Hey guys, bear with me and sorry about the long post.
I been talking to this girl for 4 weeks now. Mostly texts, a couple of calls. She was into me from a few months ago but we only started talking after a month ago when we saw each other at a nightclub two weeks in a row, we met through a friend of mine. She told me she has been into me for a while but couldn't speak to me before because she had a boyfriend.

Anyway we had been texting each other pretty much everyday all day since then (which I know is a mistake and I effed up here). We have been talking pretty seriously to the point we have pretty much agreed we were going to start a relationship sooner or later (by the way her family is really strict and she has to keep it on the low) and we have built up a lot of sexual tension too. She tells me how good looking I am all the time and how she misses me, can't wait to see me etc she's even told me she really likes me and can't wait to love me.

I've tried to meet up with her before but she was sick for a bout a week and a half with the flu and she then had her periods for another week, so she wasn't really keen to meet up then. I know for sure that she definitely wanted to meet up so I know she wasn't blowing me off. Everything has been going sweet, though the last timi I talked to her was on thursday. That day I had called her and she sent me a text immediately after we hung up saying "you're cute". That same day she had also told me that I'm the only guy she's been talking to.

I sent her a text saying hey on friday night and she didn't reply, there was a music festival on the next day which we both went to, so i sent her another text if she wanted to meet up somewhere (which is anohter mistake I made, shouldn't have sent anything). We ended up bumping into each other I tapped her in the shoulder and gave her a hug and said "I missed you" she only said "oh did you" and said I'll be back and walked away. She looked in a hurry and like she was looking for someone, her friend was holding her by the hand sort of dragging her along so that might have been the reason why she was so dry (not sure). Anyway I went somewhere else and ended up bumping into her again, she walked past me and I gently squeezed her ass, and she touched my back though we didn't say anything to each other. I think she turned around to look at me but I didn't pay much attention since she pissed me off when she had walked away from me earlier and I was pretty drunk by that time. It has been 3 days since then and we haven't spoken to each other since. I'm really into this girl but I'm not sure of what I should do or say next. I don't want to lose her so any advice on how I can fix this situation guys? It's really strange that she has stopped talking to me so suddenly.

My idea is to send her a text saying "Heyy I was listening to this new spanish song today and it reminded me of you (she loves when I speak spanish to her). Anyway just wondering if we can talk tonight I want to call you cause I think we might need to talk about some things. Ps don't be a stranger this time " But yeah I'm not too sure about sending her that.

Now you know why texting all day everyday is not a good thing.

I don't like that text you're thinking of sending her.
Why not just be honest? you're texting her because you want to talk to her, not because of a song.

You're asking her permission if you can talk to her? Don't do that, just ring her, you have her phone number, you don't need her permission.

"we might need to talk about some things"... It kind of sounds like you're taking things too serious when you're just friends at this stage. Also the fact you said might sounds unsure, which is bad. Be sure.

I've said this about 20 times on general questions, because so many of these questions can all be answered the same way

Step1: CALL HER
Step 2: Give her a place and time

If she refuses the first one because she's busy, persist and find another time. If she doesn't want to, that's out of your control.

I agree with all of that. I would also like to add. based on her behavior, I think she is either still seeing her boyfriend or even a new man.

In my experience, it is not wise to prolong encounters with a woman. You must strike while the iron is hot( regardless of motives...sex/relationship) Women are classic over thinkers, they are very impulsive. so you must act....wait to long and they go in to a black hole. Trust me I have seen it many times.


Don't over message her. Give her an opportunity to write you back.( give her time to over think why you are not messaging her, and she will message you)

Too many messages will scare her away.

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Seduce their mind and the rest will follow.

I would also like to add. All the texting about love/relationships is a huge NO NO especially when you first start talking. Such conversations "MUST" be done with physical contact.....All the senses need be involved. If you text it, it is merely words on a screen and open to infinite scrutiny......Keep it flirtatious and friendly.

Text messages will be analyzed by the female mind over and over. be wise with your texted words my friend.

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Seduce their mind and the rest will follow.

The conversations you were having seemed far too intense and has created certain expectations. Which is a fast way to scare a woman off. Like i said before women are big time over thinkers that tend to worry.

You must keep it mysterious and intriguing, with humor.


If it's not too late already. Try as much as possible to get into physical contact with her ASAP. It's your only chance to get out of the cyber void you have created.

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Seduce their mind and the rest will follow.

Thanks for the responses, I will give her a call tonight and set up a meet up. Hopefully she will answer lol. Should I ask her why she has been ignoring me? or just pretend like nothing is wrong and I just want to see her?

DO NOT ASK HER WHY SHE HAS BEEN IGNORING YOU

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the textbook community text in this situation is "i just met your twin". its simple, non-needy, and if she doesnt respond, its not a huge blowoff. whereas if you sent her "hey hows it goin?" and she didnt respond it would be pretty bad. also, it's much more interesting that the standard stuff shes getting from other guys.

personally i would stay away from anything that even remotely suggests that you have been affected by her ignoring you for a couple of days. act as if nothing is wrong and just be your normal fun/playful/interesting self and continue to attract her. dont come with anything like i miss you/why havent you been talking to me?/what did i do wrong?/etc.

this post made me laugh i wont lie but all in all, dont worry bout, just call her up and buy like 10x more condoms this time ! you'll be fine ! she'll still do you ! or else she would have fled in the first place !

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Do you ASK for a girl's number when you go out ? If you answered yes...then you still need to practice your game

I've made this mistake a lot. You eventually learn subconsciously not to even think about it