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| Rag&BoneMan | PostPosted: Sat Nov 26, 2011 3:12 am | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Enthusiast | Joined: Thu Sep 08, 2011 8:08 pm Posts: 54 Location: UK, leeds/london | | Title says it all.
I'm done caring about routines, approaches, wings and so on. From what I've seen of uni/college game in clubs it consists of grinding a stranger and going home with them. Apparently I lack the confidence to do this. Its one thing to approach people and start talking, for me theres a wall between talking and dancing with someone straight off the bat.
I'm not sure if its just excessive confidence or just trial and error whether they find you intesting or not. Regardless, I'm tired of trying to do what feels like forcing conversation and trying to pick people up when avoiding the obvious fact that everyone around me is just trying to go home with someone else.
Any pointers on how to get in the right mindset?
Ta
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| mattflow | PostPosted: Sat Nov 26, 2011 4:09 am | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Enthusiast | Joined: Sat Jan 24, 2009 2:13 am Posts: 41 | | try living in your own reality when you approach and bringing value through that instead of hoping some routine your not vibing with will bring value to the set because in the first scenario you assume value the second is slightly validation seeking.
try a hangout with the wang out kinda attitude obviously matching your own personality but since i was so introverted when i learnt game i had to find someone the opposite and so i used to like stifflers attitude from american pie,hes a not give a fck,everybody wants me,im not afraid to go for what i want,confident,funny.. so that helped me see what an extreme not giv a fck mindset looked like.
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| mi1ooo98 | PostPosted: Sat Nov 26, 2011 9:26 am | |
| Offline | | Dedicated Member |  | Joined: Tue Nov 08, 2011 11:16 pm Posts: 699 Yahoo Messenger: Ask AOL: Ask Location: Australia | | Yeah, i like matt's reply. Try and visualize your ideal self(of not giving a fuck) visualize a person you think is very powerful if you can't visualize yourself. Someone who you would want to have the confidence of. Someone who is calm and confident in any situation they get into. The more you start visualizing this and realizing that's how you want to be, the more you'll be in that mindset. Untill the point where you are that person. Feel the power of being that person, harvest is, and know you can use it just like they do.
Live like it's your last day to prove yourself, you can't be a pussy.
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