Hey guys, I'm gonna be starting this log to track my progress as I learn pick-up. I want to change my life and hopefully this would help me; and eventually, help others as well. Hope you'll support me brothers.

A little info about me:
- 21 years old, never even gotten a kiss so you know.
- Don't have that much friends either. Social life close to none.
- Never had a gf
- Has AA
- Uncomfortable when talking / meeting new people.
- Likes manga / anime.

My Long Term Goals:
- Become a MPUA ofcourse!
- Be comfortable in engaging people socially. (Not just picking up women but talking to people and be entertaining too)
- Get Girls anywhere.
- Can make friends anywhere
- Create Huge social circle
- Be an active person than being a person who just closes himself in his room.

Short Term Goals:
- Significantly decrease / KILL AA (by the end of october)
- Join an exercise activity
- Start meeting people.
- Not focus on picking up women but just talking to people in general ( until october)

I will definitely put more goals in the future. Since I just started to create this log. Bit becoming Impulsive. I like it though.

I haven't read any PU materials except for the game. Any suggestions? I kinda want to go natural but I believe I must learn how PU works first. So can someone please give any suggestions?

I want to change my life as many people in here; if not all.. at one point in time wanted to do. Hope you'll support me and I'll be supporting as well. This is my journey to be reborn!

1st day:

Keepin it simple, kill AA. Objective: talk to 5 people

Conversations:
(1) Cashier Girl - Usual how are you's; have a nice day
(2) Another Cashier (Girl) - How are u? went smooth. She gave me a free drink
(3) Guy at gym - How u doing man? bla2
(4) Guy - Nice hair style man, is it natural? talked for like a minute, then left.
(5) Just another guy at the gym

In addition: I said have a nice day/night to people in elevators while im riding.

Its definitely nowhere impressive. But hey, thats fine with me; tomorrow I'll go talk to 10 people. 5 female and 5 male.

Good luck man

@ arrow_sheen
Thanks man!

Day 2 Objective: Talk to 10 people ( 5 female / 5 male) within 2 hours.

Result: FAILURE

Realization: " If YOU want it bad enough; it should show!"

Maaaaan, was weird, I only greeted 2 people with a Hi. One was hb8-9 she also said Hi. And another one was a mature lady who just nodded. I just couldn't say hi even though some HB8 was already holding steady eye contact with me as she walks on by.

I guess AA really got to me today. during those 2 hours, i was saying to myself, do I want this bad enough? coz it surely doesnt show. hmm.. though it got me thinking, maybe I need a certain topic or opener that I can say. Because my mind just goes blank. Example: HB8 sitting by union square, I was about to approach then as I got closer, I thought, what am I gonna say!? BOOM! AA.

Tomorrow's Objective is still the same. Let's test out if I improve how many people I talk to or accomplish it. If I WANT IT; IT SHOULD SHOW

Day 3:

Objective: talk to 10 people ( 5F / 5M)

Result: 7 People.

Conversed with 2 people
Asked 2 people
commented 1 girl
and greeted 2 people.

Realization:
1.)SKIP the Ipod! I wasted most of my allocated time on this mission because I was wearing my Ipod and wasnt paying attention to my surroundings. When I took it off, I suddenly felt the feeling of looking for a girl and paying more attention to the surroundings.

2.) People are kinda polite still even if they dont wanna talk to u
3.) The HBs look kinda fierce. I need a canned opener

Overall, though I didn't reach the number 10. I still am glad I made it to 7.

Objective for Day 4:

1.) Talk to 5 people ( very limited time tomorrow)
2.) Go and Talk to a girl with the INTENT of picking her up. Not just to get AA off. Either Use a canned opener or go direct; doesnt matter. Rejected or not, doesnt matter. Just One! Just ONE would do.

Day 4

Objective: talk to 5 people & open 1 person

Results:

Didn't do it. but waaaait! here's why, I suddenly had the guts to ask this girl I wanted to go out with but she flaked. so that kinda ruined the day. Plus, maaaan I need to be better at text game.

Question: How do you deal with replies that are "haha" or "lol"

Realization:
1.) Well, with each person I talk to, each girl that I text. I get better. So I won't expect anything for now. I am just trying to learn

Objective for tomorrow: Talk to 5 people and use an opener on one person

Day 5 & 6

Objective: talk to 5 people and use 1 opener

Result: Partially Failed

Reason:

I am really getting busy this past few days. Totally an excuse, I know! had to say it. But wait, why partially failed? the reason being that Instead of when seeing a cute girl and then the usual afc moves (e.g. stare then look away, make proximity closer, well.. that's what I just do; i don't know what the others are); I just wanna say a comment or talk to them. I have the feeling of "hey what can I say" and usually comes up to my mind is look at the situation and comment about it. Some, weird look, some politely replies and the few I have conversation with.

The other thing, I don't go out to approach and kill aa. I just go on with my everyday life and just talk to people. Maybe not at the streets, but grocery, safeway, walgreens, office depot, whatever. I don't talk all the time; just when it seems right. And I don't limit it to attractive girls. Its to everyone.

I wanna be at a level where I can open at the streets. Because Like I stated, I just look at the situation like "hey she's holding this bla bla" and comment about it. But on the streets there's none.

So yeah, I did not use an opener. Like from MM. But I am meeting a few more people now. Not necessarily getting their numbers; but, well, for me it's a start

Realization:

My previous realization stated that if I really wanted it; it would show. I guess I just built it up on my mind repeatedly that I want to change my life and kept watching motivational videos. I'll end this for now since I don't want to get ahead of myself. Its just that I want to input here my progress to help me and hopefully someone who's goin through the same feelings.

Haven't posted in a while. Well, I still havent used an opener. But AA has significantly decreased due to the fact:

Realization:
1.) The more u think of what ur gonna say or do; the more anxious your gonna be. I figured just go with the flow. Yeah, I talked to everybody when I needed something like directions, fashion opinions etc. And it is not limited to HBs but homosexuals, elderly etc.

2.) Just go on with your life. Don't go out to approach basically. Just do your thing, and be sociable. That's what I realized that works for me that killed AA. Ofcourse sarging is different. But I'm still on AA

On a side note: I'm hanging with this girl right now, possibly hb 7-8.5; depends on u. And I got her number through killing AA. Yes, I wasn't sarging or anything; just tryin to be sociable. I mean it makes sense, out of all the people in a place; there's bound to be someone who u have same interests in.

Mission: Use an opener this week. Period. If I don't use one. No More Excuses, I officially admit to myself that I don't want to change my life. And I should Just accept being alone.[/i]

Good shit dude.

What do you mean you are hanging out with a HB7? :o

What I notice is that the first approach is the hardest so I just open the first dude I see. The more you open the easier it gets. After I talk with like 2-3 people then I feel invincible and I can talk to anyone. But if I stay quiet and don't approach it becomes a bigger and bigger thing and it becomes this giant obstacle.

I'm basically in your situation...I'm going to try and talk to as much people as I can in college and see what happens.

glad that someone is at least reading some of my entries lol

@never111

just hangin out with her. but not so much now. she prolly lost interest lol. anyways, no big deal; im just startin out anyways. wasnt really expecting anything. for now, all im expecting is to experiment on what to do and learn from it. yeah your totally right. if u wait for the right person to approach and not just do it; its gonna turn out to be a big deal and it makes it even harder. lets do this bro!

All right 2 days till the end of the week. use an opener!

Short Term Goals:

Significantly Decrease AA: Got it! ( But no means that I'm Picking up or talking to people on the street)

Join Exercise Grp: Already did. GYM

I focused on talking to people yeaaaaah. and I let a girl get away. Anyways, there are many fish in the sea. Though it was a waste that the reason is that I didn't made any moves why she started dating another guy. well, I'm new to this, I'll just charge it to experience

Now for november its a simple goal:

Start getting digits of girls. and then go out

I already have somethin in mind for the barista where I usually buy my coffee. Something kinda Very geeky like in a romantic way? I'm just planning on writing on the receipt given with first a HI then give it while im being handed my order. Then next wud be u look cute today . Things like that. Its not hard work, and its not like im goin to the coffee shop just to see her. will just do my everyday routine. But now.... I'm goin to try to input some picking up of women in it. soooo whatdya guys think of that method? it requires time, yeah. but don't care really.. I mean I dont really know people in the city and fuck it. If u want something u gotta go get it.

well, updates again.

ur only young...i was shit at ur age...but here is some good news
at your age i looked alpha..worked out pumped iron...got into fights...but couldnt dare risk loosing face asking girls out...my ego was that fucking huge
it cost me big time
it took me a long time to realise i took life way too seriously
u gotta be able to laugh at yourself
u gotta not take things personal
especially girls who dont even know u turning u down
i mean...like i said...they dont even know u ....
if they did know u they would say yes because your a cool guy...get it
eventually when u change how u see life and how u se urself in it...a new attitude emerges
a carefree expression comes to ur face and your body language goes from uptight n stiff to realxed
when this dude approaches women...they can see by his walk...he is a cool guy
and because he dont care they usually say yes anyway and when they dont he still dont care..
this is a true pua
as ur into manga and shit i would imagine u have had enough people calling u a nerd or geek or shit
and if u cared you would have quit being into animee n manga...but i bet u really dont care what people think...and right there u already got the drop on me when i was your age.
even though id have been one of the assholes making fun of someone who liked cartoons...
use this knowledge and u can win with people and women.

@bullshitter1
thanks for the advice man. I'll keep that in mind especially the ability to just laugh at yourself part & not takin things too seriously.

So... I wasnt able to do the one I said for the barista coz she wasnt there. and I kinda had a bad day because of someone. Instead of just takin my food home and moping and just watching tv or somethin; what I did instead was when eating dinner at this place I saw a cute chick and just went one seat apart from her. And just talked to her. I got her number. I texted her awhile ago & no reply. Its fine though if she doesnt reply. I mean, my goal for the month is to start getting digits of girls and I made that yesterday. I maybe got a fake one today but heeeeeey. at least things are movin along

Realizations: 1.) When ur having a bad day. I remembered that it takes a few minutes to feel an emotion like pissed or angry; but after that few minutes its ur choice if u still wanna feel that way.

2.) U just gotta have fun and dont think about it too much (kinda hard to practice!)

Well, for tomorrow its still gonna be the barista girl and whatever happens happens. I'm tryna do the do not go out to approach women but approach women as u go out thing. I read it in this forum a couple a months back. props to that dude. that really made me think the other way. coooool.

Thanks for reading. have a good one bros

so for the barista update. I havent seen her ever since my post of hitting on her. like she just disappeared lol. So i have been goin out with this new girl. nothings happening though; maaan.

But I did something new today. Wherein I can say that I made a bit progress. I was at line on a grocery and there was this HB7.5 behind me and I just talked to her. I tried 3 second rule but couldn't do it. but still went on, and it turned out good. Didn't get her number. But hey, if I would just be able to keep talking to people it would be good. Since to my understanding, to be seductive, u must first be able to socialize. Well, at least to become a PUA

I was practicing my text game today. with 3 girls. Basically, same opening text and follow - up kinda similar. One of the girls did not reply back after the initial reply. I am just practicing the tips that are in the forums about texting.

Missed Opportunity: A girl on the train I was sitting, there was a free seat next to me. She was standing. I was texting one of the girls.. trying to come up with what to say. takin my time. then we made eye contact. she had that fierce look. I looked away. then I thought immediately I should have nodded towards the available seat. Then when the one in front of me went out she sat there. COuldn't say a thing. wanted to put a text on my phone about something but thought 3 sec rule passed waaay too long.

I don't want to feel that way again. letting opportunities pass by.

Lessons Learned on texting so far:
1.) Don't text questions (closed or open ended). Make statements or remarks.
2.) One thing that I've noticed is that u dont always gotta answer her question or at least straightforward.

Example: yeah im doin good. just in here. how about u?
Nothing im just hanging out. u?
How about u. whadya think?

Just answer with a statement like. If there was bla2. it still kinda answers the question. but u get to introduce a new topic. u dont go like: sup. im good u?. im good too so whadya been up to?. boring conversation.

3.) most important at all: Take your time! u gotta be busy.. or at least seem to be. u dont wanna be the guy that replies too fast like u aint doin nothin.

Well, thats what I learned for the past few texting trials I've been doin. That's just initial texts though. Like I just met them recently.

If there is anyone reading this that has tips on how to open on public transpo. I'd like some tips please. And on hired guns specifically register girls or opening on cafes. thanks!