| These are some of the things i do:
1-When she says something that i agree, like "i love XYZ song/ movie/ food/ person/ place/ etc..." i give her an HI5, usually with a strong Borat voice.
2-If i she says she is good at something, i challenge her, i set a reward for the winner and i automatically do the "pinky promiss". As im doing the pinky promisse, i hold the eye contact and i say something like "dont you dare skip this promiss... i will find you!" and while im still talking i slightly release pressure from my pinky finger to see if she takes her finger away or not (complience test). I use this for challenges or if we suggest doing something together.
3-Girls usually have either rings on her hands, or bracellets, of crazy nails... whatever. So i usually go "i was at XYZ place and i saw this woman with like 6 inch nails, all crazy painted! and besides, she was wearing a bunch of rings! I was so trying not to laught cause i was imagining her putting the rings on by throwing them all in the air and catching with the nails all at the same time.". 8 out of 10 times the girl that im talking to will AUTOMATICALLY talk about her own nails, or rings or something ... Here is a GREAT opportunity to touch her hand. Ask for her ring, let her take it out and than YOU put in back on. THEN i follow with "you have really small hands!"... i sit REALLY close to her, with my right shoulder touching her left shoulder, i put my right hand (facing down!) on top of the table and i tell her to put HER hand on top of mine! Again, complience test. See how confortable she is. If i see she is not confortable, i will kind of move to the side a bit, to give her a little space, if she is confortable, i will just stay there, almost shoulder to shoulder. I usually give her a little hug with my right arm, pulling her hear on my shoulder and go "awwww... its ok to be 25 and have baby hands... but please let me know if you still wear dippers! (sarcastically)" and i push her away!
4- another thing i do, specially when im close to her, is this. I grab a little piece of paper (from a napkin or something) and i hold it in my hand without her noticing. When she is talking to me, i make eye contact and i suddendly glance at her hair. I make i contact and i glance at her hair again. As she is talking, i reach for her hair and take out a little piece of paper that is stuck in her hair. She will usually stop talking and look. Show her the paper (as if she had it in her hair) and tell her to keep telling you what she was saying. NOW, obviously, you had that little paper already in your hand. Just hold it like between your index and middle finger. She wont see it. You can even drop it on her hair and grab it cause she wont see it.
5-When i read about kino escalation and touching the girl in the arm or leg or something, i was always thinking when should i do it, how, etc... and i would get nervous. So i decided to train myself to to this: Connect light touches on the elbow or leg, with words i say! So i would touch when i would say that word. For example: im telling her and episode, at some point i would say "wait, it gets better", or "listen to this" or "you should have seen my face/ this guys face/ etc" (these are commands, im telling her what to do) ... So, everytime i give her "commands" such as "listen, wait, look" i would touch her. I also found that changing my voice tonality when saying those "commands", as well as leaning a little towards her and making deep eye contact while saying it, IS EXTREMELY POWERFUL! Lower your voice tone, say it slower, look in her eyes AT THE SAME EYE LEVEL, and smile!
Well... these are some of the kino escalation tactics i use ... try it and let me know what you think!
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