Ok first post here so i'll try and be as clear and concise as possible.

Sat night - Met a 9/10, lots of IOI's took her number and suggested meeting up for a drink at a later date. I was pretty drunk, but she was too. Her friends liked me.

Sunday 14:45 - I send her a text message (SMS) as follows:

"Hey, it's stu the english guy from outside the manor, how did you pull up today?"

15:15 - i get a message back, reads like this:

"Hey didn't pull up to well haven't moved from my bed all day. How about you...How was the rest of your night?"

to which i replied at 16:30 with:

" Yeah been glued to the sofa all day too. Just headed home after meeting you guys and judging by the state of the kitchen started cooking! are you keen for meeting up for a drink next week?"

And then.......NOTHING. No reply and it's now Tuesday night.

So what went wrong? was it my reply. granted it's not the best text message i've ever sent but i wouldn't have thought it could do that much damage?! why would she reply initially if she wasn't interested?

how do i play this now? do i quit and save my pride or is it worth contacting her again?

i wouldn't care if she wasn't so damn fine!!

Lost cause I`d say, move on.

hey. firstly it doest look good at all trying to make the girl remember you from the night before in the first text. you can do this by referring to her by a nickname that you gave her when you were getting her number so that when you start of the text with the nickname e.g. Hey Ms Phish Face lol, she will instantly remember who called her that and will get her in the happy frame of mind that you put when you guys met. its good to ask a question in the first text but asking closed-ended questions which only require less than 4 words to answer doesnt get anywhere, try and use more open-ended questions so that you have more to work with and connect with her.

it also doesnt look good by telling her that you're clued to the sofa the whole day. show her that you are active, full of energy and busy doing loads of stuff.

but the most important point to make is that i think you asked her out way too soon without building any attraction or rapport in the text messages. getting a girl's number doesnt guarantee a date, no is it a trophy. it's a link between the first interaction and the second, and you have to make the most out of the opportunity.

also if a girl is responding to your texts constantly, its obvious that she is keen on you so there is no need to ask her, assume that she is already interested. the way to ask a girl out is by 'OFFERING' not asking permission, never ask "Do you want to go out tonight?" or "will you go out with me?" or "so what time are you free tomorrow?". They are all questions which AFCs do. they make a guy sound needy, desperate, dependent on doing something with her.

it's best to sound more dominant e.g. "Let's meet up for a drink. How about we meet at PLACE at TIME on DAY". this shows that you are taking charge and want to take the lead. and this way you are assuming that she is interested in you which is better than appearing unsure. making a date is like making a business deal, you show the product, you know that they like it and you're giving them a chance to invest in it.

in this case, try again with the tips from above, if nothing happens, move on.

hope that i have helped. happy gaming dude

@Mickeyjackson21

Thanks for the pointers dude. I'm kicking myself now because everything you've said is bang on.

how does this sound for the message i'm about to send her

"so you've got your phone fixed and now you're ready to meet up so you can discover how much of a fun guy i am to be around."


Yay/nay?

Nay. this message would show that you're trying too much to qualify yourself and you're desperate to meet up.

you have to text her something that she enjoyed talking to you about when you guys met, something that you teased/negged her about. the idea is to get her into the good feeling frame of mind.

another idea is that if you have the contact details of the girl's friends, you could build rapport with them because you know that they like you, invite all of them out including the girl and build more attraction and rapport.

unfortunately i didn't really speak to her long enough to play any game. neither do i have her friends contact details.

last ditch attempt.....

"hey Alana....hope you've been keeping out of mischief this week!? got big plans for the weekend?"

that message is ok. but instead of asking the closed-ended question at the end, ask something more open like "what have you been up to?" or one which i like to use "What monkey business have you been doing".