wisdom and enlighten the rest of us as well

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rAFC and yes, I'm a chick.

I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

Okay, i have an update. So i knew again i wouldn't get a call, so i called again and... brace yourself... she's still pissed off!

She basically asked what did i want and i said just to say hi, she seemed to go out of her way to let me know she "didn't care anymore." I played it cool as hell and said good night.

Where should i go from here? NC seems to screw me every time - depending on her attitude at the time we stop talking. At times like this, when she's pissed off, it doesn't help. It seems to make things worse, but at the same time contact doesn't help either. What im thinking now is maintain intermittent contact, not too often but not too rarely.

At this point, is it actually worth it? If she means a lot to you, you can try, but do you really want to be with this kind of person long term?

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rAFC and yes, I'm a chick.

I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

Do you know anybody who is a jackass when he/she is HAPPY and NOT ANGRY?

Kadafi is a fun guy when he IS NOT angry . . .

You don't judge character by 'happy times'. Happy times are easy. You just do what comes naturally when the environment suits you. A girl sucks you off or you eat ice cream, you smile. You hear something funny and you laugh. INCREDIBLE!!!!

Do you know anybody who does not have to deal with hardship of any kind? Everybody gets tested. Some people suck it up and try to resolve issues while adding more POSITIVE energy into the environment. Others do exactly the opposite. In fact, they will go OUT OF THEIR WAY to create difficult situations just so that they can do their angry monkey act.

You are not a psychiatrist and this girl is not your patient. You have NOTHING to do with her monkey act. If you weren't around, she'd let some random waiter, librarian, or old lady in the street hear her useless bullshit.

Get rid of her now. There are no clauses. There are no lengthy explanations. You don't need to comfort her or yourself. You don't need to prove to yourself or her that you're doing the right thing. Stick around this forum long enough or simply live long enough and you will meet plenty guys who somehow always manage to find girls like this. Then they try to 're-educate' the girl as if she was a dog in training school. This NEVER works and it's a bad, miserable habit.

Yeah I'm pretty confident it can be turned around. I'm surprised it lasted as long as it did and still went decent, I did major damage in numerous ways. It kind of harmed me that all my BS was able to slide that long - I was never forced to discipline myself until rock bottom.

But like I said a couple weeks ago I'm not pouring my entire life into it. Might as well do what I can if it only takes me a few minutes every day or so. I guess there's not much you all could suggest, I have a pretty good handle on this stuff, I just figured a little feedback couldn't hurt.
Haha. I hear you dude and I agree, but it's not as bad as I make it sound - obviously what I'm posting here is what's going on when things are really bad. 90% of the time whether angry or happy, things are fine, it's just at a particularly rough spot.

WOAH crazy... I have a girl just like this when she's mad. In fact, we were in a similar situation to yours a few months ago. We had always fought a lot, but in that particular time, she was pissed off at me for about 2 weeks straight. I eventually cured her of her overconfident pussy-whipping disease when I told her I was fed up with her bullshit and to "have a nice life because I won't be in it."

... she wrote me 3 apology letters the next morning that are long enough to be novels.

How old are you? What can be so bad at your age? Did you lose your job but have a mortgage, car payments, and kids to feed? Did you just F up your start-up business that you financed by leveraging your own home? Seriously, what can be soooo bad?

Even in ^circumstances like these, good, well balanced people use GOOD LANGUAGE. They look for SOLUTIONS. They look to see how they can help. Go ahead and write down for us the 'issues' that caused your girlfriend to throw a hissy fit. Go ahead. . . I'd love to see it.

Look . . . you're a young kid. There are way too many good people around to waste your time on crap. What you're doing is no different than choosing to eat SPAM at a steak house: It's retarded . . . no amount of bbq sauce on that SPAM will turn it into a rack of ribs.

Yep that's how it works usually. I've had it happen similarly but only when I reacted in the way you did, problem is I stopped doing that for quite a while.
I don't mean it like that. Not bad as in life in general, I mean bad as in our relationship. If something was wrong in my life she'd be there for sure 99% of the time unless we were right in the middle of a big fight.

She gets mad, I blow up and get dramatic, it goes downhill from there. Of course she always comes back but it wears things down over time, and we've been doing this for quite a while until I just recently put a stop to it.

As far as "issues" go, you already know they are bullshit haha. When a female gets mad I usually take the specifics with a grain of salt - there is ALWAYS something bigger behind it. At this point I think it's just a subconscious disdain for the fact that I haven't been taking control and acting like a fucking man.

As of now we're okay though, I saw her yesterday, played it cool and she's all over me now. Just gota keep my god damn emotions under control, take no shit, and keep everything cool and relaxed. She'll go along, she always does, I just have to maintain composure and keep things under control.