I get what you're saying....I should have handled it differently.

I didn't reply to her last message "You think you're so cool blah blah blah"

I dont know if I should bother texting her anything right now tho..her last text was like 45 minutes ago...so I feel like that opportunity has passed, and I fucked it up.

i DM'd u bro

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i got it...sent you one back too...i appreciate the help from everyone that contributed so far with this thread

Great Thread. Lots of Good advice.

I am going through something similar. The girl I love who is my mistriss has left me cause she loves me too much and needs more of me than I can give her. She cut me off intimately so I cut the friendship. She emailed me a half dozen times telling me she loves me and that I broke my promise never to leave her as she would never leave me but still insisted that our break up is hard to deal with. She did not hint at any type of alternative to get us back to where we were. She has been the best fuck of my life. It's been over 2 weeks since I heard from her after I made it clear that we should not be contacting each other.

I have been advised to stick to my guns and not contact her and wait for her to call. She has yet to call. We also work together but have not been together since the break. She is scheduled to return on the weekend of thanksgiving to replace me while I go out on vacation for a week.

I have been in contact with other workers who have been contacting her and letting me know what she is doing. Initially she emailed and said she was crying but with no indication that this break up is wrong. I found out that she went to a woman's church group in Seattle for a retreat.

I miss her. She is hot, pretty and fun to be with.


This is so hard for me.


We used to fly places together in my airplane and love each other.

Any feedback it appreciated.

Struggling.

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Beautiful thread, Fuze has some very impressive advice. He definitely has the psychology behind female manipulation down packed. I'll make sure I take this advice, this happens to me a lot.

Keep up the good work!

Keep posting if you can, i'd like to his how this pans out.

Reading this is a very insightful experience on how far you can push someone...
Keep up the good work lol

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I responding to you PM on here because i feel people could use this info...

honestly.. I don't know if you're ready for this, but she probably has messed with someone else and it didnt work out and thats why she realized she fucked up and came back to you the way she has... She's behaving like a woman thats done something wrong.. Idk if you've experienced this... Any woman thats done the right thing behind your back would of just left you alone by now and gave you the opportunity to come back to them.. This is what i was checking for... No offensive but your (nor am I lol) not that amazing of a guy for a chick to put up with this. especially if she has options like you said.. something was done. the emails were proof of her hidden agenda. Don't be so naive..

And hanging out with her this soon is out of the question unless you wanna repeat the same cycles you did the last time you were together.. And she certainly will lose respect for you if you try and take her back so soon. She'll be well behaved for a week, maybe two and then shes going to rip the pants off you ass and put them on her.
She has to breakdown and work for this if she's ever to appreciate you.

And so you say shes left you because she waiting for you to get your shit together? Everyone goes through rough times and low points so is she going to leave you every time you run into a road block? And you think that acceptable? You're making excuses for her lol.. thats pity.. sounds like she enjoyed the luxury of having extra money around more than she did you or the relationship.. materialism at its finest..

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you're not hurting my feelings my dude...i still feel like she had hopes to have something with the dude she e-mailed... but once we broke up, nothing came of it. The reason for this thinking, is she has an online journal thing called tumblr...Her "dirty laundry" that she doesn't air out on face book, she writes about on the journal.. One of her friends gave me the link so I could read something she wrote about me. So while I was reading that, I read some other recent entries, and it seems that things aren't working out the way she had planned, based on some of the entries..I mean, there was 2 about me...1 about her buying a vibrator...1 about her birthday that was coming up..and 1 talking about how she deserves this/that.. And aparently the people that she has friends on there, majority of them she doesn't even know in person...so, i dont know..Thats just my opinion. I could be wrong. You speak the truth about behaving like a woman thats done something wrong tho..so who knows.

I definitely hear you when you say "she has to breakdown and work for this if she's ever to appreciate you"

She really doesn't deserve anything from me at this point.. But, she's been a big part of my life for the past 3 years, so its kinda hard to just completely turn my back....regardless, I feel it is definitely getting under her skin, that I do not reply to her attempts of contact. So I can see one of two things happening. She's going to change and really try to come back.. Or she's going to get fed up and just stop all together.

And as stupid as it is, I didn't really look at it like "....so is she going to leave you every time you run into a road block?"

I was looking at it like, she felt like I wasn't trying hard enough to keep her, or to find work..so she decided to go.

I mean, my sister and her now husband went thru something similar..except he was a little in to drugs when they were younger.. But my sister left him because he was struggling to keep a job..Her philosophy, "let me make him think he's guna lose me forever and see how much he really values our relationship, and see what he's going to do to get it back."
Couple months later he done had his shit together, and they got back together..they been together for about 10 years since, married for 4.

That may not be going on in my situation....But I've seen it happen.. And since I don't have personal experience with this particular situation at hand, that does play itself as somewhat of a reference point..something I can look at, see the similarities, and compare it to. I could be wrong tho.


Thanks for the reply, Fuze

motown,

to be honest with you, i quit reading this thread days ago, because it seems like every time you type a response you seem to be justifying the behavior of this girl.

if you are so okay with her behavior, why freeze her out?

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I agree with mac.... You respect and love her more than you do yourself. You don't believe you can get another woman equally good or better do you?

Even if then, the other guy took his woman back after leaving he still let her dominate the relationship.

If you want to see if what i said was correct, go on and do as you wish. Its your choice anyway.

However.. I will not be responding the the post in a week saying " omg what do i do1? shes acting all bitchy" lol

i was interesting helping you bro.. i hope it all works out.

Just something to think about.... You can't make up 3 years in one week of ignoring. The difference in time frame is far to mass. You would have to give it at least a month, maybe two.

I should get paid for this shit haha.. keep in touch bro

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I do believe I can, and will find a better woman.

I have been following your advice..I'm still learning

She texted me asking about mail..but before I replied she called.

Her: Hey whats up?
Me: Not too much
Her: Oh that's cool..I'm about to goto class...Um..is there any mail?
Me: Yeah, actually, theres a couple things, and a bike.
Her: What kind of mail is there?
Me: The kind from the post office
Her: haha okay, well I'll talk to you later
Me: alright, seeya


Then like 2 minutes after hanging up she texted me saying..

Her: Have a nice life doing whatever your doing nowadays
Me: Check your attitude, and be sure you're personable when you come pick up your mail and bike

LOL @ the bolded part.

that's the part where you PICKED UP THE PHONE AND TALKED TO HER.

freezeouts don't work that way.

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Guys, please don't give up on this case. I would love to learn something new!

ty

What? why? she did not say anything with an attitude.. lol that wasn't smart

I said tell her you already fowarded the mail dude..


try not to answer her calls anymore.. i got some advice.. get a new profile pic on facebook and create a new voice mail message for your phone(sound happy and think of something cool to say).. It give the appearance your making changes.

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Sounds like you`re dealing with a man-eater.