Hey there, well recently I met this girl online and we've gone on 3 dates, think we've really hit it off so far but I dunno where this is going or if I wanna keep it going. The dates have been really good, this weekend for example she wore this sexy tight ass black dress and we went out to different clubs and wound up in this martini bar where i had my fingers up underneath that dress by the end of the night. We wind up making out in my car almost doing it and then went back to sleep at her parents house which was close by. I had to sleep alone on a couch in the basement by the way. So yesterday she's texting me and I was sleeping since we were out late the night before.

She lives about an hour away and the she was telling me after she gets comfortable(about 3 dates) she'll start coming my way to hang out/spend weekends. So yesterday she was like, I think you're gonna have to drive to me a few more times because I don't think you're over your ex. Like WTF, I did mention her a few times in our conversation, but it was basically because she was asking me questions where the answer had something to do with her. I was even referring to my ex as "an old friend" rather than saying my ex or her name lol. But since I was asleep I didn't reply to these texts or her call right away so she sends me one to say we're done! I get up and see this and text her back something like sorry I was sleeping, don't just jump to conclusions and we talk a little bit and all's cool again. But I dunno what to do. I am just back in the game following a breakup this summer. I like her but also wanna see what else is out there while working on improving my game. Any good advice?

Personally, for me, that's a red flag. Getting your attention by threatening.

Now, what you have to do is make sure what you want, a relationship or not.
You know her, you know how she acts, do you want it?

And make her invest if you want one. Make her drive to you, cause that's a crap excuse! If she really fucking likes you, it shouldn't be too big of a problem getting in the car and drive an hour.

If you want to taste the world, have sex with her and move on...

The ball is in your court. Chose wise

Yeah, I'm not sure what I want either and that's the problem. The pussy side of me wants a serious relationship and all that jazz but that's how it was with the ex and at some point I became her bitch and stopped having fun then she kicked me to the curb.
I like the game, I think it's fun and like challenges. Like I've been mostly just messaging random girls online, but wanna try and get out to some local hotspots like the casino and try and work some magic. I'm afraid of hurting this girl's emotions if I do her and kick her to the curb..Decisions, decisions...

You don't sound ready for a relationship.

This can be good experience to see if you can get her to come visit, but if you can't easily get somewhere to enjoy a girl's company (and I don't think of an hour long drive as easy) you should just shrug it off as a failed ONL and move on. I'm not saying you can't try to tease her into coming to see you, but your expectations are off.

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she sounds fucking nuts.

what else is new?

they all are.

you should've texted back:

"sorry, i've been a bad boy, don't drive over here and punish me!"

LOL, you would be okay, unless she showed up with a huge metal-studded strap-on...at which point...lock the fucking doors!

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Ahhh had her going near psycho last night. She wanted to video chat with me online but I had some things I needed to get done like food shopping then I decided to stop out for a bite to eat before I went home. Get her sending this bitchy texts like "you always go out" and then she's bringing up me talking about the ex again. I dunno how good of a reply this was, but I replied to her that I'm a grown man who needs to take care of myself(she lives w her parents) that's why I'm out and I'm not gonna sit around my apartment by myself like a loser. She was eventually apologetic and was asking me for advice on whether she was gonna come see me this weekend. I was just like, you do what you gotta do, it's up to you. I went to see you at your house twice so I'd say it's time. Messaged me this morning and said she's probably gonna come up here.

But you're right, I dunno about this distance thing. I live in a smaller city so there's places to go and women to meet who are a lot closer. In a way I like the space, but I dunno, the driving kinda sucks. It's not like there's many winner guys around here so if I develop some better game, I can have some good options. She's talking about changing the relationship on facebook, which I'm not ready for. She's saying she deletes her plenty of fish account once I put on there in a relationship...fuck

Your replies are fine. But I'll repeat, your expectations are off. Why in the world would you want a relationship with a girl who is not easily accessible and who holds you hostage when she doesn't get what she wants?
^^^ This should be your priority. How can you fully appreciate a relationship if you aren't confident you can go out and get something else if things don't work out? Otherwise, you're just dependent on your relationship, and you are easy to hold hostage (as above).

There are beautiful women all over the place who will manipulate your fear of losing the relationship with them. They make the worst girlfriends. Avoid.

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She is crazy.

Just cause she apoligizes doesn't clear her craziness.

Just because you write her a non-afc text back doesn't mean she is no longer crazy.

Get me drift? She is crazy. Crazy bitches do crazy things. Watch out. I would not date her anymore. She will take you on a roller coaster of emotion. You will become addicted to the highs and lows and then you will be trapped.

Fuck her a few times and leave her. But be ready for an explosive backlash when you break it off. I speak from experience with crazy folks.

I agree with most all of what's been said. She, in my opinion, sounds batshit crazy and like she will literally throw a temper tantrum if she doesn't get what she wants. She sounds pretty crafty and like she's been around the block.

Basically, don't let her push you around and know where your line is and what you want beforehand. This girl's a veteran at being a manipulative bitch. You can just tell when they start playing those games with you.

If it's just sex you want, aim for that and let her know that's what it's about.
If it's a relationship you want, examine carefully what it is you want from the relationship and whether or not you're ready to deal with her bullshit full time.

There's my two cents. Just do you, man.

I kept the conversation to a minimum today. Texted her while working, but wasn't so urgent to reply to her texts. Went to visit my mom after work and told her that, so that got me out of talking on the phone(usually a good hour or 2) tonight. I really don't want to get into an LTR with her but I feel if I hang out with her anymore or go for the F-close that's what's gonna happen. My pussy side will give in because I naturally don't want to hurt a girl. Another big killer is that she really has no interest in watching sports with me. I am a sports nut and not wanting to change that for any girl. I mean, maybe cut back on how much I watch, but Sundays are NFL time and I at least want a girl that could pretend to like it with me and wear a cute jersey. I have a feeling I'll be getting bitched out about watching that next.

Well for those who are actually following or even care, she's coming to see me later today and stay the night. I'm honestly not to crazy about it(actually went on a date last night which was horrible..girl was a lot bigger than I thought she was and verrrry boring). This one's been a pain in the ass, always about details, keeps texting me and asking how to get to my place and saying how she's nervous about driving WTF like just call me if you can't find it. But I haven't said this yet, she told me that she's on meds for psychotic episodes. I'm worried if this girl don't take her meds she might kill me. Thinking this weekend could be an F-bomb and dump it weekend, especially since I do have some cuties I'm working on.

You're irritated attracted already...
Don't let your pussy-side drag you along an adventure you actually don't want.
But fuck her

Glad that's over! She stayed the night here and she was so fucking annoying, bossing me around and waking up early in the morning and being annoying as hell trampling around my apartment and leaving all kinds of lights on. Boned her twice so got what I wanted..gonna roll into ignore mode and work on other hotties!

She was also kind of disappointed when she asked me if I was her boyfriend and I told her no!

Glad it's over for you!

She's the kind push and pull and those are the worst manipulative bitch.