ok first,let me start off by saying that im not even a PUA. hence why im in need of help with this situation i got going on right now..


ok so theres this girl from my work...she has a boyfriend - i know that those are two brickwalls right there but bare with me.This girls a major flirt and loves to touch me at any chance she gets. shes also stated a few times that she loves me although i dont know what sorta love that this is.and because we work together we see each other a lot and i go to see her during her breaks. to start off ive been very cocky and she seemed to have noticed it a bit. (she eve said it herself) two weeks ago ive had a BBQ at mine and she's txted me asking how it was and i mentioned that it was great exept that it was missing an ingredient....(HB's name). she was loving it and after a few txts we went out for lunch and she mentioned something stupid, to which i replied by saying "Thats terrible story - we wouldn't want our kids to know thats how mum met dead. she cracked up laughing and ever since then she was giving me massive IOI's saying that our babies will look gorgeous and whatnot. on the way back i mentioned to her that i liked her (AFC I know ) but she replied saying she really likes me too and we should doit more often. i took her out today too and it was same old flirt back and fourth. im really stuck in this scenario because i dont want these lunch sessions to become something regular and land my arse in the friend zone. besides im leaving work and i need to escalate this to a kiss atleast. any ideas how i can go about this?


Much Appreciated!

You do realize that if she leaves her bf for you than she will do the same to you. Anyways it sounds like you can hit it, and thats all i would i do.

Lance I'll agree totally. Been there done that.

bro im not after a relationship with her. but i've just found out that they've been together for five years! does that matter really?

Well thats just a question of your integrity. chances are if you dont hump her she will have the sex with some other guy, but there is that old saying do onto others as you would have done to you. I guess the most important thing is how you will feel about yourself after the fact. Im not judging ive poked other peoples old ladys before. when i was younger i felt like shit about it, but now its all free game unless she is with a friend of mine. btw my action are not justified i just dont give a shit.
lol hump is such a funny word

Dude I hope U have no feelings for her. I had similar situation. I didn't even go on dates with her like you did. But it was kinda same situation. I just acted alpha even in front of her boyfriend which made her want me even more. I fucked her at my place and moved to another country. She wouldn't stop thinking bout me now which i really don't like but... I just hope you have no feelings for her and only want to screw her. good luck and I think the best advice I can give you is if she likes you don't worry it's gonna happen sooner or later.

got a date with her tomorrow. wanna seal the deal thn and there. got two hours which is enough before she gets back to work. do u guys have any hints for me there? i just dont wanna go there and screw it all up and i atleast wanna do a hookup

so the date was frigging annoying because she couldn't even maintain contact with me for more than five minutes because all her clients kept ringing and texting her. so once we finished up i told her that she owes me a proper time out or in. and told her we should do dinner and movies at mine. she agreed so fingers crossed that this is it. ill keep you guys posted. do yo guys think that going back and fourth here between dates is killing the attraction?

well chances are if she is coming back to your place you got it in the bag.

Lance, I know what you mean here mate. i had a look through her Facebook page and there are some references on her boyfriend, - travel pictures how dependent she is on him and what not, which made me realize how wrong what im attempting is.. they've been together for a while now and i really don't want to be the asshole that's ruined it. but i can safely say shes been hitting on me a bit and although she has slowed down quite a bit, there's something there that shouldn't be for a woman engaged in a serious relationship. this shit is killing me coz i thought im gonna be the last person to have one-gina but i think i do now! FML

well lads, just an update. unfortunately its not all that flash as i hoped. basically i went out with her once and everything went ok but nothing really happened so feeling a bit deflated i texted her after and this is how the convo went:

Me:
Hey, look i really enjoyed today and u know i love hanging out with u but u know i want to be able to do more stuff with u, but i get the feeling that u arent up for it.Are u ? im just intrigued because im thinking that this may have to stop otherwise


HB: I Enjoy Hanging out with you and talking to you but i just can't promise you more than that. that's how it is. take it or leave it. your a great guy and i like your humor

HB:
Hey Sorry Mate. i didnt wanna be too harsh. ur reaally awesome. i wish we could be friends but its also up2you if you accept it this way...

Me:
Na its cool.You're a lovely girl and im glad you appreciate me as much as i appreciate you.i dont wanna put u in any situation you dont want to be in.you're good company and if hanging out with you had to be just as friends then i think i can handle that.its pretty hard to find a girl with the same banter as you

some people say that i should stay friends with her since shes given me the score but tbh i'd like to know if she would ever consider me in any other way. i know the whole point about posting here is to improve oneself so please gve me any criticism or advise i could use for future . cheers!

Next. You will have to put A LOT more effort in f-closing her than some other girl.

You should never ask girl in relationship if you can expect anything more from your relationship. You wanted her to make the rational decision to cheat on her boyfriend. You could F-close on your date or on your "movie night" with enough escalation but you will never be able to make her choose between you and her BF and come out on top.