So I went out today with an oldfriend of mine.

Havent talked in years, maybe a hi here and there, but otherwise, nothing much.

Hit her up on facebook, got her number, asked to 'catch up'.

Met her, told her some stories (attraction mode), which included interesting things that happened at work, school, outside lifeetc.

Went into qualification, asked her what she does for fun, and got answers like:

School, assignments, work, school, assignments, work

She wants tobe a school teacher and doesnt know what she would teach, later she said maybe mathematics

There was not much silence in the first half of the meeting, i was doing lots of talking and she wasjust responding.

she had apparently little intersts in anything and had no highlights from her life to share. I asked her directly and directly for that. Nothing at all.

She wasstill smiling and responding well then.

The second half killed it all. Went to buy some bubble tea at a nearby place and there were lots of silence. I had no idea what to say, what to talk about. I felt like i was being really boring even though i tried to be entertaining and funny. How do you guys just let loose and make a girl laugh non stop?

Im not a naturally funny person so i really dont know how. its like many of the girls i meet, i have this problem, cant really seem to vibe and connect with them.

Help pleasE?

being that i've always been a natrual charismatic i can only shed but so much light on this situation..

Actually, I went out with a girl the other day an had a similar problem for the first hour, and i realized the two things i was doing wrong.. It was a double date my boy has set me up on.. its 2 girls at his house and me.. As he left me and this girl alone so he could go bang his girl the awkwardness began.. And what i realized was, I was too concerned with getting in her pants as quick as possible. I didnt care about her, her life or anything about her, I just wanted some pussy/kiss/sexual contact. I also began to talk about things like school/work which is always a dead end..

The moment in my head im like " fuck this, i'll just call up one of my other girls tonight, i don't want to sleep with this chick anymore" Boom we began to hit it off. Her friend has told me, she's still stressed over an ex boyfriend from a few days ago, and i tried not bringing it up, but the moment i stopped caring, im like "so what happened with this guy" and that was exactly the emotional spark she needed to begin to hit it off with me..

With women, you have to find something emotional to talk to them about, something they have an emotional tie to that you can relate to them on.. Make the interaction about connecting with her emotionally and not about getting a kiss or wutever physical contact you want.. This is why its best to have a few phone conversations before meeting up with a girl.. It saves all that awkward stuff

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hi fuze, thanks for your reply!

yeah, im guessing, its really my lack of emotional connection with her. What topics would you say to avoid in a convo? and how would you form that emotional connection without having to use negative topics (like breakups, death etcetc, you get my idea)

i will have to work my game then on being sincere in getting to know her etc...

Ask her about her first love.. Ask her about her First time riding a roller coaster, or how she learned to drive. Everyone has had emotional trouble learning to drive.. Talk about your experiences. Share stories... Ask her what shes passionate about... Basic stuff like that

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solid advice from Fuse on this one.

i would also like to add...

some people just don't have personalities.

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I think some people just don't know how to tap into their personality.. And thats when i come along, banana then split... and now they're angry bitter women --- you see? personality lol

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lmao!

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