I have been living with a 23 year old swedish girl for the last few months. I am interested in her but she sends very confusing signals. She has body language which I think indicates interest ( she plays with her hair, brushes her hair back, etc ) and she also does things which I think are very flirty. For example the other day she was wearing a really short dress and she kept playing with her legs while talking to me and that kinda thing.

She plays a lot of mind games with guys and she has a lot of guys interested in her. I basically called her out for playing with guys heads and she smiled at me. I have tried testing her by mentioning other girls and almost every time I do this she acts jealous and starts ripping them apart every time I mention a celebrity I think is cute. She seems to love attention and thrives on making guys want her and she feels no shame in this.

The other night me and her were watching tv and I mentioned how I love girls with glasses. Well surprise surprise apparently her contacts are messed up and now she is wearing glasses all the time now. All of this despite me only seeing her wear them once about 2 months ago. I have no idea why she does things like this.

Another weird thing is that a couple of weeks ago I was in the living room playing guitar and she kept walking in the living room. She then for some reason felt the need to tell me about some guy that she made out with for whatever reason. It felt very much like she was trying to make me jealous and when she left the room she gave a sigh and I thought it was weird. I logged onto facebook later that night and found a status update that said " You make me feel so la la la " and I checked the time at it was after she went back into her room. I don't know if I read too much into that or not though..?

She sleeps around a lot... I mean a lot. She has so many guys on the line and the other day she was playing with her phone texting all these guys and she basically told me she was leading them on and that " they think they are going to get something " and she didn't seem to feel bad about it at all! She then says " Well its hard to let someone know that you like them " Immediately I had to ask myself if this was a hint towards me but I don't know.

What is the best way to handle this? I have ys.to have this girl but I have to live with her and I don't want to make it awkward. I have a feeling that if I am too straight forward it will show too much interest and it will not work in my favor.

Sounds like my ex... She thrives on male attention. If you begin to come on too strong she'll get weirded out. She finds you interesting now because you aren't making any moves on her.. Which is rare for her im guessing..

I would suggest you just casually bring it up to her, like " hey, im horny" ... just a test to see how she reacts. Then leave it alone, unless she gives you an obvious lets go now.

What you want to do is plant seeds in her mind leading to sex.. Work slow, anything too sudden and too high of an interest and she won't want you anymore.. Once you open the door to being sexually open around each other your in.. Talk about past sex experiences with her, ask her about her sexual fantasies, the wildest place she's ever had sex.. Tell her you wanna play a song for her and find or write a song with sexual humor..Stuff like that.


BUT whatever you do... PLEASE PLEASE im begging you to see this is a fling and nothing more.. If you catch feelings you're done. Constantly repeat to yourself, " its just casual sex and that it!"

Hope i helped

Peace & Love

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Oh we talk about sex all the time. She has shared lots of sex stories with me and vice versa. She not only tells me about the guys that she sleeps with, but how they measure up. She is seeing a guy and is going to his house for thanksgiving.. poor bastard doesn't know that she used his car this weekend to pick up her other guy friend that she fucks on the side.

Did I mention she gets around a lot?

Well she has been giving me a bit of shit over the last couple of days and I laid into her pretty hard today. Not sure if this was good or bad though.

To start off I pretty much told her that she was tone def. ( I did this in a playful way ) and told her that she has bad taste in music and in life and that she isn't interesting. She then felt the need to bring her other guy friends into the equations and she goes " Well the guys I'm with like my taste in music " and to which I reply " Yeah that does not surprise me " . Almost immediately she starts getting defensive and feels the need to mention how the guy she is interested was in a band ( she knows I play guitar and mentions this why ? )

I was unphased and continued my playful ribbing. I said " You should wear glasses more often. You go from like a 5 to a 6 when you wear them " . Again, she finds a way to bring up the fact that guys want her ( Do you see a pattern here ? ) And I immediately shoot back with " You know, some guys just like to go after the easy pussy " .. To my shock she did not get upset! It was more like she kept trying to justify herself and convince me otherwise instead of just ignoring me or telling me to go away.

She then mentions that she loves guys with a " Lumberjack Beard " Immediately this stuck me as odd because I am doing No shave November and I posted a pic of myself in a status that said that I am trying to grow a " Lumberjack beard " .. She then mentions something about liking tan guys and she found out a week ago that I go to a tanning bed regularly. I didn't know what to make of this so I just left it alone.

I pretty much gave up on getting with this girl because she is leaving soon and I thought for sure my jokes were too far and over the top but to my shock she seemed to be more friendly and receptive after I gave her so much shit. WTF man?

Where to go from here?

If shes leaving soon, you can definitely have sex with her before she does... she would love that last minute fuck more than anything else.. And she obviously likes and respects you if she stood their letting you make judgmental comments..

You can honestly, come right out and say " lets fuck before you go".. What do you have to lose anyway.. I can tell you she will comply with that.

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I tried to make a move about a month ago when her and I were really drunk. She wrestled with me and I was too rough so I gave her a massage and asked her to " take care of me " for the night. She declined and I was waaaaay to persistent about it and it got weird. That was a month ago and I haven't really made a move since then except I bring up sex talk and playful banter. I don't know what the best route to go would be and I think if I just say " lets fuck " its going to put out the creeper vibes again.

From the sound of that girl, and i don't usually give this kind of advice but from the sounds of that girl, saying "lets fuck" might just work, try it at your own risk.....lol like shes gonna say no haha...women. If she sleeps around a lot, especially give the signals she send to you, you're going for a friends with benefit route, which you want to emphasize to avoid confusion on what this will mean if you sleep with each other, and what it should mean is "absolutely nothing, just two friends having sex"

Now for the pua route, if you truly want to game her then don't game her. Obviously what i mean is, ignore her, she seems that shes having fun teasing you, but now its time to tease her, turn the tables, bring over a female friend randomly, act as if you have somewhere important to go, these things will add up, remember the universal saying "women want what they can't have" take that to the bank! and goodluck.

My guess is you are already sending creeper vibes out, but its better to get it out on the table than have her thing your some passive aggressive horn dog, in my experience. If you sit there and don't react, its bad...I think its better to either say "lets smash", or "your fuck ugly, act like an adult and quit flirting." haha...Since your already living together and she is moving out soon you've got nothing to loose by bringing it up...Besides maybe a hot friend who sleeps around a lot and has friends....but who does not have those right?

As you know, women are really receptive and they really crave attention to meet their emotional needs...Throw in the fact that she gets around a lot, I think her flirting with you is not really sexual, more of a power play to see if you will ball up and do anything...If she thinks you are thinking about her, she gets her sick little cocktease emotional self off. lol Not that that is wrong in any way. So I say bring it up, suggest yall get together, before she leaves...That way you don't have her in the corner and its not threatening by demanding it right then and there...My guess is it will throw her game off and she will actually want to fuck because you brought it up.

Let me know if it works...My guess is it will...Kinda interested to hear if it does tho.

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i'd be careful about this, remember she's your roommate. while it may seem convenient and easy to fuck her cos you live together, if things turn bad, one of you will have to move out and find somewhere else to live. and what if you get drunk and have sex once and it makes things awkward from then on?

best to live by the mantra: Don't Shit On Your Own Doorstep.

Awch ..YOU ARE IN A BIG DANGER!!! STOP RIGHT NOW!!! I KNOW ROOMETTES END UP GETTING MARRED BUT WITH COMPLETELY DIFFERENT BACK UP HISTORY AND BEGINNING, THEy BOTH FALL IN LOVE IT WAS CLEAR FROM THE BEGINNING.

WHAT THE F**** YOU DOING WITH ROOMMET WHO IS COMPLICATED, REMEMBER YOU ARE IN A PIC UP ARTIST FORUM. ARE YOU PRACTICING THE GAME ON THE FILED OR YOU PLAYING THE GAME IN THE KITCHEN ?

GET OUT RIGHT NOW, STOP PLAYING WITH YOUR little SISTER. ACTUALLY SHE SHOULD BE YOUR PAWN, HELP YOU GET OTHER CHICKS, GO OUT WITH HER AND GET OTHER CHICKS HOTTER THAN HER. BUILD A MUTUAL RELATIONSHIP WITH HER. AS I READ YOUR STORY THE CHANCE TO HAVE SEX WITH HER IS 99 % SIMES DROPPED OUT BEFORE YOU THINK ABOUT SHE IS SOME ONE FOR YOU. BUT YOU HAVE ONE LITTLE HOLE ON THE BACK DORE TO RUN OUT, BE QUICK BEFORE SHE FIGURED THAT OUT, IT'S NOT YET CLOSED, YOU KNOW WHAT IT IS ? LET ME TELL YOU QUICK BEFORE SHE PREDICT SOME THING ABOUT YOUR PUSSY IDEA. " BE QUICK TO SHOW HER YOU ARE GENUINELY NOT INTERESTED ON HER" . BE FAST FOREST RUN, BUT MAKE IT WITH OUT SHOWING ANY THING DEFENSIVE, THEN MAKE HER TO RESPECT YOU, GIVE SEARTAIN TIME DISTANCE TO CLEAR THE AIR WHICH POLLUTED AND CONTAMINATED WITH JELOUSY AND UNKNOWN STAFF. AND NEXT TIME WHEN YOU BRING A GIRL AT YOUR PLACE SHE WILL MAKE YOU GUYS A TEA, DUDE I LIVE IN SWITZERLAND, I LIVED WITH SO MANNY DIFFERENT STUDENTS AS A ROOM MET THEY CAME ALL OVER THE WORLD AS A RASMUS STUDENTS, MAYBE YOU HEARD ABOUT IT BEFORE. MY EXPERIENCE WITH WOMEN AND ROOM METS ARE NEVER ENDING STORIES, FUNNY, GOOD, BAD ALL...
BUT I MA TELLING YOU DO NOT EVEN THINK ABOUT TO TRY SOME THING WITH HER, DON'T EVEN HOPE. STOP! STOP! EVEN YOU LAID WITH HER THE STORY WITH OTHER GIRLS WILL BE OVER. ARE YOU ON THE WAY TO SETTLE DOWN ? WHY? DO YOU HAVE THAT NEED ? IF YOU HAVE A BIG REASON OR SOME KIND OF MAY BE THEN WORK ON IT, USE MARS AND VENUSE STEP, OR IF YOU ARE A SINGLE DADDY IT'S NOT A BAD IDEA MAYBE PUT YOU FAST WHAT YOU VE LOST IN YOU TO COMPLIT THE FAMILY SET BY YOUR SIDE. THEN I WOULD SAID DO WHAT EVER IT TAKES YOU WILL BE IN A RIGHT TRACK. BUT IF YOU THINK YOU WILL NOT BE ACCEPTED BY OTHERS WOMEN AND HERE YOU GET ONE EFFORTLESSLY AND YOU ARE LOOKING FOR THE WAY OUT THAT'S BAD.. IF YOU TELL ME SHE IS HOT I WILL NOT BELIEVE YOU , I WOULD THINK YOU ARE SOME ONE WHO SEEM TO THINK THAT ALL WOMEN WHO IS NEAR TO YOU YOUR EYES PUT THEM ON A PEDESTAL. CHILL OUT MEN, IT'S YOUR TURN YOU ARE IN A RIGHT DIRECTION NOW FIGURE OUT A WOMEN MENTALITY BY BING COOL WITH YOUR ROOM MET, DON'T ACT LIKE A RESPONSIBLE HUSBAND AROUND, BE JUST A TWIN BROTHER , ONE THING IS VERY VERY IMPORTANT WITH YOUR CUTE ROOM MET ( RESPECT) IT'S ALL WAYS FROM THE BEGINNING RESPECT HER, THAT SHE WILL RESPECT YOU BACK, DON'T GO FAR MORE INTO PERSONAL STAFF, BROTHER AND SISTERS HAVE THERE OWN ROOMS HAVE THERE OWN FRIENDS HAVE THERE OWN INTEREST HOBBIES ETC... BOUNDERY IS VERY VITAL, AND VERY IMPORTANT. AND THEN EVEN EVERY WEEK YOU BRING A CHICKS SHE KNOWS IT'S NOT HER BUSINESS TO EVEN GIVE SOME COMMENT, JEALOUSY IS SO LAME, BY THE WAY YOU SHOULDN'T HAD TO THINK OF HER AS A JEALOUSY, BEFORE YOU GAVE HER THE RIGHT TO BE ONE.
TAKE CARE DUDE WE ARE WORRIED ABOUT YOU.

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Personally i don't think it matters if you have sex with your house mate, if you're both stable

Thanks for the advice guys. She is now saying she wants to stay next semester too. I have been laying into her pretty ruthlessly. Last night I asked her if she ever had an abortion and when she said no I basically hinted at the fact that I thought she was lying. We also got to talking about groupies and I told her that the groupie thing would fit her personality.

I had the apartment free for thanksgiving and smashed a girl while nobody was here. Swedish roomie found out and called me out on it almost soon as she got back. I think she may have found my condom wrapper that I threw away? But yeah.

I had a girl come look at the place to rent but since my Swedish roomate is moving out I decided to make a move on this girl that came and looked at the apartment. Anyway I can use this to create a bit of jealousy?

And someone mentioned the fact that I only game in the kitchen. Not true. Its funny because at this point I'm not really attracted that much to my roomate. Its one of those things that is a challenge at this point and the conquest is much more appealing than the reward if you know what I mean.

If shes sticking around now, and you really want her, tone it back, her calling you was an IOI...But, if she is staying, ask if you really want to deal with that drama...

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Oh yeah, absolutely I have to tone it down a notch or two. What is a good way to gauge her interest without coming off as either needy or overly obvious that I want to bang her?

I have been taking salsa dancing classes and I have been thinking about asking her to let me show her a dance move and get really close just to see if she backs off. Of course if she does I'm going to play it off as if its a legitimate dance move. Good idea or no ?

The best advice I can give you right now is don't listen to a word Yonibon said.