Ok so ive been having a browse and have been reading a lot of crap on this website and am thinking...

There are so many posts where someone likes someone and straight away have to make a post describing a:

power struggle where they dont know if a girl is interested because she doesnt text back much anymore after the first date

or a situation where she still talks to her ex and the guy doesnt know if she likes him or hes just a rebound.

or a How do I get her to like me???

Or even moronic posts by a girl that fucked a guy who doesnt value her for anything other than her vagina yet she wants to know how to win back her dignity.

And the list goes on..



I think almost every post on here that depicts these situations should have a stock answer: Stop wasting your time and move on

They are just not likely to work out.

I think of the few serious long term relationships ive had. And they always just flowed so naturally at the start. There was never any: "I need advice, I dont think she likes me, how do I win her over?" posts. We were just right for eachother. No complications.

And now I think of all the ones that didnt work out, and I found myself having to ask others for help on all sorts of shit that it was a matter of time before I realised that I was wasting my time. IF ITS ALREADY GIVING YOU PROBLEMS, WHY ARE YOU TRYING TO PURSUE IT?

Its the honest answer that we should be accepting ourselves, and giving out as advice, to save everyones time.

If you really feel the need to post these, then go right ahead. but next time just think to yourself first do I already know the answer and where this is going? Is the answer: Stop wasting your time and move on or cant you accept it yet so you are desperately seeking comforting advice from others.

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well, i could say the same to you: stop wasting your time reading them and move on with your own life.

It's easy to just say it, like when you're in such a situation, you say it but it doesn't really gets through to you. Your feelings are too powerful to be ignored, what is a bummer indeed.

I have said your phrase many times to myself when i was in such a situation, and it just haunts you.

People think about SOMETHING every second, because you can not walk around thinking about nothing. So you MUST think about something, and while that is the - in your (emotional) opinion - most important aspect in your life at that moment.

For me, it helped a lot to read about inner-game articles. Although most articles contain the same information but stated differently, it's like a mini-brainwash. You keep reading the same shit about moving on, not needing a girl, be a man.

BUT in the end, it eventually does come down to: stop wasting your time and move on.

"Common sense just ain't so common"

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By asking questions, they're trying to repair their relationships/try to fix the weaknesses/mistakes. May be they will, may be they won't but whether it is worth it or not is up to them to decide.