Well, firstly well done, on following through with my advise of not contacting her.

So, she's initiated. You can just let her know that you are not in that class anymore and move to some normal conversation from there. Continue with attraction and comfort but keep her at a hand's length i.e. don't get too close and don't let her get too close to you either. Maintain a status quo and she will want to break that.

Then, you will have your chance.

There's an excellent post on "Arm's Length" by Slywalker. I'd advise you to refer that.

Good luck.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

NOTE :

I have been a very active member of the site since June, this year.

I've met some exceptional men and some very wonderful women. I've added techniques to my game which has help me evolve in another dimension as far as the whole pick-up process goes.

But, as like every roller coaster goes, when you're on top, you're just starting your downfall.

The last couple of days have been tough on me, both mentally and physically, for a lot of personal reasons, which I don't see a point in going into.

This thread is one of the major reasons which makes me keep coming back to the forum. To be able to help a guy, is a big satisfaction, simply 'cause in a way I've helped another human being to get one step closer to possibly meeting the love of his life. And that's a great feeling.

But, I also have to take care about my own state. And the state I am in right now, is not helpful to you or to me, or to the forum as far as my contributions go.

So, this is not 'Goodbye' (or maybe, it is).

Either way, I need to sort my life and person out, before I try to sort out yours.

Thank you, for your time, support and consideration.

Sincerely,

A.S.

(Don Draper)



[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=suRDUFpsHus[/youtube]

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

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"J, I guess yer so amazing in bed you send the girls into a transcendent state where they realize their own mortality and are shaken by the realization that their presence bears little impact on the universe, or they just realized they hate you"
-DJ_Z

I've had my 15 days away from this place and it's time to change the sign on the door.

So, this thread goes from "CLOSED" to "OPEN" again.

Gentlemen, be excellent in your questions and your behavior. And learn to take my criticism calmly and humbly, is all I am going to ask of you.

The rules on the first page, still apply. Except I'd like to make one change.

Please do not PM me with text message queries. I rarely check my Private Messages and I can assure you that you will get much, much faster help here. Even if your situation is a bit private or embarrassing, rest assured ,I'll make sure of it, that it deserves the requisite care and privacy.


Here's something for you guys to enjoy.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yV4X-0TxBos[/youtube]

Looking forward to your questions.

Thank you.

- Don

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

*Cheers* *Applause* *girls lifting their shirts while screaming your name*



Welcome back Don!

cant wait to have my next text message conundrum so i can post it on this thread.

hope everything is well and that your 15 days were pleasant..



Looking forward to your answers,

J Slay



PS - that video is supposed to be funny but its kinda true in many aspects.

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You miss 100% of the shots you never take.
- Wayne Gretzky

So I'm seeing this HB10..well she thinks she's a HB8.5 lol

ANYWAY


We've been seeing each other at the weekends. I've kept texting to a minimum and have been playful, funny, confident and non needy. My question is,

how do I keep her wanting to come back for more? Texting during the week is the only way we will communicate during the week (at the moment, we're busy and i'm still gaming her! can make time when we get closer)

I need consistency incase I run out of ideas. I mean I'm pretty good I just need an EDGE! any advice at all is welcome

That should tell you something about her. It means she's quite insecure about her looks. Now, you at least know what topic to avoid teasing her about: Physical Appearance.

If all you're doing is texting each other, then why keep it to a minimum? Basically, texting is your only way of developing rapport with her, as you say, then you really need to be in touch with her as much as you can, without coming off as too needy or too aggressive. What I mean is if you're feeling like you'd want to have a conversation with her, have it. But, strictly keep the send:reply ratio to 1:1. Too many guys flood a girl with texts and then wonder why she won't reply back to them. Well, where's the breathing space? It is possible to have long, amazing conversations without making it seem like you've nothing else to do.

Also, the more you talk, the more you get her to talk (this is important), the more comfort you will build with her. And comfort is the key to reducing flaking. Also, try to call her too. There's no real substitute for calling, it's like speaking into her ear.
Well, there's a list of topics, that I've outlined two or three pages back in this thread, about which you can have deep conversations with her. Also, if you read this thread properly you'll find that I've given out a ton of strategies to make your texts interesting, deep and something she'll always want to reply to.

Good luck.

- Don

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

I met this girl last weekend at a party I opened with Hi How you doing
HB: hey,are you a player?
Me:yes I play all the time, you should see me when I am playing Call of duty
HB: no I meen guys who lies to girls
Me: why did you think that I am player, even though I did't say anything other than hi how are you?
HB: you look like one
Me: so is a player a guy who lies or a guy who is very sexy?
HB: where are you from?
bla bla bla
HB: were do you live ?
Me: this city
HB: I meen which street ?
Me: the name of that street
HB: I live in the same street as you
bla bla bla
HB: Do you want to walk me home?
Me: ok

when we were by the side of here building
she stood Like she was waiting for something
I went for the kiss
after making out and groping for half an hour
Me: so now what?
HB: I don't know
Me: do you want to come with me to my flat or do you want us to go to your flat?
HB: my mom and brother are staying with me ?
Me: is your brother a meat head, Should I run?
HB: hahaha no he is only 12
bla bla bla
Me: Give my your number
HB:ok

now the texting part
Me: hey have yor brother left? I am still scared
HB: chill out I told you: he is only 12
ME:I am chilling
HB: I have another brother he is 27
ME:don't worry I can defend myself , If I couldn't I would hire you as my bodyguard cause you're tough
HB: If you pay me well , I might think about it
Me: well, it's a voluntary job


Me: wanna get my back tomorrow
HB: I am staying at home this weekend
Me: who said anything about going anywhere?
HB: In which other way can I take your back?
Me:you know exactly how and that's my second Favourite thing about you
HB:I really don't know , I wonder what's is the first thing

I am thinking about writing I wont tell you I am not that easy
any suggestions?

Come again?

What is even the purpose of this post?

Is this a part of a conversation? Are these random messages?

What is the context?

Did you read the rules before posting in the thread?

Does this thread look like a joke to you?

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

LOL i dunno why this made me laugh so much

In no context could it actually make any sense

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I'ma be what I set out to be, without a doubt undoubtedly, and all those who look down on me I'm tearin down your balcony, no if ands or buts, don't try to ask him why or how can he

sorry about the first one I wanted to make it short and didn't have enough time cause I was Studying for an exam

So, far I cannot see anything wrong with the conversation.
All right, well, you did take a chance with going for the proverbial "home run", as they call it, but apparently, she wasn't feeling up to it.

Lack of comfort? Could be.
Sounds like a decent conversation.

Teasing : Check

You qualified her with the "bodyguard" comment, when it should've instead been her qualifying to you. Also, the last text was a bit flat considering the light, teasing nature of the entire interaction.
Firstly, you started off where you left off.

I assume "get my back" is in direct co-relation with your "bodyguard" comment? Well, if that was the cause then you needed to have prepped her a bit. Something like, "Hey bodyguard. I am going out for a walk. Wanna get my back and make sure no puppies "assault" me? " or something like that.

Keep it fun and teasing, you've just met her. Comfort building can always come in the "getting to know you better" stage. If she's got it firmly set in her mind that you're a fun guy who gives her space and is amazing to talk to, you can move on to Comfort building then.

Now, to the reply.. Well, here's something you CAN go with, though I would suggest you to interpret the thought process behind my suggestion and use it with your words, so as to make it congruent with your persona:

Me:you know exactly how and that's my second Favourite thing about you
HB:I really don't know , I wonder what's is the first thing
Me: Oh No No. You aren't getting that answer so easy, Missy. You'll have to earn that from me. Anyway.. (and change the conversation)

Let her qualify and fret over it, tease her about her curious cat nature and eventually tell her something really obscure like you like her hands, they are fascinating or something like that. She'll be surprised with it, and that's never a bad thing.

Anyway, I hope I've given you a fair amount of guidelines to work with. You are always welcome back for more queries.

Good luck.

- Don

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

ok so Im trying to practice my text game and was wondering if this would work on this girl I have been talking to?

me: woah, this made me think of you,
her: what that
me: there is this girl that is trying to get with me and im trying to decide what to do
her: either will say how does that remind you of me or something in a positive flirting response or ask who (depending on how much of a connection i made)
me:(if asks who, describe her) she is korean and cheated on a test to get a date with me(we made a bet that whoever has the better grade on this test has to take the other out to eat)
her: either a convo closeing hahaha or a flirt back response

we have set a date but am trying to maintain attraction because it will be a little while before the date. please give feed back or constructive critisism thank you

It's good to see your break was a short one Don

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"J, I guess yer so amazing in bed you send the girls into a transcendent state where they realize their own mortality and are shaken by the realization that their presence bears little impact on the universe, or they just realized they hate you"
-DJ_Z

Firstly, I would like to ask you something.

When you say that you have "fixed a date" with her, do you mean that you have managed to make plans for a dinner and drinks with her? Or you've just talked about fixing a date?

Anyway, if she's willing to be seen out with you, then it means that you've hit your level of attraction through the initial texting stage. Well done.

Now, you don't try to increase it, otherwise it'd be awkward. Like the little text routine, you came up with? That looks contrived. It looks made-up. It will set off her bullshit-o-meter, and that's never a good thing.

I'd say you can "maintain" attraction with your current state of game, assuming it got you a date with her, at the same time shift a bit more attention towards comfort building. She will be on the date with her barriers up, now it's entirely up to you and your comfort building skills to make them weak or strong. So, get set to that task.

Anyway, as for your little canned text routine, it could be played with something like..

You: Hey! Something made me think of you today!
Her: What's that?
You: Well,.. (makes some story about something you saw somewhere and try to link it to a feeling that she gives you.)

That could work.

Good luck.

- Don

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "