Quote:
"Honesty is the best Policy"
Well, here's the thing. Honesty is very, very appreciated by women. But, total honesty is what I am talking about here. Sure, we all say white lies from time to time, but to be honest where it counts, is a trait of very few people. And you will find that they do quite well with the opposite sex too.
Truth is, half the time you don't really say what's on your mind because
A - You're thinking what she's going to think, and in turn, over-thinking. Which ruins your chances, when you could've just said what you had to say and leave the whole her side of the thinking process to her, instead of being a Nostradamus about it.
B - You want to come off as someone "cool, mysterious. James Bond type" because you feel that in your current state she won't be attracted to you. Well, here's another honest revelation, women CAN SEE THROUGH men very quickly. She will know that you're putting up an act and she will call you out on it. Killing not only your chances with her, but also serving you a piece of the embarrassment pie.
So, being honest is not wrong. But, first you need to accept your thoughts and your person. Completely.
Women love to hear about the effect they are having on us. If she's cute, if she's dressed in a figure hugging dress, if she's wearing those heels that make her derriere look hot, compliment her about it. She's wearing them because she wants to feel good, and your compliments will help her feel good about it.
But, yeah, the catch is: If you're committing to being honest, go all the way. Doing things half way is worse than not doing them at all.
Good luck,
Don
Ok ok, very good deliberation here. However, I'd like to add to the whole honesty thing. Sure women LOVE to hear a guy completely come out and honestly say, "Damn you have a great sense of style, you are a turn-on. What are you doing walking around like this, you should be in jail" because let's face it, that's the honest exaggeration that goes through our minds right? Saying that to a woman can be a hit or miss. Instead, it's better to take the middle path like 60 years said in his material.
Instead of saying something so over the top even though it's 100% honest and you absolutely don't give a fuck what anyone thinks, it may not be the
best and smoothest alternative to go about it.
Instead, it's better to say something like, "Hey you looked interesting so I wanted to meet you." It's still direct, but not over-the-top honest. She didn't win you over yet, and it lingers on.
"No Tension
I know some guys still think this ambiguity is a good thing. It’s better if she is wondering about your intentions, right? Actually, not really. That’s because there is
almost no tension when you start a conversation this way. It’s way too comfortable for her right from the start. Most times after your initial comment and subsequent
thread runs its course, the interaction fizzles out. On the other hand, using very direct openers (ie. you are absolutely stunning!) can also be hit or miss.
As such, I usually choose the middle ground. For example, my favorite way to start a conversation is ”Hey, you looked interesting. I figured I would come over and introduce myself.” This line is delivered seductively but slightly aloof. Yes I want to meet her but I’m not completely won over yet. This opener obviously creates some tension but it’s not so over the top that it’s awkward. It doesn’t box you in. You can still be a challenge and she still has to qualify. In fact, by adding that she “looked interesting” most women will want to stay consistent with that and try to live up to your initial perception of them. In other words, qualify to you."
Credit to 60 years of challenge.