her: hi !

me: not you again


her: oh sorry
i'll go then.

me: awh pleaase dont leave me

That was a DLV, you wanted her to stay when she said she was going. She was fishing for an answer like that. What you should have probably done is say something like

"Bye "

That would have caught her off guard and in all likely hood, reply with something else which would place in you in a higher position.

The first part was good but obviously you lost the second part.

Instead, you should have reframed it into a frame where your social value was still higher than hers. Also, the frame should also set up the expectation that she is staying or set up a hoop for her to jump through.

"Don't tell me you came all this way and now you're not even going to get what you want from me."

"Damn! I didn't know I was so intimidating. Don't worry, you don't have to be so shy."

"The first sign of adversity and she runs away! Stick with me kid cause you need to learn to be brave from me."