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PostPosted: Wed Nov 16, 2011 12:57 pm 
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This has become a bit of a sticking point for me, especially with this one HB9. We would be texting/flirting but she would occasionally say things like:
- Im a lost cause, forget about me
- Im incapable of feeling anything both pyshically and emotionally
- My heart died a long time ago
-Trust me im not worth it

Can anyone give some good responses for the above texts?

Sounds really bad, which it is. But MOST of the time she is happy and flirty which keeps me interested. Some more details: She just got out a LTR so probably still has feelings around that issue. Also I made the mistake of coming on too strong AFC style early on, eg. implied I wanted a relationship and that's pretty much when this shit talk started to happen. Shit test?

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PostPosted: Wed Nov 16, 2011 1:24 pm 
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This has become a bit of a sticking point for me, especially with this one HB9. We would be texting/flirting but she would occasionally say things like:
- Im a lost cause, forget about me
- Im incapable of feeling anything both pyshically and emotionally
- My heart died a long time ago
-Trust me im not worth it

Can anyone give some good responses for the above texts?

Sounds really bad, which it is. But MOST of the time she is happy and flirty which keeps me interested. Some more details: She just got out a LTR so probably still has feelings around that issue. Also I made the mistake of coming on too strong AFC style early on, eg. implied I wanted a relationship and that's pretty much when this shit talk started to happen. Shit test?
Stating you want a relationship is not AFC, as long as you understand the reason behind why you want one.. If your like like a lot of the guys that are just like " Help me get a girlfriend please".. Then its bad, because they're have no idea behind why they want one. If you're being honest and current you'll be fine..


And about the negative shit, tell her " you don't like it once or twice, and then ignore it. Just pretend shes texting you nice things all the time, and respond as if she say " haha your cool, I love you sebastian"

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PostPosted: Wed Nov 16, 2011 4:53 pm 
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Ok this situation's pretty bad. What you've done is entering with a friendzone ticket which gave you frontseat friendzone seats. What you said afterwards is that you do not want to be her emotional tampon (which is an excellent move) but you'll have to break rapport further. Chances are great she won't see you as a valuable option not even in the future.

"Trust me, I'm not worth it" is a simple way of not having to say no way I'm ever going to expose my precious vajayjay to you.

This is what I would do in your place:
If you ever reconsider going on a proper we be lovin' date with me, you've got my number. As for now you're not worth me. Bye.

And move on.


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PostPosted: Wed Nov 16, 2011 6:17 pm 
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These are all ways of saying "Im not interested". Sorry to say but it seems like you have known this girl for a long time, that is, you didnt just open her in a bar. It complicates things since if you havent generated enough interest for her to consider you yet, you probably wont.

If it would have been the first time you met I would have said that you hadnt built enough attraction and you should go for the next set.

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PostPosted: Thu Nov 17, 2011 5:56 am 
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If she's opening up to you like that she might go for it (unless you're in the friend zone). HOWEVER from my personal experience, it is a BAD IDEA to date girls who are emotionally unstable, have shitty self-confidence, etc. I dated one with serious issues and I ended up being pulled into a lot of drama, it wasn't worth it.


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