You know that shitty feeling you get knowing you reaaally should dump her, but don't want to?

Fuck it, dump her anyway.

That shitty feeling is your brain's way of saying "fuck, this is going to be difficult". And it will be. I can tell by the way you talk about her that you're obsessed as fuck, and that's fine. But that doesn't mean you should continue suffering like this. And make no mistake; you are suffering. Being jealous is an absolutely terrible feeling, and I think you'll find that after a few week of being broken up with her, you'll feel much better and be able to look back and reflect on your decision that it was a good move.

I know how you feel. A few months ago I came on these forums telling the same kind of story, and there were probably 20+ replies, all telling me to break it off - not a single person told me I should stick it out. I didn't believe them, and continued the relationship anyway for another month or so. It got to be unbearable. All I did was delayed the inevitable and it made the breakup so much more difficult at that point.

Just fucking do it.

Agree with all the replies. I was in a long distance relationship for 1.5 years, i thought we could make it work, i believed it so hard, hard so much expectations. When it didn't work i thought i'd lost all hope of everything. Thinking she was the only girl in the world.

How far i've came since then, when we broke up, i blamed her, and said it was because she was immature, the thing is, it wasn't her fault at all. It was nobodies fault, we were both immature. And that's 100 percent normal. She was 17. I was so full of hate for her after the relationship, because i invested so much emotion into her.

You have to realize that it's YOUR problem that you have so much emotions tied up in something that's out of your control.

It's like putting money on a horse you love but you know it's a slow horse and it's going to let you down with every dollar you put on it, but you keep putting more money on it, as if it's going to make it run faster. How idiotic does that sound?
And guess what, it's exactly the same in your situation. You can invest as much of anything into this girl as you want. In the end, it's the same deal as the horse. It DOESN'T WORK. It's almost like rigged gambling, you're losing money now, and you're only going to keep losing money, you're trying to get it back, but it's only making it worse, and making you poorer.

Detach man, detach as much as you can, invest your energy into better things.

I look back on my 1.5 year relationship and i'm so glad it's over, because i actually realize i can get the exact girl i want now and there's no way i'd be in a relationship with anyone unless it was that EXACT girl i want. And i didn't have to change her one bit.

Everyone should be in a relationship with someone who's exactly what they want. Can you say her characterless you've mentioned in your post, that you clearly hate and is making you depressed is what you want? Of course not.

Bottom line, MOVE ON

somebody shoot me

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

directed at OP?

nope, directed at "somebody"

as in anybody, lol

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Hahahahaa, really though

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^^ Anyone gonna reply to this? Lol it was one of my longest replies, and nobody seemed to notice it. I realize everyone's advice is to dump her, but for WHAT? Just so I can trade her out with another one just like her? Wouldn't it be a better idea to work with what I already have?

Most of that has been answered. Find a better girl. Because they're out there, regardless to whether you believe it or not.