I'll make this quick,

Girls that I close and begin in a f-buddy type relationship very quickly want to be girlfriend and boyfriend

I need tips, or general advice on how to stay in an fbuddy type relationship.

What I am, and what I do

I am 24, and have a lot of commonality areas with girls. My previous ways of getting chicks was mainly to find out common areas and display knowledge. I've had a lot of life experience and can usually find one issue/hobby/goal that I've worked in, or was tangentially involved in.

I've changed how I use this since starting to get into PUA stuff (very new to the scene) but it's still my general base for attracting women. After f-closing and I make it very clear what I want, and what I'm willing to give. They all agree, but 1-2 weeks comes and they start asking me to be exclusive. I feel like there's some area of game I'm not playing, or playing it completely wrong. I've been mostly a relationship guy and am out of about 3 straight years of serial monogamy, so I feel like the way I talk to them (in phone/person) sends way too many signals that belie my intentions.


I'll give you an example of what happened to me this weekend.

Friday night - Girl invites me over. I was already out, when I got home, she invited me out again. The gist of what I told her was If I come over we're fucking and I'm going home. I'm not hanging out. Then I told her I was going to sleep.

Sunday night - she invites me over again. I finish work and go over late, we start fooling around. She tells me she's on her period and can't fuck. I ask her why she invited me over, she is coy. I break that down and then she asked "Why won't you date me? I can't keep doing this."


This is a situation that has played itself over multiple times. I'm not one much for the 1 night stand. I prefer the 2-3 week fuck buddy relationship, and I'm closing the first few times and then they instantly go into marry me mode.

Let me know if I need to clarify or explain anything else.

you need to set expectations correctly. Only call or text over f-buddys about once a week. Don't have superfluous or fluff banter with them other then when they are with you. Anymore then that and they will expect more from you. If your consistent with the time you spend with them they will figure out their status without you having to define the relationship.

Now many girls wont except f-buddy status, so its best to let these ones just move on, while retaining the ones that do accept their status as f-buddy, until they don't.