Hi guys

Well, there's a girls that I like. In our two first hanging outs we went to a discothèque. We were a little drunk and we ended up kissing each other all night long.

She's from my college class, and when we were together after that, I never talked with her about our flirt in that two nights.

Monday, was her birthday and after a birthday dinner, we all went to a discothéque. I was already thinking in having another night flirting with her. But unfortunatily, in the disco, she found a guy, who apparently was here ex-boyfriend or actual boyfriend, I don't know... She spent all night in a corner talking with him.

I felt so jealous, and angry that my first instinct was to punch the kid's face. She never told me about any boyfriend, never said anything about him. I asked to her best friend who was that guy... If was her boyfriend or ex-boyfriend. She told me to speak with her about it. Her friends were a little pissed off because she's talking to him. I didn't understand why. I was so furious, that I decided to leave the disco, before I did anything that I would regret me, like start a fight with the kid.

Now I don't know what to do:

-Should I talk with her about that guy? Should I ask her if he was her boyfriend?

-Should I talk again with her's best friend, about who's the boy? If I do it, the girl I'm interested in, will know that I like her. You know, the girls tell everything to each others, that could be inconvenient.

-Should I ignore that night, never talk with her about it, and continue to invite her to hanging out with me?

-Should I stay some days without say anything to her ?

I think that she knows that I became really pissed off in that night, after saw her talking with that guy. Her best friend saw my reaction, so probably told her about it. Like I said, girls tell everything to each others. So, she probably knows that I'm interested in her....That could be bad for me..
I don't know what to do. I really like the girl and I want to have a relationship with her. But right know I'm a little lost...Please give me your opinions about it
Thanks

.... You fucked up. You lost your cool and lost the game.
Next this one.

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Hmm In fact I didn't talk with her since that, so I don't know how she'll react when sees me, but I don't think I fucked up. In fact she didn't realise that I became jealous when she was talking with the other prick...Well maybe her friend told her about my reaction but that doesn't mean anything.
Now, maybe she thinks that I'm interested in her, so if I ignore her for a couple of days, eventually she'll find it strange and will text me or something.

Lucky is kind of right, ya kind of fucked up this one. Once a girl sees her actions effect you emotionally it's kind of game over. There's absolutely nothing wrong with a girl knowing you like her, in fact, after the initial stage she should think that you do like her because that's how you show she's qualified herself as a mate to you; however, a girl should never know how much you like her. If she knows that her talking to her ex really upsets you, she now knows you really, really like her. Ya might have fucked this one up.

The best thing you can do to try to make it work is to never bring it up. It never happened and you don't care. Don't ask her about the guy cause you were too busy having fun to even notice him. It may be lost at this point, but who knows.

Yep, I agree.

If you can't bring yourself to next it, don't, under any circumstances, bring the incident up yourself. There is about a 95% chance that she will tell you anyway. If/when she does, keep a straight face.

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Today I met her in the college. She text me in the morning saying that today she was going to the classes. No one of us said anything about that night. Everything seems fine like was before. Maybe her best friend didn't tell anything to her about my reaction..

Does it matter if she knows you like her? Erm no.. You were kissing her all night you said, so i think its pretty obvious anyway mate..

It's not all over, she texted you.. but dont take it for granted that she would have texted you, you cant just sit back and wait for her to do it all, this time she did text you but next time if you wait for a girl to text you in this situation, they may not do it and your still waiting and waiting, and nothings happening..

You gotta progress now dude, just stay in there and bang that chick

If you're insecure enough to get mad over something like this, you don't deserve this girl because your inner game can't even handle a healthy relationship.

Why run from it? You're a caveman. . . so go with it. Next time you see her, wear your loin cloth and a road kill over your shoulder. Then you say to her, "Me Cave man. Me want to Fucky Fucky you." Then you take your club over her head and drag her ass back to your cave. Then you have your way with her. Simple.

What you seek isn't a relationship but a slave. If it doesn't work out with this one, you might find some comfort in seeking a relationship with zoo animals. Although I gotta warn you. Sometimes zoo animals will seek comfort from other animals other his/her owner.

Honestly bro i was once in your position. It is our first instinct as men to blame the other guy. After getting some strong inner game i realized how stupid i was. Honestly alot of women are like this. They make out with you one night and all is great, then the next night with some other guy. This is one of her many games. First the question you have to ask yourself is this the type of girl you want to be with? You simply have oneitis. If you truely want to pursue this girl I would use the cat string theory. Next time you go out open some sets. Let her see you open and do your magic. She will then just turn into another HB competing for your attention. If she feels that she fucked up by talking to some old flame she will see that she messed up and work hard to get your string If not and it doesnt worked hey buddy you just opened up a few sets and meet some new HBs

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So.... are you making any more progress with her or what?

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Like I said in the other thread (she-cheated-her-boyfriend-with-me-twice-vt121499.html) :

After this night, we hung out serveral times, having coffee together, lunch etc. I had the feeling that she likes me. In the day that I was going to tell her that I like her, she text me saying that she have a BF and he doesn't like that I'm always texting her, etc etc. After that I ignored the guy and proceeded with the game. We continue to do the same routines as we did before. In the last weeks I felt that she is distant with me. I asked her why she's getting away from, and she said that she isn't, but she have a BF and more friends besides me, and can't always be with me. After that I'm giving her some distance. I think that she's divided between me and BF, but she said to me that she knows what she wants (her BF, that she cheated). Maybe the best thing to do is forget the girl, but I have feelings for her and I'm not the kind of guy who give up so easily.

Good for her

I might sound like a harsh bastard, but youve got some growing to do as a person before you a ready for a healthy relationship.

From what Ive seen here I dont think youre at all ready yet.

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Why not?

Her BF is a kid with 18 years old. He's even younger than her. If I'm not ready for a healthy relationship, will be a kid 3 years younger than me?