I don't think we are more than any other generation before us. In previous generations the kids barely knew their father. He was head honcho, king of the house, but was to be left mostly undisturbed at home. Where did this idea that we are all worse off because we were raised by women come from?

I've never felt that anything my mother told me hindered my ability to have sex with as many women as I liked. If anything it was a bonus having sisters and an attentive mother. I learned from a very young age what women like talking about.

Does everyone feel that their mothers prevented success with women? My mum used to drive me to football practice where I got in shape, gave me money in my early teens which I used to by booze and meet women, taught me heaps of valuable life lessons, and although my mother and I disagree on almost every single issue be it politics or the way I choose to live my life, she hasn't stopped me doing it.

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La Dolce Vita.

you're assertion is incorrect.

in previous generations, we may have been "raised" (technically) by our mothers, while our father was away.

BUT (this is a HUGE BUT, BTW)

we were raised:

in our FATHER'S house

under our FATHER'S rules

within our FATHER'S moral beliefs and guidelines

taught to appreciate the food our FATHER provided

under threat of having our asses whooped when FATHER got home (if we got out of line)

MAKE NO MISTAKE,

just because daddy wasn't home all the time, didn't mean he wasn't a HUGE PRESENCE IN THAT HOME!

now, men may be around or they may not, but they are usually mere little boys:

- playing video games
- subjugating themselves to women
- doing the housework, cooking, cleaning, laundry

IT'S PATHETIC.

we were better off with a strong father in our lives.

the women were better off that way as well.

look how society has spiraled out of control in the "politically-correct" absence of unapologetically strong MALE ROLE MODELS.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

It hindered my ability because my mom is Catholic and being sexual or talking about sexual things was taboo in my home. My father neglected me and never told me how to treat women. Plus he is a pretty insecure man. Because of this I turned into an AFC. My older siblings and mom teased me just for liking a girl from school which is common for brothers and sisters to do but they did it over and over and over. It was to the point where it became bullying than just teasing. All the neighbor kids were in on it too. :/ Needless to say it shattered my self-esteem.

Catholic families have a way of making you feel ashamed of your body and sexual desires. I'm glad I'm smarter now and realize how stupid it is.

Yes, we all have things holding us back.

The absence of a father figure can be both good and bad depending on how the father was, and how the mother was.

At least, if you start digging in your past you can identify the things that hold you back and work on them.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

This is pretty much how I was raised and I'm 31. Has that much changed really?

My father didn't teach me anything to do with picking up women. I'm not really sure how having the threat of him coming home to kick my ass helped out.

well when u say catholic...im guessing u mean irish catholic...
the whole of latin america is catholic pretty much and we all know their attitude towards sex...and france and italy...
in otherwords they aint backward at comming forward...
for some reason irish catholics are the ones with the real fucked up attitude towards sex...i know what u mean exactly
and they wonder where all those peado priests came from...
at the end of the day though
you gotta say
its my life
fasmily and people around me may wanna keep me in this fucking box
but i aint gonna let them
cos all the beliefs they stick on you really its u allowing yourself to be played by them
ur ego
your caring about loosing face infront of them
cos of their reactions and name calling
u gotta say to yourself
now
it dont mean shit what any fucker thinks of me or says to me
i control my own fucking life
if i continue to be controlled i have no fucking life..no freedom...and am not a man
if u believe in God u will know that God is fuck all to do with bullshit religions
your put here to live how u see fit
so fuck everyone else
and
live
or fucking die a bitch

interesting responses. why do you need a strong father figure to get girls naked?
mine has certainly never been there giving me tips.

If anything has really held people back it's probably that bullshit liberal notion of telling all your kids they're wonderful and can do anything. So they don't actually put the effort in and don't do any real self improvement. That said, I'm no really able to give a fair assessment, I've never had any problems with fucking girls, just connecting with them after the sex.

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La Dolce Vita.

it depends on who the mother is...as already pointed out..
some mothers are real liberal...some are real conservative
then u got different cultural influences depending on religion and bullshit
but the overlying discussion is in generall does being brough up by women fuck guys up in relation to fucking women
I would say overall YES
As we all know mothers, mostly, educate sons to be nice guys...even though sons see their fathers as bad guys or assholes or absent arseholes
sons hear their mothers bang on about how bad men are in general...
this leads to a generation of AFC's
male but not men..basically castrated emotionally
cos u cant be a man without being a bastard
so u wind up repressing ur masculinity to fit this straigh jacket that this society put onto you...
women think they are raising good guys but really they are raising nice guys, and repressed guys...who sometimes explode.
this is where this whole PUA community has materialised out of..
because there is a need for it
guys do not know how to fuck women because they have been the ones getting fucked by them..not deliberatley but still.

spot on

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

I guess all those points are valid if the guy doesn't have enough back bone to stand up to his parents at a young age and tell them they are wrong. But surely that was an inherent problem that already existed in these guys from birth or a very very young age, reinforced at school and home. I can't remember a time in my life where I trusted my parents over my own observations.

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La Dolce Vita.

...if the guy doesnt have enough back bone to stand up to his parents at a young age???


What? Really? You jokin bro??? How old are you?


Everytime I stood up to my parents, at a young(er) age, and told them they were wrong, I'd either get a back hand, sent to my room, get shit taken from me for a period of time, or grounded and not allowed to go out.

So did I, but I just ignored them and went out anyway and eventually left home when I was 16, they eventually apologized and we're really tight now. But I never listened to them just because they were my parents. I'm 23 now and we're good friends because I never let them be my boss

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La Dolce Vita.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but if I'm right, research found that, the better the relationship is with your mother (or your parents in general), the more unconditional love you got from them. If you have a healthy portion of unconditional love from your parents, you will be more happy and confident in life, and less needy for love. Factors needed to start a healthy relationship or to get interest from women.

So it depends: were you parents only shitting on you? Were they only nice if you got good grades at school? Did they never understand you, never interested in you, or never let you do your thing? Chances are you're a fucked up person and bad with women.

If your parents were caring, understandible, warm, supportive and reasonable, chances are you are much more confident in life and better with women.

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You WANT to make a change.
You CAN make a change.
You WILL make a change.

Ambitious to be succesfull => Shyler

my relationship with my parents has always been good but disagreeable. on everything.

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La Dolce Vita.

lol

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!