A lot of people have been complaining on the forum to have some more solid posts that provide a decent structure or atleast structure in the entire PU scene. As for many of you already have read about techniques and neg's and stuff like that, I'll be talking about the following: The date.
Now the date is a classical type scenario. You get a shower, groom yourself, get dressed and then do your hair (if you have any!) For the rest, you hop into your car or the bus, go the girls place to pick her up or go to the place where you meet and then the 'Date' is on.. but what the hell do we do on this date? Do we need to provide a decent structure, build everything again? Do we need to neg or need to make an introduction to the girl? Seeing as many on the forum have absolutely NO idea what I'm talking about.. I tought I'll write it down.
Rule no. 1 The date is already a date.
You:Lyrical, what the fuck do you mean with the date is already a date? That's stupid. Everybody knows that!
Do they? Curious about it.. then what is a date. Because all that I see is a bunch of kids trying to repeat the same patterns over & over again when they are on date.
Listen up guys, cause this is it. The date, is already a date because of the simple fact that she's already there with you. She already to chose to go out with you. You don't need a routine to draw her back in, you already have that foundation. Instead of beginning all over again, rather continue on where you left of.
Rule no. 2 The tone represents the intention.
A lot of guys still have no idea about what intention and what intonation are. As for those I will briefly explain what is the RIGHT intention and what is the WRONG intention, and for intonation of course!
WRONG I would love to bang the shit out of you because I want to prove to myself that I can.
RIGHT I would love to bang the shit out of you just because I wish to express my attractive feelings towards you.
WRONG Say the last rule with an outstanding fierce tone and proud behaviour.
RIGHT Say it with an honest choice of words and make it funny playful.
You need to realise that actually you can get away with pretty much anything, as you say it at the right way. But do it from your OWN intention and not because somebody else says so.
Rule no. 3 Express yourself
Do not think in terms of
- - I need to tell her she's beautiful
- I need to kiss her now
Do think in what you wish to do because it fits you at that time. But make sure you express it, don't only think about it. A part of being a man is a part of knowing what you want and not be afraid to achieve that goal.
Rule no. 4 The outcome isn't guaranteed sex
Yes, that's right. A date doesn't mean an auto green-card for sex. Get it through your head. That doesn't mean that your game is wrong or she's a bitch. Or you framed it badly. NO!
Stop even thinking in those terms. Sex is a result of a nice interaction. When you start thinking about routines and patterns, you WILL mess up your natural flow and therefor you WILL fuck up your chances of getting laid. Stop worrying, and go with the natural flow in the conversation.
Rule no. 5 Be sexual by showing intent.
The intent that you show towards the female that you are going out with, is what depicts your behaviour towards the room. A male that wants to seduce a female to a specific level, as such having sexual intercourse, will depict a lot more strong capabilities without the fact that he might or might not be aware of it.
Be sexual, you can do this with regard on a lot of notes, for example:
- - Body language
- Tone of voice
- Comical jokes
- Mirroring
- Accidental touching
- ...
Rule no. 6:
Have fun. (© Monkey!)
She already finds you attractive. If you're escalating, she is going to sleep with you. But that's not really the point. The point is to go out and have some fun. The point is to let her be entertaining for you, and be entertaining for her in return. The point is to laugh, play games, have a couple of drinks, talk about your wicked-cool life, hear about her wicked-cool life and fucking get to know one another. That's what you're after, here, and that's what is going to get you more dates.
If your date had a great time, she is going to come back for more. Even if she decides she isn't that into you, she will at least tell her hot friends how much fun she had with you, giving you oodles of preselection should you decide to go after them.
If you're not having a good time, your date will not have a good time, and that's going to wreck the whole fucking thing for you. Seriously, have you ever picked up on when someone is pissy around you, and you start feeling pissy yourself? Your emotions are contagious. If you're not having fun, make some new fun. If there is no fun to be had, you need to rethink what you do on dates. ^_^
I know, this entire post might seem really basic.. but you guys are overcomplicating so many things. Get back to the basics guys, go back to the roots.
≠ LD
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