I'm the total package, but this is my flaw!

abundance, is usually the answer, and if that is not the cure, then something internally is off, neediness often stems from a lack options, you don't invest effort into gaining more options, so you invest alot of emotionally in what little options you do have, this causes you to be needy because if it doesn't work out and you don't reach your outcome, all of a sudden your investment was a waste, when in reality you should be approaching several women constantly, with little to no investment, trying to widen the options as much as possible, there is no ''one girl'' only several girls, once you have slept with a girl you can begin investing and thinking about a relationship, usually she will bring up the whole define the relationship talk for you (that is if you are not managing expectations properly before hand), that is why alot of people throw the philosiphee of, if you have oneitus just ditch her and GFFTOW, or in other words if it isn't working out, don't fix the problem, go find new girls for new problems then ditch them to, eventually the girls just add up, some come back around, some don't, the idea is to get good with the process, not the outcome, that just comes eventually from abundance and experience

playing the monkey, swinging from branch to branch, not letting go of one branch until you have a hold of the next one
-the strategy of a woman

playing the spider, setting down your web trapping as many flies simultainously as possible and getting to them when they are ready
-the strategy of a man

aside from that ..

psychological issues .. clingy behaviours .. terrible .. most of it is just a ego thing and learned behaviours from the past.

identify it .. act the opposite

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Good stuff..thanks

That's an excellent post about abundance, certainly take note of that.

Try and narrow it down a bit further so that you can combat the problem step by step. Like everything, there isn't a magic cure, you need to work at it and keep constantly improving. Identify when you are most clingy, hopefully knowing your exact weaknesses will allow you to combat them.

I believe you'd be clingy or needy when you haven't got many options, when you are not emotionally happy in all/most aspects of your life or when you can't get what you want/things don't go your way...

you need to work into being as detached as possible from the girl ... people want most the things they can't get... be difficult and put yourself first.

One thing I started doing is calling/txting the girl I number close 1/2/3 days later depending on how much I liked her, making plans for days later/maybe a week. not txting her anything in between.

until you get that comfort and level where you both have something in common being distant is the best. if you fail, then at least its not much.

good shit, pumpington, really breaks down about why we are needy in the first place. Getting rid of the root cause is always the easiest thing to do. It's only because you're doubting the abundance that you're being needy.