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Thank you guys. Great advice. Does anyone have a script though ?
Want a script?! here is goes "youre cool but im getting hungry! Im gonna stop by XYZ and grab a bite. Wanna come? we should be back in 45 minutes"
This is all you need! if she wants to hang out with you, she will go, even if she is not hungry.
Just use something simple and direct, do not show neediness, show a purpose besides being with her, and throw a time frame! By not showing neediness i mean, do not insist. If she says "im not hungry", say something like "lucky you! I would chill with you a bit more but i get realy cranky when i get hungry and believe me, you dont wanna see that side of me! i got to go stuff my mouth!". By showing a purpose, i mean, suggest or invite for something WITHOUT making it seem like its about her. For example, you invite her to go eat cause YOU are hungry. You invite her to go to the movies cause YOU want to go see xyz movie. You invite her to walk to blockbuster with you cause YOU are going to pick up XYZ movie. You invite her to go to the mall with you cause YOU are going to get a new pair of sneakers. YOU are doing it regardless or her coming or not, you just thought she could be doing nothing special and she would want to tag along. By time frame i mean, tell her how long it will take. Tell her less time than what you think its gonna take. Like this she knows she will not get stuck with you for the whole day/night, she can still do what she has in miind, she will not have to cancel her later plans... AND THE BEST PART, you can get to the end and be like "damn, a whole hour has passed already? and i feel like we could go on for hours lol". Its usually a very positive impact when some1 realizes that time flies when youre having a good time with some1. Time frame is kind of what Mystery calls a time constraint, but i call it frame cause its more specific, youre telling her when it is supposed to begin and end, not like the "excuse me, i can only stay for a minute" line!