Hey.. I could sure use your help on my text-problem, but don`t want to double post, maybe you could take a look?
On the same mid-game subforum as this, subject: "Retrieving a girl10er with a boyfriend from 1. /2. base"

Nice work on the other texts..

thanks don draper for the previous answer, i have another question now.
i dated a girls and we met three times....we just kissed and touched nothing more....everything was going allright and last time i met her we agreed to meet againg in a week.....after that i texted her and called her but she didn't anwer.She didn't answer two of my textes and two of my calls in a whole week so after that i decided not to contact her again......it's been three weeks since i don't see her and now i'd like to contact her again.
We were never been friends on facebook before so i'd like to add her (i don't know her last name and probably she doesn't know mine).
I'd like to send her a text and tell her to add me or give me her surname so i can add her.
what do you think is the best line to write to create interest (think about that previously she wanted to add me) and make her accept that.
I would write like this:
Hi, it's been a while, how are you ? i was thinking that we spoke about adding each others but we never did......add me my name is "xxxxxxx xxxxxxx" or give me your full name so i can add you.see you soon.
My line might be ok but doesn't create a lot of interest.....if you have a better one let me know....thanks don.

Hey Don,

This situation might look very familiar to you, but couldn't find anything similar on the forum. Feeling a bit silly writing this, but any help would really be appreciated!

I met this girl who I picked up as a hitchhiker. That same night we went to a street festival. To keep things short we started texting and went for a date, which was fun. From that moment onwards things started to get long-winded. Initially after the date she didn't return my phonecall, but kept on sending text messages. Two weeks ago she went on a holiday and said she would get back to me after she comes back. This Friday I responded to one of her texts: " Fairly good thanks, lets figure out a time to meet, how is early next week looking for you?" Whereafter she took two days to reply and said "Am so glad you are doing good, so I am, currently freaking out about my time management. my life consists out of school, work and finding a new place to stat.but we should def. meet up soon!x"

Normally I would take a busy as a not interested. But this certain situation leaves me confused. Any tips if and what to send back?

Thanks a lot for your help!

Glad to hear you are taking my words positively.

Good luck ahead.

You need to freeze her out for some time, preferably a month or so. Regain your perspective. You don't want to be her "buddy", do ya? You need to understand that pick up is a failure with kino-escalation.

Hey Don Draper, I gotta say, this thread has been pretty useful. I hate having to ask for help but I think I need one right now.

basically, went on a couple of dates with this girl and we've been texting all the time - expect after the second date which wasn't very good, we slowed down with the whole texting. Yesterday she txted me a random message and I text her this:

me - Something pretty crazy happened to me yesterday
HB- ahhh, and what would that be ??
me- call me. I'll tell you

2 hours later, without a response, I txt her again

me- anyways, what are you up to ?
HB-sorry I couldnt call you, I'm just out with some friend at the mall. you ?
me- had lunch with a friend and I'm running some errands now. Let's meet for a quick coffee later on?
HB-My friends bday tonight so told her I'd be her date


What's the best way to follow up now ?
should I txt her tomorrow and be like "You sure are a busy girl. Well I'm a busy guy too so tell me a day where you can meet me up, and we'll figure something out" ? or should I just txt her something right now.

thanks in advance

You mentioned that i should freeze her for a month to regain my perspective.
Given now that i've begins light kino on her should i still freeze ?
As she will text me from time to time.. should i like ignore her and slow in response (as u advise in the previous post we shouldn't let the conversation down)

here's the text she sent to me
She: am i a good company ?
me : to who ?
she : to you !
she: coz i thought im a boring girl


what should i reply ? i thought of replying this
me : yea u r a boring girl but when u r with me u r a happy girl :p


thanks again Don !

Is this a good text to send a girl for the first time? I was kissing and dancing with her 3 nights ago, rather sexual touching. She's a friend of a friend.

"Some girl with birthday badges danced like a mess on Fri! She was all over me. Who was she? NAME x"

She had the birthday badges on btw, and wasn't half as drunk as saying 'mess' implies.

Wait wait wait.

So, you are telling me that you were "kissing and dancing with her 3 nights ago,rather sexual touching" and you didn't initiate contact till three days after the encounter.

Wow, that is funny is a very stupid way.

You get a woman to that high a temperature and then you let her completely freeze off for three days. I don't even know what to say here. You had to contact her within 36 hours at maximum. And don't give me the "I was busy" excuse 'cause it no longer holds valid in a social scene dominated by micro-blogging and social networking sites.

You already did the hard work, which got you the kiss. You had to just make quick contact, create comfort, ask her out and close the deal.

It was just a case of "Fast Escalation, Faster Close".

Now, you've basically reset-ted the whole pick-up. Open her with a neutral message, something like "Hey, something made me think of you today.." to gauge her interest levels and depending on that you can lead the conversation.

Good luck.

P.S. Next time, you make the contact anywhere from the next morning to the day after night. Comprende?

Wait wait wait.

So, you are telling me that you were "kissing and dancing with her 3 nights ago,rather sexual touching" and you didn't initiate contact till three days after the encounter.

Wow, that is funny is a very stupid way.

You get a woman to that high a temperature and then you let her completely freeze off for three days. I don't even know what to say here. You had to contact her within 36 hours at maximum. And don't give me the "I was busy" excuse 'cause it no longer holds valid in a social scene dominated by micro-blogging and social networking sites.

You already did the hard work, which got you the kiss. You had to just make quick contact, create comfort, ask her out and close the deal.

It was just a case of "Fast Escalation, Faster Close".

Now, you've basically reset-ted the whole pick-up. Open her with a neutral message, something like "Hey, something made me think of you today.." to gauge her interest levels and depending on that you can lead the conversation.

Good luck.

P.S. Next time, you make the contact anywhere from the next morning to the day after night. Comprende?

All right, I went and read your post.

Now to your message..

"Hey, didn`t actually plan on texting you because of the whole "boyfriend thing" after I walked you home from B81 . But what can I say, I`m to curious to help it. So, how`s it going? "

The biggest mistake is to bring up her "boyfriend situation". I mean I cannot even begin to understand that after all the hand holding and the kissing what would prompt a guy to bring up the one single thing that would nuke your chances with her.

You do not need to remind her of her relationship status. She knows of it, and yet she kisses you. That should mean that she was interested in you enough. And you should have built on that.

And then you offering her "help" to deal with it? That just makes no sense whatsoever. Look, you need to keep your priorities limited to yourself. Stop making decisions for her and stop thinking about her life.

I think you had a great chance here and all you needed to say was "I had a wonderful time with you tonight." that night and move on to normal attraction and comfort building processes. But, I think you ruined this opportunity.

Well, we always can learn from our mistakes.

Good luck.

Man, I was pretty stunned that I managed to get kissing in the club. That's the first time I have ever managed that. I'm new to this stuff.

Damn I thought for once maybe I was properly getting somewhere.

I'll try going in with something more neutral then.

You are of course right! Not well thought through text. The reason I posted it is that I realized the mistake when it was to late, and looking for the best possible 2.nd text to send that can maybe salvage the pieces. Got a good idea?