Ok so first I'll admit that I have a problem. As an only child, I've been accustomed to getting unlimited and undivided attention whenever I want my entire life.

Now here's the situation that happens a lot. Whenever my girlfriend is having fun with friends or family, she'll give me a call as a seemingly thoughtful gesture. But she never seems to end her conversation with the 5 other friends/family around her to talk to me for awhile. (Needless to say I can't hear what multiple people around her are saying, especially over a phone). So she ends up talking to the people around her twice as much as she talks to me... WHILE SHE'S ON THE PHONE WITH ME. It makes me feel like I'm competing for her attention... which I NEVER lower myself to do. I simply wait for her to initiate conversation with me.

Then when I don't say much, she acts like she wants to hang up and go talk to her friends/family she's with instead. Simply because, as she puts it, I'm "not saying anything." And that frustrates the hell out of me, because that is due to the fact that she's not asking me any questions or saying anything of conversational substance! So then I start getting pissed at her and start a fight. I've had great phone calls with her ALONE, but not with other people around her.

Is it just me, or is the entire purpose of a phone call to find a quiet spot and have a ONE-ON-ONE conversation with the person you call?

If not, then can I get some tips on handling this situation better? I know I'm not handling these situations like an alpha male, but I would like to.

Next time it happens say, "I can tell you're busy, I'll talk to you later." and hang up.


She'll either stop doing it, or she'll get mad at you. If she gets mad just tell her that when she's with her friends, she's with her friends. When you are with her or talking to her you get her undivided attention or else she doesn't get your attention at all.

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I like that. It turns the tables and makes her want to earn MY attention. Very smart idea. And she'll most likely get mad lol. She's that type... but she's amazing in bed xD