| I never really liked that word, "slut." As a teenager it got tossed around at a point where I had no idea what it truly meant, and as I've grown older, that meaning has become even more blurred. What kills me is that the definition seems to change depending on who is saying it and to whom it is being said.
Here are the variations I have come up with...
1. Guy calls girl a slut: usually this happens when a girl shot him down, and he finds out she slept with other guys. Even if it's just one other dude, he calls her a slut because she is willing to hook up (just not with him).
2. Girl calls guy a slut: she got played. He lied and claimed he loved her, then bailed on her.
3. Guy calls guy a slut: this...well this one is rare. It usually comes up as a joke when a dude is talking abotu something particularly kinky/crazy he did with a chick.
4. Girl calls girl a slut: the "slut" in question is getting a lot of male attention that the girl using that word likes to see. It's especially true if some of that male attention is that of a guy the user is interested in.
Then there's the broader use: a person is a slut because they suffer from some sort of psychological issue which they use sex to escape from. A girl has daddy issues so she sleeps around for male validation. A man hates women because his first gf cheated on him, so his promiscuity is a way of getting back at the gender that betrayed him. Other bs falls into this category.
Far as I can tell, though, the basic definition of a "slut" is someone who is willing to have sex solely for physical pleasure outside the boundaries of a committed, traditional relationship. That's the common thread between all these scenarios, at least.
So I have stopped using the word as an insult, because it shouldn't be. The motivation for using the word slut in such a way is always petty, in my opinion. That's why it especially bothers me to see that word get tossed around in the chatroom and on the forum. Here we are, many of us discussing ways to hook up with women, score threesomes, get SNLs, and have multiple fuck buddies, yet it seems like many men here are quick to pass negative judgements on the women they see openly seek sex. That double standard is vicious, and the more women feel like it is wrong to hvae sex outside the constraints of marriage, the tougher it is gonna be on us all.
I am Pro-Slut. I think that as long as you aren't harming others, you should be within your rights to do whatever you want with yourself. If a girl wants to fuck one dude tonight and another tomorrow, so be it, good for her. As long as she isn't telling either guy they are exclusive, nothing truly wrong, in my eyes, is being done.
Is it just me, or is that a good stance for an aspiring PUA to have? If you're not getting laid, why bother looking down on those who have sex when that is what you seek for yourself?
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But the second she commits to a relationship, monogamy should be EXPECTED from her (aside from open relationships). Same goes with us guys.