So the girl I've been hanging out with found out about a girl I hooked up with before her... which isn't the issue. The problem is, she finds this girl to be completely unworthy and has no idea why I would have hooked up with someone with her looks/personality (honestly she wasn't that great in either category but things happen). This did a lot of damage to her respect for me and I feel like it put the question into her mind of "is he good enough for me?" which should be the other way around. So my big question is, what can I do to get this respect back? I am guessing "be a man" will be a common answer but can anyone be a little more specific? I know I should take charge when setting up dates/hanging out etc, but any other tips, or things I could read in general about this topic?

Another question I have, which is related to respect, is how do I respond to her requests for me to be her slave? For example, she asks me to go upstairs and get her food. I know I'm not supposed to be her doormat so I reply what's in it for me? Her answer: you can have some? I give resistance but I usually end up caving and I want it to stop immediately. These types of requests happen infrequently but enough to where I need to figure out how to handle them better. What types of responses should I give to her when she asks me to do something in which she is totally capable?

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This girl certainly doesn't respect you and this relationship will start getting problematic if nothing is done. One thing you can do is freeze her out. Every time she think whether you are good enough for her, freeze her out. Don't stick with one girl all the time. (I don't mean you shouldn't be honest in a relationship, i mean you should show her that you have other girls too.)

When you play daygame or nightgame, you set up compliance tests. What do you do when they do not comply? Show disinterest. You don't jump into her hoops when she doesn't comply. You can jump into her hoops sometimes provided that she complies with you.

I think you didn't have the basics set up well thus resulting her not respect you. I understand girls feel cheap when they see you with another low value girl. ( I don't mean their value as a human being, just value as in resources and those.) It's just like preselection backfire.

Next time set up compliance tests for her too. When she don't obey you, give her IODs. If she lose interest in you, this girl is not worth it from the beginning and it will become your oneitis if you don't control youself. Control your urge not to be needy this problem will unfold itself.

Good luck bro.