So I met this girl 3 months ago while pregaming for my friends Bday at his place. She was looking at me and I at her. Eventually a friend and I approached her and her friend, we talked for a bit as a group. She was kind of quiet but it came up that we liked the same bar that plays 80's n 90's music, so i said we'll go there later and she agreed. The 4 of us took a few shots, then she was off to stop by someone else's pregame, but was supposed to meet up with us at the club later. As she was leaving i made a comment about her leaving to drink someone elses liquor and we both laughed.

The bday boy got messed up, as they often do, but around 12. I convinced my friend to stop by the place where the hottie and i said we'd go later to see if she was going. It ended up being an early night and i didnt get to see her again.

She was on my mind 24/7 for a while after that and I kept asking my friend to get her out. I'm not sure if he's actually asking but nothing has happened. A month after the initial meeting i wrote her a msg on fb. no response. I sent her a friend request last friday (3 months after initial meeting) and she accepted. I sent her another message monday, saying i hate to contact her through FB and i would have asked her for her number if i knew i wasnt going to see her again.

I rarely chase because i dont want to lower my value, but at the same time you have to chase right? This girl is really hot and seems to be gf material.

Any ideas?

So what's the question?

It's been a month since the first meeting, how much do you think she remembers about you? Probably not much.

All of the sudden, she receives a message from you, then a friend request, then another message...If I was her, at that point I'd be thinking "Is this guy a psycho?"

There's a difference between "trying" and "chasing:. Chasing leads to desperation and that's what is happening with you.

What kind of message do you think you can send her through Facebook that will make her respond? I can't think of any right now...

If you can make your friend set up a group meeting or a party, maybe you have a chance, but even then, she'll probably be a bit cautious about you.

Sorry.

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what would you have done differently?
Maybe ask for her number before she left.

Typically if i met someone like that and talked to them they would want to meet again. I've had girls give me their number w/o asking by doing less. I thought this went well.

She was staring at me early on, we talked and laughed, found some things we had in common. Then accepting the friend request.

I'm thinking either she's one of those complicated girls (she's a 10 and single haha) or she's not into me which i would tell myself its the former to keep my confidence up haha.

Either way, no more messages haha. thanks for your help.

I still dont understand the chasing. Is there ever a time to?

You can chase a bit as long as you have confirmation that she's interested. That's not to say that you'll have to buy flowers and chocolates, but you can show a bit more interest if you feel she's into but it's not giving it up easily. At that point is more of a fun game than an actual quest. You know that at the end of the day you are going to get the girl no matter what so...

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not lookin so hot right now haha. i'm done chasing/trying until she shows some interest. on to the next for now