if either of the following happens:

- she is seeking validation as "friending" you will help her emotionally heal and move on, whereas, it will be detrimental to you

that's all i know

this thread makes me sad. lol

I've been following this post for about as long as it has been up. I want to point out something people aren't really catching on to because they probably have never had the opportunity you had. Your obsessing over this girl, your creeping on her tumblr or twitter and your making a big mistake. It becomes an addiction trying to find out what she is thinking about. You sit there at every moment you can seize to know whats on her mind to fulfill your void of not knowing the mystery behind you and her. THIS HAS TO STOP NOW! If you really want to move on, forget that you ever had access to such information and continue on with your life.

You sit here and tell us that you understand the situation and how you messed up... how you plan to change and move on but in reality you really aren't. If you still care as much to get on her tumblr/twitter to see what she's thinking of you then your still head over heels for this girl. I understand though, her being your first love all and you were in a long relationship with her but I'm trying to point out something you probably won't catch on to until later. I just want to save you a lot of time by telling you this.

I've been in a predicament before where I was having some problems with a girl I was talking to for about 5 months. You can't find me on any social networks, I don't enjoy spending countless of hours fascinating over other people's lives. Instead I knew I could find her on twitter where she posted several times an hour how she was feeling. So i basically had full access to how things were between me and her. I used that to my advantage and when it came to me getting over her it was so difficult. I still had emotions for this girl but I knew it wouldn't work. Long story short, before I could start doing the things I knew I needed to be doing, I couldn't do until I forced myself off of that habit. Once I realized the stupidity behind it all and was able to laugh at myself for it I stopped thinking about her and continued my life.

The best piece of advice I can give you is to obviously stop yourself from fascinating over what she does or what she is thinking about. This chick is not good for you and trust the guys on this site. They probably care more deeply about you than that gold-digging, immature, selfish chick you call your first love. If that's the case then I am sure falling in love with the next chick will be easier because you shouldn't stumble upon someone as wack as her.

Good luck in all your future endeavors!

this thread makes me want to punch kittens