hey,

I met a girl at my university tennis club. We got on extremely well, went out to a club as a part of a social and i tried it with her. Unfortunately she said that she was seeing someone. We remained friends, but a week or so late she said that she broke up with him. I invited her to go out with me and my friends on a night out. We went out and ended up kissing a lot, went back to hers, although nothing happened and i ended up going home early in the morning. Although i was excited about her, i think i was blinded to what was happening. the next day she facebooks me saying that she wants to just be friends because she really likes me but doesnt feel anything for me... that hurt.

After a bit of tension, we became friends again, and i sometimes teach her how to improve on her tennis. Recently, I have been involved with someone else but now that has broke down, i wanted to try with her again as she seems like a great girl. I have become a lot more playful, flirty and laid back with her for the last couple of weeks. I asked her out to dinner which she said yes. However, i get a flake message from her yesterday saying that she has to go to her friends birthday. I bust on her a bit and teased her. We then rearranged to meet up the same day but earlier for lunch. I also told her that i dont like flakes.

I feel like im doing the right things now, but that its not working as well as i had hoped. what should i do leading up to meeting her and what should i do when we do meet to try and attract her. Right now im confused. She flirts with me and has fun with me etc. plus i bring value to her through tennis. yet it still feels like im having to try hard to get her, and that she has all the power in the world to reject me.

I'm guessing she is still getting over her past relationship and is looking to hook up.

Mention you stopped seeing a girl and you just like being single and hanging out with friends.

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i dont think so, as she was only seeing him for a bit. right now i feel down about everything SPAM. Im stressed with uni work, fucked up with a girl i really liked, (when it was on a plate), im doubting my chances of getting out of the friend zone with this girl and havnt got many opportunities of meeting new girls. Ive been trying to work on things for the future, e.g. building up, but thats it!

I went out the other night without her, although i ended up talking to her on fb while i was drunk that night. its ok though, i checked what i said the next day lol, i just flirted with her for a bit then said friends were calling me and left fb. today, i didnt go tennis as had football matches instead. I called her after, turns out she didnt go either. i made fun of her a bit and got her laughing a lot like normal, and told her of the funny stories that happened the other night, like my SPAM friends spraying our house with a fire extinguisher lol! I said that i want to go ice skating next friday and that she should come because it will be fun. she said she isnt sure as she has a lot of deadlines coming up and she has her greek society that night, which is annoying. I just said that i was planning on going midday so thats ok and that it will be very funny so she should stop being lazy lol (in a funny way). thats kind of how its been left.

im finding it hard to treat her like a guy friend but its so straining as i like her. I was thinking of ignoring her for 2 days, hopefully see her at tennis wednesday but if not then just call her and convince her to go.

all advice is appreciated!