MY GOAL
- Happiness

HOW WILL I REACH MY GOAL
- Having a abondance of women in my life
- Having successful studies and career
- Having strong and reliable relationships
- Keeping good health and athletic shape
- Always acting though my own intentions

FOR EACH OF THOSE FIELD, WHAT ACTION WILL BE TAKEN
- Become a pick-artist
- Finish my baccalaureate and be devoted to my work
- Acquire a good understanding of social relations
- Train as hard and as often possible
- Get to know myself on a deep level

WHY DO I START A JOURNAL
- To keep a tracking of my actions and progress to achieve my goal
- To reach personnal grow
- To improve my analyzing and writing skills
- To share my personnal experiences
- To get some advices and support thoughrout my journey

WHAT WILL THIS JOURNAL CONTAIN
- Field reports
- Reflexions and exercices of self improvement

25/11/11 First contact


Tonight is special. It’s my first contact with puas.

Here we start… I go to a bar to meet my new puas friends without really knowing what to expect. First thing I learn from one of the guys there… two very skilled puas were there before and did some impressive shit right in front of him… but now there’s gone. Damn.. too bad for me, that’s what I wanted see; some real live pickup mastery. Anyways, the rest of the group is very symphatic and they all look to have the same goals as me. That’s perfect.

So we’re moving to the club. Time for action! I feel pumped and can’t wait to enter the field…. Well.. we enter an empty place. Shit! The only thing I can say is that I spent the next 45 minutes doing no approchaces, drinking my free drinks and waiting like a chode for something to happen. The other guys with me were scattered all over the place waiting as well.

First time I go to the bar, I notice that one the barmaids (a pure hottie) have a blue shirt similar to the one I’m wearing. Fifteen minutes, later I come back, but she had removed it and put it on the side. So I make some gestures showing my shirt and her shirt saying something like "hey where’s your nice shirt ?" She asks me if I want her to put it back and she actually do it. Wow… sometimes noticing subtle things on people can have suprising effects. Instead of trying anything, I turn my head and look at the barmaid who’s making my drink while the shirt barmaid return to her occupations. What was I thinking…?

To be honnest, this night sucks. I suck. I’m not in state at all. I don’t see any of my wingmen and I’m spending most of my time alone or getting blowned away.

Then I finally make a successful approchoach. Not so sure what happen but I think thta’s the time I used a random opener given to me earlier…
J : " Hey, I like tigers and cats. What about you ? "
Girl : " What? "
J : " You look really nice. What’s your name… bla,bla,bla."
Then I do my usual direct "let’s go dance!" The girl, a 8.5, hesitates and say some bullshit about her sister, but I feel she’s into me. So I asks her to go out for a smoke which she accepts. Smooth isolation…Chi-chat outiside, then she leaves while I’m having a conversation with random people.

I go to the second floor which was more than empty and spot sitted two girls. They seem close to their thirties but they look fine. (7.5/8 ) Here I make a mistake… I sit down two minutes to regroup and review the pros and cons of approching. In other words, I’m in my fucking head! They are laughing and smilling… so finally stand up I open them with something like : " Heyyyy!, seems like you’re having a great time!.. I’m Janel "
I spend the next 30 minutes talking with them about their age "you really don’t look 36 blablabla", about them being in a weekend trip in Montreal and about their bisexual experience…
ALLELUIAH! Things are getting interesting! I’m hanging out with two hot MIFLS that had an experience together (as they call it) two month ago. So we having this conversation and we’re all pretty smashed. I start doing some kino to the girl next to me. Then she asks me about doing gay stuff… I mean litterally. WTF!!! I look around to spot one of my wingmen in vain. No brotha, you’re not gonna put a dick in your mouth for them anyways. The first girl goes to the washroom so take this as opportunity to kino and kiss the second one. I think I went to fast there…the girl comes back while our lips are almost touching… oops. From there it’s game over. Nothing will happen tonight, I have husband and kids, that bisexual exprience is past, don’t lose your time with us. I leave the set empty handed…

I go back down, spot the girl I went outside with before and approach her again. This time we go dance right away and we’re kissing within minutes. Everything is under control. I could’t ask better, she is obviously aroused. I start talking about bringing her home and she’s down. Then PAF-PAF sister comes; time to leave. Her sister give me her phone number because my chick doesn’t have one. God luck buddy! So she kissed me and leave in a flash.

Jeez! I really hate this exact situation when things always get out of my control. It’s repeating over and over again. How can slow down the friend dragging your target away? Maybe it is by making plans for the rest of the night before.

And approach anxiety… this is a main sticking point for me. I need to make a list of 5 good openers to memorise before going out. This will help me to get more confortable and less hesitant..

Finally, I have no clue what to do with my number close. What should I text to the sister? Any ideas?

STEP 01: APPROACHING

I already know more than needed about this subject, but I still don't apply the basic principles. For example, the 3 seconds rule. Therefore, I will start focusing on this aspect of my game until it becomes second nature.

Challenging myself to do a number of approaches is the best way to stay focus and keep my motivation.
This month, the challenge will be to approach 100 girls.
25 girls a week.

Rules
-Openings like "what time is it" with no following in the interaction don't count.
-Same thing for barmaids, waiteresses, female cops etc. They don't count unless the interaction shifts to a seduction frame.
-Why 100 girls instead of 100 openings? Because I need to push myself to approach sets of multiple girls which I almost never attempt.
- Girls introduced by someone else don't count as well.

I read the 60 years of challenge book today. This book was cited by many on this forum. I found the part on approaching inspiring. It changed my perspective a little bit. Instead of looking for openers and try to come up with the clevest things to say I'll just try to work on myself. Open myself. Be social. Or like Jeffy says, just go around only thinking: fun, social, go, smile, loud, go, give value, fun...
The only pre-made opener that I might use: "Hey, you looked interesting. I figured I would come over and introduce myself.” No list of opener. Only situationnal, direct or silly openers created on the spot.

So this week, I'll go out in a crazy venue frequented by very "open mind" girls tuesday night and do daygame on thursday.