Just ring her up when YOU want to hang out next, stop worrying about her, stop putting her on top of the world. I wouldn't text her back, it sounds like you get a bit carried away via text.

Just call her, plow through all the commotion in her life, and ask her if she wants to come and hangout with you, or go shopping with you, or anything. Just be normal, and stop worrying, you were just FWB remember, it's nothing serious, AT ALL.

My .02 would be not to text her back.

Or, if you feel you really want to, I'd keep it very short and sweet.

Something like "have a good weekend too" or something similar.. her text was short and sweet and didn't really say much, so if anything I'd give her a similar one back.

Thanks for all the advice guys, much appreciated. Know I need to chill out as I'm never like how I was with this chick (well not since I was about 13 anyway!) ie unsure of my actions and regressing into the pussy i was born out of!! I think the silly pedestal i've put her on has come from the fact, she's the first chick i've met for ages that I potentially see as gf material.

Anywayz, i'm going clubbing tomorrow so definitely will be meeting some new chicks. The irony being that I have no problem with chicks that I meet when i'm out partying, I guess because most of time it's a ONS and then I move on and even if I do see them after the first time, most of the time, they tend to be not my type in terms of LT so again, since I kno that, I don't have to really care. I guess I need to transfer that attitude to this chick.........

@kasabi : spazz.......don't think so mate! I fucked her after 2 calls and a wk of text escalation, not very spazz like really. I just got a serious case of one-itus and wrote some stupid shit. seriously tho, be careful cussing people out, yeah it's good to not give a shit but if I was mentally unbalanced or something that could have sent me over the edge........at the end of the day, the forum is here to help everyone, home truths are one thing, trying to make someone feel like a cunt is something else, no?.......just saying!!!

you really made a new name just to post about the same girl???

Come on dude, like kasbi said... you have nothing to prove to us or her

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I know I have nothing to prove. I'm trying to improve! Dunno what you mean about new name. I'm new to the forum.

As I said, I know what my faults are and I'm trying to meet these head on!

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1. Dude, I like you. You're quite thoughtful.

2. You are 100% a spazz. A girl isn't a science experiment that needs to be 'figured out'. You continue to ask, "Why? How?" Here's the answer. WHY? - Why the hell do we need to know why? Just enjoy the unknown for once. It's OK . . you're not going to die. HOW? - Well, that's the one million dollar question isn't it? HOW the hell would we ever know what the hell a girl is thinking?" Oh wait . . . I hear there's a book for this:



3. I don't think you're imbalanced or even have a case of the oneitis. You just need to breathe a little bit and chill out. The suggestion for "OK" was not a joke. Seriously . . . a few OK's in place of all psychological quizzes and analysis, and self-explanations would have gone a long way.

You might be too young to remember the Fonz. This guy's so cool, he forgets to say "OK" before he hangs up. LOL . . .

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lol spazz?

the clever man learns from his mistakes.........the wise man learns from others!!! Just trying to be wise but maybe i need to experience the mistakes to fully appreciate the learning experience.......mayb that is the wise man!! i will ponder and let you kno

Agree, don't analyse it so much, enjoy the unknown as kasabi says

True, thanks for all your advice, if I didn't seem it, I am appreciative.....even of the spazz comment! :p I do live by the ethos of critical assessment, maybe I am a spazz! The unknown fear is very true. Been living in a bubble of things coming way to easy, the reality of unknowingness is a tad worrying!! But I shall face it with my balls in my hand! :p

in a semi drunk state (mini night out before a biggie tomorrow), i must admit to weakness! I text a reply to her, it was as follows:

hey sexy bum, that's cool. Enjoy the w'end. Call me when you're ready. x ps impossible as it is, try not to think about my body.......too much! :p x


I am trying to get into no-expectations mode however, I though it best to get it out there that I don't want this to slide into friends so by putting the ps in there it kinda gets it out there. she was always going on about what a great body i had so thought a little hook in there might be helpful to jog her memory!!!

oh and i know chicks aren't science experiments and no-one can write about everything to anticipate in terms of the human condition, my questioning is more related to people that have possibly been in my situation and or what they would do in this situation. Pretty sure, I have not once asked what she is thinking, i know what she is thinking, hahahahha she is thinking, "he's a spazzz"!!! ;p

Oh, I get it. This girl is mentally challenged!. . . retarded!. . . so you just want to continue to REMIND her every day that you're into her, you care for her, and that you really, really ,really like her. . . because otherwise, I bet she'd forget.

Because all that stuff you wrote before . . . it truly didn't project what was really in your heart did it?
An average girl will know that ^this means that a nerdy dude really, really, really likes her but a retard probably will need reminders. So you continued:
By the way, are you Korean? Man, I love those Korean soap operas(not really). . . Essentially, 80% of all those shows are about some fat, underprivileged and undereducated guy who's courting some rich princess who's being courted by a powerful politician's son. This is funny. The politician's son always says, "OK", and buys her shit like Porsche's and 5k dinners. The poor fatty usually spews all that nonsensical crap you've been spewing to your chick. In soap opera land, the heart pouring nerd wins every time.

Please report back to us and tell us how your nonsensical science experiment works for you in real life.

lol, don't need to remind her i'm into her with my heart (i'm not sure i truly am at present), i WANT to get her back into a more banter-filled (read fun) state therefore, I didn't mention anything about missing her, I told her not to think about my body cos I know she likes it.......what is wrong with that? The only thing may be timing.IF I was trying to do what you are saying, surely something along the lines of i miss u or something akin to that would have been my course of action!!

Am I Korean? no. why are you? I am half chinese and half african tho!

Am i gonna buy her gifts? no. Am I going to pay for her to go out? Fuck no, in fact, she owes me a night out so no chance of that. Am i going to write her a romantic sonnet? ummmm fuck no. I'm just going to be myself with her and if she wants to go back to things being the way the were then cool. If not then so be it.

I think you have things twisted. I am asking for advice because, I have somehow let my emotions run out of control which I never do. I am not asking what should I do if her left eye moves right and her right eye moves left.........the correct answer there is, RUN, for the record!!

And for the record....fat? nope sorry. underpriviledged? nope sorry? Undereducated. guess what? nope sorry.

In case, you didn't get what I said above, i'm not trying to show her what's in my heart, I would like us to simply get back to having lots of sex and then whatever happens after that happens. Can I have sex with other chicks? Of course, as I said, I've been living in a world of things coming VERY easily but I don't want a chick that's interested in me cos of my money or job status, I can see right through them because they simply do whatever i want. My problem comes from opening up to people. I generally dont have to with the chicks I roll with and because of that, when I did with this chick, I didnt realise the effect it would have on me! I

Money or Job status? What exactly do you do for a living bro?

Just remember... The more honest you are with us about you and her the better advice you will receive.. If you make us think you're some super playa, you will be given the a advice any player would get.. I'm not sure who you are or what you do but just keep that in mind.

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lol, i'm nothing special, i am pretty well-educated (degree,mba) and work for a hedge fund. Don't earn millions but 6 figures. I find if you are in a club on one of the main tables and spending money, chicks are fairly easy to get. I was doing that for a while but it's meaningless shit. Don't get me wrong, it was ridiculous fun!


What i need to work on is inner game. I kno this for a fact. I'm definitely not some super player but as I said in my previous post, chicks that I've seen since I broke up with my last gf, I would not really consider as gf material. Hence, this is a bit of a situation for me as quite honestly I dont know quite how its happened but i started to like this chick (way too much!) and became a complete pussy around her in a way, if i am honest i havent been since i was probably in my teens (now 31)!!. I became completely unsure of myself when generally I don't give a shit.

I guess that's the answer lol, just dont give a shit until you really have to.......at the moment I don't!